Do you feel as if you're held hostage by your own unpredictable emotions or those of the people around you? Do you feel exhausted and emotionally drained by demands on you and your time? Are you ready for a change but aren't sure how to begin? New York Times bestselling author Dr. Judith Orloff will help you gain happiness, serenity, and mastery over the negativity that pervades daily life. Complete emotional freedom starts today.
The Emotional Freedom program will help you:
Identify your emotional type and understand your core strengths
Understand the unique toll emotions can have on your physical and spiritual health-and reprogram your biological and emotional responses to stress
Protect yourself from emotional vampires and stop taking on the stress and negativity of others
Transform negativity into courage, patience, connection, inner calm, hope, self-esteem, and compassion
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About the Author
Judith Orloff, M.D., assistant clinical professor of psychiatry at UCLA, has helped patients practice the art of surrender to achieve emotional freedom for more than two decades. She is the author of the New York Times bestseller Emotional Freedom and the bestsellers Positive Energy, Judith Orloff’s Guide to Intuitive Healing, and Second Sight. She has appeared on The Dr. Oz Show, the Today show, PBS, CNN, and NPR, and her TED talk debut of this book has over a half million views on YouTube. Find more information and inspiration at www.drjudithorloff.com.
Read an Excerpt
The path to emotional freedom: beginning to learn to love
Your life is about to get better.
I see great things in your future, a time when wishes come true.
All the notes you put in a bottle were found.
Right here, right now, consider: what do you wish for most? Is it happiness? Love? Less struggle? An unbumpable ticket to stress relief? As you’ll soon learn, the power is within you to achieve these. Or maybe you’ve completely sworn off wishing in response to a pile-up of disappointments. Of course, I’ve known that sentiment: “What’s the use?” Right? Wrong! Such woe-is-me resignation corners you in some godforsaken dead-end unfit for serenity. My determined hope is that you’ll give wishing for what’s wonderful another chance. There are moments when opportunities arise. This is one, the staking out of your emotional freedom. Freshly fallen snow, not a single footprint—the path of new beginnings. Your first steps are truly memorable. Don’t ever forget them. Let me tell you about mine.
The door to emotional freedom cracked open for me as a teenager in southern California. It was 1968. I was sixteen, a flower child in paisley crop tops, holey jeans, and leather combat boots or barefoot, heavily into the drug scene. My parents were frantic. They kept trying to get through to me, but I made that impossible. My rebellion wasn’t just against them but to save myself. Though Mother and Dad couldn’t have loved me more, I felt suffocated by their mainstream vision of who they thought I should be, what would make me happy. Jewish country clubs, “presentable” clothes, conservative friends . . . I didn’t think so. Some nights, I even slept in my beloved jeans (my mother despised them) to feel more free. At the same time, I didn’t want to be who I was—so sensitive, not quite of this world. Since childhood I’d experienced many intuitions and dreams that came true, like the times I predicted my grandfather’s death and my parents’ friends’ divorce, when no one else saw either coming. These and other similar incidents unsettled and confused me. To make matters worse, my parents became so unnerved that I was forbidden to talk to them about my intuitions. Then I was sure there was something really wrong with me, a dread I was totally alone with. I didn’t choose to predict these things. They just kept happening. I had huge forces churning inside and no way of reconciling them.
Finally, one night, my parents became hell-bent on ending my flirtation with disaster. In a show of gutsy unity, they packed my things, marched me into the car, and checked their only child into a private locked adolescent substance abuse unit of Westwood Psychiatric Hospital. I felt set up, betrayed, and howled my indignation. I did everything in my power to hide my fear. This was where my path to emotional freedom began.
Every moment in that hospital seems so alive to me now. How I fought the kindness I was offered. Initially I felt like a prisoner. Cooperate? Not a chance. I tried everyone’s patience. In daily group therapy sessions I refused to talk. The leader, a tough-love former biker babe in denim, would confront me: “Judi [my nickname then], why are you so angry?” “Huh? I’m fine,” I’d snap, tight-lipped and seething. The more she’d probe, the more I’d clam up, pretending to everyone, including myself, just how fine I was. I’d be equally forthcoming with my psychiatrist. At meals twenty of us teenagers would sit in a beige cafeteria with plastic utensils (silverware can become weapons) eating some rubberized version of food. I fully intended to isolate myself, until Windy, a fellow hippie patient who lived in her long-fringed brown suede jacket, befriended me. My prickly exterior didn’t seem to faze her. Windy’s innocent nature quickly won me over; we became inseparable.
