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Eightysomethings: A Practical Guide to Letting Go, Aging Well, and Finding Unexpected Happiness

Eightysomethings: A Practical Guide to Letting Go, Aging Well, and Finding Unexpected Happiness

by Katharine Esty PhD


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**Winner of the American Book Fest Best Book Award in "Health: Aging/50+"**

This invaluable guide will help the historical number of eightysomethings live fulfilled, happy lives long into their twilight years. Personal stories illustrate how real people in their eighties are living and how they make sense of their lives.

Old age is not what it used to be. For the first time ever, most people in the United States are living into their eighties. The first guide of its kind, Eightysomethings changes our understanding of old age with an upbeat and emotionally savvy view of the uncharted territory of the last stage of life. With insight and humor, Dr. Katharine Esty describes the series of dramatic and difficult transitions that eightysomethings usually experience and how, despite their losses, they so often find themselves unexpectedly happy.

Living into one’s eighties doesn’t have to mean declining health and loneliness: Dr. Esty shows readers how to embrace—and thrive during—the later stages of life. Based on her more than 120 interviews around the country, Esty explores the lives of ordinary eightysomethings—their attitudes, activities, secrets, worries, purposes, and joys. Esty adds her wisdom and perspective to this multi-dimensional look at being old as a social psychologist, a practicing psychotherapist, and as an eighty-four-year-old widow living in a retirement community.

Eightysomethings is a must-read for people in their eighties, and also for their families. Adult children—often bewildered by their aging parents—need a wise guide like Eightysomethings to help them navigate their parents’ last stage of life with real-world guidelines and conversation starters. Readers, young and old alike, will find this first-of-its-kind book eye-opening, comforting, and filled with practical tips.

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Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781510743120
Publisher: Skyhorse
Publication date: 09/10/2019
Pages: 240
Sales rank: 444,168
Product dimensions: 6.00(w) x 9.10(h) x 0.90(d)

About the Author

Katharine Esty is a social psychologist, a practicing psychotherapist, a writer, and a change agent. She is the author of Workplace Diversity: A Manager’s Guide to Solving Problems and Turning Diversity into a Competitive Advantage, The Gypsies: Wanderers in Time, and Twenty-Seven Dollars and a Dream: How Muhammad Yunus Changed the World and What It Cost Him. The mother of four sons, she is focused on creating a new understanding of possibilities for living into old age. Esty, eighty-four, lives in a retirement community outside of Boston.

Table of Contents

Introduction v

1 I Am Not Old! 1

2 Health Matters: Five Coping Styles 11

3 Upside Down Parenting 21

4 Holding On and Letting Go 29

5 Friends 39

6 Love and Sex 47

7 Grandparenting 59

8 Caregivers 69

9 A Shrinking World 77

10 Past, Future, and Present 85

11 Dementia 95

12 Transitions 105

13 Survivor Skills 115

14 How Their Kids See Them 125

15 Spirituality 135

16 Approaching Death 145

17 Unexpectedly Happy 155

18 Aging Wisely 163

19 The Lucky Generation 173

20 A New Vision of Old Age 183

Author's Notes 194

Acknowledgments 195

Appendix I 197

Appendix II 199

Endnotes 207

Suggestions for Further Reading 215

References 217

About the Author 231

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