The Emotionally Destructive Relationship: Seeing It, Stopping It, Surviving It

The Emotionally Destructive Relationship: Seeing It, Stopping It, Surviving It

by Leslie Vernick

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The Emotionally Destructive Relationship: Seeing It, Stopping It, Surviving It by Leslie Vernick

Leslie Vernick, counselor and social worker, has witnessed the devastating effects of emotional abuse. Many, including many in the church, have not addressed this form of destruction in families and relationships because it is difficult to talk about. With godly guidance and practical experience, Vernick offers an empathetic approach to recognizing an emotionally destructive relationship and addresses the symptoms and the damage with biblical tools. Readers will understand how to:

  • Reveal behaviors that are meant to control, punish, and hurt
  • Confront and speak truth when the timing is right
  • Determine when to keep trying, when to get out
  • Get safe and stay safe
  • Build an identity in Christ

This practical and thorough resource will help countless individuals, families, and churches view abuse from God's perspective and understand how vital it is for victims to embrace His freedom from the physical, emotional, spiritual, and generational effects of emotionally destructive relationships.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780736918978
Publisher: Harvest House Publishers
Publication date: 08/15/2007
Pages: 256
Sales rank: 138,530
Product dimensions: 5.50(w) x 8.50(h) x 0.56(d)

About the Author

Leslie Vernick, a licensed clinical social worker with a private counseling practice, has authored numerous books, including The Emotionally Destructive Relationship and Lord, I Just Want to Be Happy. She completed postgraduate work in biblical counseling and cognitive therapy. Leslie and her husband, Howard, have been married more than 30 years and have two grown children.

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The Emotionally Destructive Relationship: Seeing It, Stopping It, Surviving It 4.5 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 22 reviews.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This book not only describes the emotionally destructive relationship, but it also tells you what the Bible says about it and how to live a better life in or out of it. I am happy to finally read a book that is spiritually uplifting and positive about God's love and care about what we experience. This book speaks about destructive relationships while encouraging faith in God and erasing doubt that life can be better. Very good book and highly recommended.
Guest More than 1 year ago
Leslie's most recent book is perhaps her one of her most important. 'And I've grown from each one!' Here is a practical, easy to read and understand, yet deeply biblical approach to knowing whether your relationships have crossed the line from being human--where we all hurt one another at some time or another and need to apologize and/or forgive--into being abusive. Many don't understand they are in an abusive relationship and therefore continue to be abused, feeling to blame. Leslie gives hope: 'growth, healing, and restoration are possible, no matter how much hurt we've experienced.' Then she gives our best example to follow--the life of Christ, who modeled good communication and boundaries. I love her scriptural explanation of 'Why Stand Up?' to an abuser in our lives and 'What is Genuine Repentance?' with, once again, Jesus' model of 'stepping back.' Having survived and thrived myself, I can say from experience, the 'Surviving It' section will be helpful to anyone. This insightful book only confirmed much of what I've lived through, had to live out, and continue to stand firm in--the truth of what is mine to 'own' and what is not. I will be recommending this book far and wide and reading portions of it when I speak to audiences!
Guest More than 1 year ago
You could call it coincidental or providential, but a sewage backup in the author¿s office just as she was writing this book provided a helpful word picture of destructive relationships. Like the brown, stinky muck of sewage, destructive relationships foul what could be a healthy life outlook. If you¿re struggling with relationship problems, but wonder if they¿re bad enough for intervention, Leslie¿s book will help you evaluate your need of professional help as well as positive steps you can take on your own for emotional health. Her relationship evaluation quiz on pages 40-45 may help you see your own blind spots about how others are negatively affecting your perception of yourself and your ability to cope and even thrive in life. As a Christian counselor, she brings that solid perspective to her writing. The ending chapter of the book, ¿A Special Word to People Helpers,¿ offers caution for those who might try to deal with problems that really require professional intervention.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This book was extremely helpful!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Nice character developement for Sebastian!
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HalesiteBee More than 1 year ago
This is an amazing book. Eye opening, well written, and thought provoking. It has been a blessing and a healing tool used by God in my life. A keeper for anyone who seeks recovery and growth. And Healing!!! Thank God for Leslie!
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Mrs. Vernick has given clarity and practical guidelines to a subject which has been very misunderstood.  Kudos to her for creating an excellent source for both counselors and laypeople. 
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Guest More than 1 year ago
This book was a true inspiration to me. It really addressed everything that is unhealthy to a person or family, and the only way to overcome it and survive is to turn to God, and let his will be yours. Most important is everyone is Gods Child and loved by him unconditionally. We need to me reminded of this sometimes through great challenges.