Comrades in captivity, during downtime we’d huddle in my room with its barred windows, plotting our escape. How we’d slip past the night cleaning crew after they wheeled their mops and brooms through the entrance of our locked unit. Then we’d hitch a ride to the coast highway, a few miles away, and head to parts unknown. No parents. No authorities. Just free. Though our great escape never came to fruition, all our scheming, giggling, and singing to the Stones (“You can’t always get what you want . . . but you just might find you get what you need”) made confinement more palatable.
Still, I loathed being locked up, and saw no reason to examine my life or change. But other mysterious influences beyond my control seemed to be operating too. I remember there was a door at the end of our green linoleum hall. It stood between us and a fenced yard where we played volleyball. The most brilliant light would shine through its wired panes. I couldn’t take my eyes off the light. Something loving within that brilliance quieted my snarl, soothed me when words couldn’t. Ever since I was a child, I’d felt a loving presence keeping track of me, an invisible friend offering comfort. Usually it stayed in the background, but now it was stepping forward. There was a change wanting to happen within me, and despite my protests, it began with a velocity all its own. Slowly, miraculously, I softened during my fourteen days in this unit.
With the guidance of a wise psychiatrist who understood me and knew how to intervene, I started to realize that I hadn’t been free in my life before being confined here. I was rebelling against my parents, but without clarity or focus. I was reactive, not proactive. Rebellion and living on the margins were how I’d survived, yet they weren’t the endpoint. Over the next few years, this angel of a man showed me how to better deal with my emotions so I could come from a place that was truer for me. He also helped me begin to embrace my intuitive side, so vital to knowing my soul. Our work together set into motion my calling to become a physician and bring intuition into medicine—a genuinely unexpected destiny. Though both my parents were physicians and there were twenty-five physicians in my extended family, given my artistic nature, they’d never urged this career on me. Getting an M.D. was the last thing I thought I wanted.
Life went on. Two decades later I was a psychiatrist seeing patients in that same hospital. In my case, the (former) inmate truly was running the institution! I felt deliciously subversive. How enlightening to have been a patient on the inside with a bird’s-eye view of being incarcerated and at the mercy of strangers. What better way to develop compassion for people in the same position . . . and to learn how to risk receiving the compassion the staff had once shown me? These are some of the jewels I’ve taken with me in my search for emotional freedom.
The hospital was flattened by the Northridge earthquake in 1994, and I must admit, I miss not seeing it when I drive by the site. Mother and Dad shared none of my nostalgia. My teenage self was a nightmare from which they never quite recovered. Incredibly, even in their elder years, they occasionally felt obliged to set the record straight. Summoning up looks of horror I knew so well, they’d half jokingly say to me—a grown woman, for decades a doctor of whom they were extremely proud—“Judith, we’ve never gotten over your adolescence.”
the basics of emotional freedom: the start of your liberation
Your life is brimming with opportunities to learn about emotional freedom. Every success. Every heartbreak. Every loss. Every gain. How you transport yourself through these portals determines how free you can be. I want you to start viewing your emotions in a nonordinary way: as vehicles for transformation (the word emotion comes from the Latin meaning “to move”) rather than simply as feelings that make you happy or miserable. Expect them to test your heart; that’s the point. What you go through—what we all go through—has a greater purpose. Always, the imperative of emotional freedom is for the love in us to evolve. Albert Camus says, “Freedom is nothing else but a chance to be better.” To make this a reality, you must begin to see each event of your life, uplifting or hurtful, earthshaking or mundane, as a chance to grow stronger, smarter, more light-bearing.
But here’s where many of us hit a wall. We’re ashamed of feeling afraid, inadequate, lonely, as if we’ve failed or done something wrong. None of these conclusions are true. It’s a misguided expectation that we’re supposed to be serene all the time. A depressed patient once apologized, “I wish I could be coming to you for something more spiritual.” I felt for him, but like so many people in pain with that commonly held perception, he was mistaken. Facing emotions—all of them—is a courageous, spiritually transformative act.
As you look into yourself, this is a failproof formula for liberation: dare to keep expanding your heart even if you’ve been justifiably wounded by pain or disappointment. The effort is never wasted. As you do, ferociously resist selling out by becoming cynical or shutting down (claustrophobic states worse than death to me). No matter what you’ve experienced, there is always hope for change and healing. It’s a miracle within reach. Don’t be afraid to want it.
The way to start is to understand the basics of emotional freedom. Here’s a mission statement that summarizes the process. To stay clear about your purpose and goals, you can refer to it while exploring the principles of this book.
What does emotional freedom mean?
It’s the capacity to give and receive more love. Getting there entails building positive emotions as well as facing and releasing negative ones. Instead of spinning out with, say, anger after you’ve been hurt, you’ll respond from a centered, more empathic place. Emotional freedom includes both personal and spiritual evolution. Learning to work with negative emotions, rather than collapsing into them, helps you grow spiritually and rise above what is small within you. Becoming free means removing counterproductive emotional patterns and viewing yourself and others through the lens of the heart.
Why do I need it?
To liberate yourself from the quicksand of negative emotions. When these accumulate, they disrupt your calmness and compassion, destroy relationships, and ultimately distance you from the joy and wonder of the world.
How do I achieve it?
Emotions become a springboard for higher consciousness once you see that each one has a lesson to impart. I’ll show you, for instance, how to build patience to counter frustration. Sometimes, though, as with acute grief, you’ll learn that you need to just be with the feelings, whereas you can aim to heal and transform envy. There are two stages of processing emotions. First is healthily acknowledging the raw feeling rather than stuffing or airbrushing it. The second is transforming negativity. I’ll explain many methods to do this with a variety of emotions.
You’ll feel happier, more flexible and alive; you’ll also be kinder to yourself, your friends, and family. You’ll have increased patience with coworkers and be able to effectively resolve conflicts. You’ll connect with your deepest instincts and the power of the heart to surmount even the most disappointing situations. You’ll feel nurtured and protected by a spiritual force that will let you know you’re never alone.
I savor this Native American story because it speaks to the essence of emotional freedom:
A chief is talking to his tribe about two dogs inside his mind: one a white dog that is good and courageous, the other a black dog that is vengeful and angry. Both dogs are fighting to the death. A young brave, unable to wait for the end of the story, asks, “Which one will win?” The chief responds, “The one I feed.”
Remembering this dynamic, set your intention to feed what’s best and most beautiful within you, a stance that will impel your liberation.
The goal of emotional freedom is balance. Although in Western culture, being in touch with emotions has become a pop religion— making the expression of feelings an end in itself—the point here isn’t to self-indulgently emote or to wall off your feelings. Rather it’s to become a more caring, aware person. Another goal is to reconnect with your vital essence, which thrives if it’s not pulverized by stress and pessimism. What a gorgeous feeling when you’re tapped into it!
You can’t just think your way to emotional freedom. Throughout this book I’ll keep underscoring that it grows from a linear understanding of biology and behavior, as well as an intuitively sparked transformation in your soul. To create the positive change you desire, get ready to fire up all of your perceptual capacities, even those you never realized you had. You want to see more than a sliver of what’s possible for yourself.
evolving beyond conventional medicine: integrating intuition to better grasp emotions
A gift of being a psychiatrist is that others entrust me with their deepest feelings and confidences. Over the years, I’ve had the opportunity to help countless patients and workshop participants mired in fear, worry, or depression fight to be free. I’m no stranger to such predicaments, having endured my own share of emotional trials by fire. We’ve all done our time in anguished places. But, as I’ll describe, there’s a way out, sooner rather than later. My role with patients and with you is to be a midwife to the emergence of your finest, freest selves.
Along with my conventional medical training, today I utilize intuition to help my patients achieve emotional freedom. In psychotherapy sessions, I combine nonlinear messages from images, knowings, energy, and dreams with insights provided by my analytic mind. This organic blending of sensibilities lets me make the most of my traditional education and also listen to what emerges from my intuition—the knower behind the thinker. Intuition provides access to the psyche’s deep recesses, which don’t speak in sentences or paragraphs and are where unexpected connections are made. Further, I teach patients to access their own intuitive abilities to gain greater emotional knowledge of themselves and others and so their lives aren’t marred by false notes. But this integration hasn’t always felt so natural, nor have I always practiced psychotherapy in this way.
I received my basic training in emotions as a fledgling psychiatric resident in the early 1980s. I was working in the emergency room every third night at UCLA and the Veterans Administration hospitals. I learned volumes about emotions in these cauldrons of intensity. I was riveted and heartbroken by the in-your-face hard truths of this deeply human experience. The work asked everything of me. But it was good work and it was real. During those endless nights, I saw it all. A stick-thin anorexic girl (who thought she was fat) with a ruptured esophagus from vomiting repeatedly to lose weight.
Table of Contents
Introduction. Emotional Freedom: The Secret to Serenity 1
Part 1 Tapping the Power of Emotional Freedom
1 The Path to Emotional Freedom: Beginning to Learn to Love 13
2 Four Practical Secrets to Empowering Your Emotional Life 33
3 Dreams and Sleep: Accessing Revolutionary States of Consciousness 60
4 From Intellectuals to Empaths: What Is Your Emotional Type? 99
5 Combating Emotional Vampires: How to Understand and Protect Your Sensitivity 119
Part 2 Your Tools for Liberation
6 The First Transformation: Facing Fear, Building Courage 145
7 The Second Transformation: Facing Frustration and Disappointment, Building Patience 173
8 The Third Transformation: Facing Loneliness, Building Connection 205
9 The Fourth Transformation: Facing Anxiety and Worry, Building Inner Calm 234
10 The Fifth Transformation: Facing Depression, Building Hope 268
11 The Sixth Transformation: Facing Jealousy and Envy, Building Self-Esteem 305
12 The Seventh Transformation: Facing Anger, Building Compassion 335
Afterword. Living in Service to the Heart: The Blessing of Emotional Freedom 374
Selected Reading 383
Selected Science Articles 387
What People are Saying About This
“Our faltering economy has cost many people more than their money: They've lost their peace of mind. Peppered with practical action steps to build healthy emotional habits this book tells how to manage difficult emotions and restore inner calm.”
"A road map for people who are stressed out, discouraged or overwhelmed, or for those who simply want to get to a better place. Orloff, a psychiatrist, offers a step-by-step way to change outlooks, alter behavior and cope with life's challenges."
“Dr. Orloff has a gift for making psychology lively, relevant, and useful to laypeople, and EMOTIONAL FREEDOM provides an ample menu of highly original action steps to help you work through each emotional state to achieve well−being.”
“[A]superbly written series of psychological strategies for maximizing positive emotions and minimizing toxic ones….This insightful and positive book will assist anyone who is suffering in mapping a path out of pain.”
"This well-written book is full of good advice for anyone who wants to take more control of his or her emotional life."
“A must-read for anyone who’s tired of feeling frustrated, lonely, jealous, or emotionally tense. Dr. Orloff shows you how to achieve a lightness of being and feel more positive and peaceful. Highly recommended.”
–Deepak Chopra, M.D., author of Reinventing the Body, Resurrecting the Soul
“Spectacular! I endorse this book so heartily because it gives a unique blend of the author’s personal and professional experience to enlighten us, and it’s a totally fascinating read. I recommend it to everyone who wants to overcome sabotaging emotional patterns to achieve self-mastery.”
–Candace Pert, Ph.D., author of Molecules of Emotion
“A heartfelt, accessible guide to the graceland of peace and calm–regardless of our parents, our past, or our present. It’s loaded with nuggets of practical and profound healing wisdom.”
–Christiane Northrup, M.D., author of Women’s Bodies, Women’s Wisdom
“Absolutely brilliant. I couldn’t put this book down!”
–Caroline Myss, Ph.D., author of Entering the Castle: An Inner Path to God and Your Soul
“EMOTIONAL FREEDOM combines neuroscience, psychology, and spirituality to present a new approach for freeing yourself from negative emotions. This book offers you a path to greater health, intimacy, and compassion.”
–Dean Ornish, M.D., author of The Spectrum and Dr. Dean Ornish’s Program for Reversing Heart Disease
“This book empowers us in exciting and remarkable ways. Dr. Orloff’s wise insights about emotions serve us with wonderful clarity.”
–Neale Donald Walsch, author of Conversations with God
"An invaluable book written by one of the finest psychiatrists of our time."
–Joan Borysenko, Ph.D., author of Minding the Body, Mending the Mind
"This book is a lifesaver for people who are frustrated, stressed, and anxious. If you long for more joy, give yourself a gift and read this book!"
–Marci Shimoff, bestselling author of Chicken Soup for the Woman's Soul and Happy for No Reason
"A valuable guidebook for anyone who believes that greater possibilities await them, but has not yet realized them."
–Larry Dossey, M.D., author of The Extraordinary Healing Power of Ordinary Things
"EMOTIONAL FREEDOM is packed with that rarest of combinations; it is both intensely informed by the wealth of Dr. Judith Orloff's professional experience, and it is resolutely compassionate."
–Mary Oliver, Pulitizer Prize winning poet
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
If you are one of those people who has your buttons pushed more than you'd care to....this book is for you. If you thought you'd handled your "stuff" because you've talked about it for years, yet - it's still there.....this book is for you. If you're tired of dealing with it...this book is for you. The tail no longer needs to wag the dog.
Dr. Judith Orloff helps us understand how important it is to deal with all of our emotions. No need to ignore them or label them good or bad - just a need to acknowledge them and use them as tools of incredible transformation. Tools that will awaken our intuitive powers if only we pay attention.
Because she shares her own journey so willingly, you'll realize how common our deepest fears and worries are. And, you'll benefit from the numerous practices throughout the book that will help you listen to yourself, feel what's really going on, and open your heart.
Learn how to make the shift...and, let your transformation begin.
Okay, can all this "look deep into yourself" for the answers to improve your life really work? I've come to know that the answer is "YES!" I've read Judith's two previous books on the subject and have found myself mentally and physically in a much better place than I was I few years ago. However, I'm still grappling with a lot of emotional baggage that likes to interfere with my daily life, but with Judith's new book, Emotional Freedom, she's given me some new insights on how to look at my own problems from a different perspective... which is so desperately needed when you're stuck in your own sh*t. Being an "intellectual" emotional type, my negative self-talk seems to be always on and it chips away at all of the good feelings I have. I like how with her help through this book, I've mapped out a better way to balance my life's emotional stresses. Thanks again Judith!
I have found Dr. Orloff's style and presentation right "on the button" for the material in this book. The usefulness of this material is so timely in this day and age. There is much to be gained, I feel, by every person because we have to deal with so much and sometimes it is so difficult.
Judith, Thanks for Emotional Freedom!! From my perspective your work is risky, absolutely necessary and directly on target: good for individuals, relationships, families and collectives, globally, today and for generations to follow. Awareness and presence for the self as person and others; shining light on the delusion of a permanent self; acceptance of innate human selfish desire and persistent will to be, to improve, to accumulate, to exist, to become, to grow more and more; and neutralizing negative emotions is a giant step forward for all of us. Simply, just sit and help others. Again, thank you for your work: the unifying theme...the four major components of emotions (biology, spirituality, energetic power and psychology) is quite insightful and a marvelous sharing. John Edwin DeVore, Ph.D. (Sitting in the Flames, Amazon.com, 2006)
Dr. Orloff's work is so helpful in this time of financial and emotional turmoil. As an intuitive myself, I like the way she connects the mind and body on a very deep level. Her work is very progressive in the field of psychiatry, and she gives us all, great solutions, on how to solve deep emotional issues. This book couldn't have been published at a better time and I really want to thank Judith from the bottom of my heart for touching me in a way that has helped me to get through each day! I will recommend this book to anyone and everyone that I know!
I am so very glad I picked this book up!! As soon as I did I cuoldn't put it down, and it has been such a good tool to get me through the tough "winter blahs" season and has changed my attitude on life going forward~ Thank you!
Using your gut feelings to figure out life and what you should do about it is the hallmark of Dr. Orloff's Intuitive Healing practice. The popular psychiatrist's newest book, Emotional Freedom: Liberate Yourself from Negative Emotions and Transform Your Life teaches her readers how to transform their self-sabotaging tendencies in order to become free to live, to love, to forgive and to progress. The charm of Dr. Orloff's works is that she is not a dull writer tossing off clichés and boring bromides. She shares poignant and sometimes humorous insights into her own world of struggling with emotional issues, letting us know that she's as human as the rest of us. In this book she describes how she tunes in to her intuitive powers so that readers can do the same (see her videos for more examples of this). Intuition lets the author, her clients and readers better grasp what distresses or de-stresses them and what they ought to do to improve the quality of their lives. Dr. Orloff's prose is simple to understand, clearly presented in manageable chunks of information and practice instructions. When she explains how to "Reprogram the Biology of Jealousy" on pages 309-314, readers gain high impact insight and Action Step instructions for defeating some high stakes drama. The author explains that "Jealousy and envy are endemic to high school, a Petri dish for these emotional microbes." In a few paragraphs she demonstrates how to bolster self esteem and optimize human biology for bypassing present or long-ago sadness that can last a lifetime. The delightful achievements that Orloff and her clientele make by using the very advice she gives to her readers bring smiles to many faces reading her books. In Emotional Freedom, she'll have you grinning in Seven Transformational Steps that can have you facing fear and building courage, facing frustration/disappointment and building patience, facing loneliness and building connections, and more. Yocheved Golani, Self-Help Coach
Dr. Judith, I would like to thank you for taking the time and expending the energy to create and write this wonderful book on "Emotional Freedom." It is the very first text on the subject that I have read that I can fully relate to dealing with psychiatry. Your terms of emtional vampires are so appropriate. I want to start a home town small group study using your text as the spring board of discussion. So many people can benefit from your insight, humor, guidance and applications of recommended action steps. I don't know if it is because you are also a Capricorn or what. But I can relate so well to your writing style and your ability to express yourself. You have helped confirm that I'm not "crazy", and that there are others that do think like I do and that I'm on the right path. Have you entertained the thought of using the term "quantum psychiatry" to help with the concept of energy? Dr. Thomas S. Brodar, D.C., L.C.P. - rural Delphi, IN
In EMOTIONAL FREEDOM, Dr. Judith Orloff has painstakenly shown all of us how to "liberate yourself from negative emotions and transform your life." Yet, importantly, this isn't just for each of us as individuals; but we have what she calls "a bond with one another, and with the world," which we need to express through love rather than negativity so, as Einstein wrote, we won't fight World War IV with sticks and stones." This book is for all of us in another way: everyone will be able to find him or herself and receive extensive and profound guidance, depending on if you are an "empath," as I am, or, for example, "a rock"; and whether you need to transform frustration and disappointment into patience, as I do, or one or more of the other six transformations thoroughly described in the book. I was particularly affected when Judith would always include "the spiritual meaning." Also, while I read, she was right there with me: her true and powerful presence is evident throughout--and is the force that makes the book beautifully readable, understandable, and inspiring.
This is a must have for everyone!! The name says it all... I will definitely be recommending to all my friends and family. This book is a very useful tool that I will use repeatedly for years to come.
After reading Dr. Judith's book I realized there was hope for my very good friend who fights continually for emotional freedom. I decided to share this book with her and found that we both received a great deal of information on how to achieve happiness through emotional freedom. For my friend, focusing on the positive has been a challenge and for me it has been defining my own space. How fortunate for us to have come across a book that would cater to both our needs. We read together, discuss each chapter and creat short term goals based on the information provided. We are achieving our goals of emotional freedom one page at a time. Thank you Dr. Judith.
This book is filled with help. Negative emotions are inevitable in life, and for so many of us they are difficult, overwhelming, even debilitating. Dr. Orloff has created a detailed road map out of our emotional traps. There's no one-size-fits-all solution in psychiatry, and knowing this, Dr. Orloff wisely gives us lots of stories, exercises, meditations, many different approaches to getting through a problem, all of which are clear and accessible. There are many self-help books available, but Dr. Orloff is the X factor that makes this one especially good. You feel she's on your side from page one. She's pulling for all her patients--those in her office or those who read her books--to get out there and live their lives to the fullest. I can tell I'll use this book for many years.
Rarely does a book come along that goes beyond simply reading it and putting it on the shelf. Orloff's book, Emotional Freedom is more than a book....it is an essential life tool that I will have at my fingertips for years to come. She provides real strategies that help us to understand and to overcome negative emotions and truly be in control of our own happiness and joy. We often hear the phrase, "it isn't what happens to you, but what you do with what happens to you that matters." Thanks to Judith Orloff we now know HOW to make that truly a real concept in our lives. In today's world there are so many challenges we all face, and as parents they can be truly frightening and overwhelming. It is essential to learn real skills right now to cope with the emotions that come with these challenges. This is the only way to give our kids a strong role model for all of life's twists and turns. In learning to overcome toxic emotions and as Orloff calls them, "emotional vampires", we truly empower ourselves and ultimately our kids to live a life that is more free and filled with joy. I can't think of a better gift to give our kids and it is a commitment that every parent or anyone who has any influence or interactions with kids should make. If we make these changes in our lives and families starting right now, it will truly change the world! So get your copy and start making a real difference in ways that will come back to you and your family a hundred times over. Bravo Judith and thank you!
I SO ENJOYED AND WAS COMFORTED BY EMOTIONAL FREEDOM. IN THESE CHALLENGING TIMES WE NEED A PRACTICAL ,INFORMATIVE BOOK ON HOW WE CAN DEAL WITH ALL WE ARE FEELING. THIS BOOK WAS EASY TO ABSORB AND THE RECOMMENDED PRACTICES WERE VERY ACCESSABLE. YOU TRULY FELT THAT DR ORLOFF HAD A GENUINE INTEREST IN YOUR WELL-BEING. I HAVE TOLD ALL MY FRIENDS ABOUT IT AND RECOMMEND IT HIGHLY!!!
I recommend "Positive Engery" to all my clients, and now I have more tools to offer. Judith Orloff's newest book, "Emotional Freedom" is packed full of specific information that can help people free themselves of the old chains of self-imposed emotional bondage. She offers help, hope and lots of amazingly good advice, along with specific doable techiques. Once you read this book, you will feel empowered to claim your own "Emotional Freedom." Her writeing style is simple and direct and her insights invaluable. I recommend this book highly.
Dr Judith Orloff has written a timely and compelling work that will change lives. In these days of emotional panic and chaos, Emotional Freedom is a treasured gift for strengthening health and wellness. Minutes after reading, I was able to place myself on a new path to disengage from pessimistic and judgmental thinking.
Judith Orloff MD's book EMOTIONAL FREEDOM is a thrilling vista for me insofar as she tackles the problems I and many people I know struggle with daily: anxiety, lack of patience, lonliness, control freaks, jealosy, low self-esteem, depression and finding a way out via compassion, connecting with others, achieving calm, understanding your dreams, using and trusting intuition (this has already helped me in daily life) and so much more. The depth and sensitivity of this book and its myriad advice is hard for me to summarize in this little space. I love the chapter breakdowns (7 transformations that speak to everyone I think) and the sub-chapter tables (which help clarify each point for future reference). My favorite chapter may be the one on Sleep and Dreams. Dealing first with insomnia and then moving onto dreams (which already opens with a beautifully inspiring title: "DREAMS AS OPPORUTUNIES FOR FREEDOM") Dr. Orloff goes into techniques and excercises on how to remember, explore, interpret, transform dreams -- to find the oracle and healing power of dreams within you. For me, it's a perfect blend of science, psychology and sprituality, spiced too by Dr. Orloff's anecdotes and humor throughout -- such a pleasure to read and learn from.
Dr. Orloff has assembled a kit of tools that are perfectly tailored for all of us to deal with the turbulent times we find ourselves in now. As she says in lectures and workshops we have a choice about the kind of life we will live and how we will be shaped and influenced by the events and circumstances we encounter each day. Emotional Freedom is a primer on how to deal with people, places and things that ordinarily sap us of our energy and vitality and provides useful "on the court" exercises and processes for embracing all that the universe brings us and learning the lessons we otherwise have avoided time and time again. In the challenging days, weeks, months and years we have before us Emotional Freedom is a written GPS system to inner peace, comfort and joy that will more deeply and profoundly connect us to our world.
I absolutely enjoyed this new book. It touched me in many ways. I would recommend this book to anyone I know! Thank you Judith!
I would recommend this book to anyone who is looking for something positive to read and get them past these hard times in our economy in this economic meltdown. Definitely 5 stars plus!!!!!!!!!!
This book is loaded with information and suggestions that I found very interesting and helpful. Even when it was technical it was easy to read. For example, she talked about the brain and systems in the body that are linked to stress, or the chemicals in the brain and body that are linked to mental emotional conditions. It all made sense and was interesting. There are a lot of suggestions to gain emotional freedom. I thought they were excellent. I also recommend a shorter book called EFFORTLESS WELBEING to get along with this one. They each have a different way of helping. I consider the effortless wellbeing book to be my favorite ever on wellness, but this EMOTIONAL FREEDOM title is also quite excellent. I'd say get them both and really do the stuff.
This is a fantastic book! Dr. Orloff shows us that people from all walks of life really understand that to be negative and to let these feelings and thoughts control the way that we think act and react is not right and that there is a better way to face the negative situations and people that we encounter on a daily basis in our lives. Dr. Orloff is a great and caring Dr.,and woman who is making a difference at a time that is greatly needed. Thank you so much for your amazing work!
EMOTIONAL FREEDOM: Liberate Yourself From Negative Emotions and Transform Your Life written by Judith Orloff MD is the perfect book to come along at the perfect time. I couldn't put it down! We live in a tumultuous, fear-dominated period in history and must become masters at overcoming fear and other negative emotions so they don't sabotage our power. With skill and compassion, Dr. Judith Orloff shows us how to become heroes in out own lives by transforming anger, loneliness, and envy and more rather than simply "reacting" when our buttons get pushed. Part One of the book introduces you to the four components of emotions: their biology, spirituality, energetic power, and psychology. Understanding each component in yourself will lead to inner breakthroughs that aren't possible without seeing the whole picture. It offers a self-assessment test to evaluate your current level of emotional freedom so you can increase it practicing this book's principles. Dr. Orloff invites you into her romance with sleep and dreams as revolutionary states of consciousness. She also helps readers determine their "emotional type" including "the intellectual," and "the empath. "so they can make the most of their own finest qualities. As an empath, Dr. Orloff knows the gigantic challenges of being an "emotional sponge" and teaches other empaths who've been labeled "overly sensitive" how to stay grounded in an often-overwhelming world. You'll enjoy the "emotional vampire survival guide"--specific advice for dealing with emotional drainers. We've all met them. You're talking to someone, when suddenly you feel anxious, depressed, or tired. She describes the narcissist, the victim, the controller, and other types of vampires. Plus, there are quizzes to help you determine "Are you in a relationship with an emotional vampire?" or if you might be one yourself. Sometimes, we all have the capacity to be draining, but with mindful compassion we can catch ourselves early and make a shift. Part Two of the book offers a hands-on approach for facing the most prevalent negative emotions and building positive ones Each chapter is called a "transformation" in which you learn how to transform a negative emotion into its counterpoint. For instance, fear is transformed with courage, frustration with patience, and jealousy with self-esteem. Emotional Freedom is the rare book that can open your mind and your heart to more empowerment. Give yourself a gift and read it.
Emotional Freedom: Liberate Yourself from Negative Emotions and Transform Your Life, by Judith Orloff, comes at a perfect time, as most of us are experiencing at least some negative emotions in this economy. This is a big book--over 400 pages--and is a bit intimidating. However, Orloff encourages us to take our time reading,to take "baby steps." Orloff defines emotional freedom as: "It means increasing your ability to love by cultivating positive emotions and being able to compassionately witness and transform negative ones, whether yours or anther's." Orloff is the pioneer of what she calls Energy Psychiatry--blending traditional medicine, intuition, energy and dreams. She talks about our vital life force energy (or Chi, to the Chinese,) that flows through our body and is intuition. This energy is also all around us--so life force energy is within and without, affecting us. Part I "Tipping life power of emotional freedom," includes a self assessment test to compare before and after you do the work. She discusses the 4 components of freedom and the roles dreams play in our lives. Part II "Your tools for liberation," include a practical guide to dealing with the most difficult emotions. There is a quiz to help you determine what your emotional type is--the intellectual, the empath, the rock, the gusher. She discusses the pros and cons of each and how to find balance within each. The book includes advice on how to reprogram ourselves to build inner calm by facing anxiety and worry. As an eco-friendly Feng Shui designer, I really appreciate how she discusses energy and intuition--because both play a large role in my work. Orloff understands that life force energy (as well as negative energy,) surround us. I would recommend reading her book slowly with a book that influenced my practice: HARMONIOUS ENVIRONMENT: BEAUTIFY, DETOXIFY & ENENERGIZE YOUR LIFE, YOUR HOME & YOUR PLANET, because it will help you raise the energy in your home which will help alleviate stress and other negative emotions. I also recommend THE ART OF EXTREME SELF-CARE, because it teaches us to love ourselves--key in Orloff's work, as well.
Knowing Judith Orloff MD's prior books SECOND SIGHT and POSITIVE ENERGY, both of which completely changed my outlook and attitude towards life for the brighter, I didn't hesitate to buy this book. But I know there are some skeptics out there who might think 'emotional freedom' is just a gimmick or a concept. Well I have to say that this book is almost like a work book for life it's so practical, a novel in all its stories and anecdotes, a reference book and encyclopedia about positive and negative emotions, a manifesto for compassionate, fully lived life, defeating those things that tend to wreck our lives, (the point being) from within: fear, anxiety, rage, impatience, insomnia... Mapping the psychology, biology, spirituality, and energy of emotions, Orloff presents steps to a possible self in which calm, generosity and goodwill soon begin to seem natural. One doesn't ever really have to feel helpless is one thing I've walked away with from EMOTIONAL FREEDOM. Why feel fear when you can shift it internally, awaken courage and take action? This stuff is very inspiring and down to earth. Her insights are by themselves simple and revelatory, and together have a profound effect on life. I can't recommend it highly enough. Liberation now!