For a Marriage That Brims Over
Maybe you entered marriage with some pretty high expectations—most couples do. Jonathan and Wynter Pitts did. Until the reality of married life spilled into their expectations.
Jonathan and Wynter invite you on a journey to explore a different approach to your happily-ever-after marriage. Join them for an honest look at the lessons learned as they navigated the ups and downs of early marriage while raising four daughters.
Here you will...
- be encouraged to remove the pressure of a keeping-up-with-the-Joneses marriage
- learn to let go of assumptions and embrace your role as servant-leader to your spouse
- experience how God can pour His purpose, passion, and fullness into your relationship
Emptied is a way of life. It’s not about trying harder, it’s about thinking differently. Only when you are emptied of your own self-focused motivations can God pour new life into you for the abundant marriage and satisfying relationship you long for. Are you ready to approach your marriage poured out, ready to be filled up?
|Publisher:||Harvest House Publishers|
|Product dimensions:||5.50(w) x 8.40(h) x 0.60(d)|
About the Author
Wynter Pitts is the author of several books, including You’re God’s Girl! She is the founder of For Girls Like You, a bimonthly magazine that equips girls to walk boldly into who God has created them to be and to resource their parents to raise strong Christ-following God girls who say yes to His plans for their lives. Wynter tragically passed from death to life on July 24, 2018, after 15 years of marriage to her beloved Jonathan. She leaves behind an incredible legacy through her many writings but more importantly in her four daughters—Alena, Kaitlyn, Camryn, and Olivia. Jonathan Pitts is an author, speaker, and executive pastor at Church of the City in Franklin, TN. Prior to pastoring, Jonathan was executive director at The Urban Alternative, the national ministry of Dr. Tony Evans in Dallas, Texas. Jonathan lives in Franklin, Tennessee with his four daughters.
Table of Contents
Foreword Gabe Rebekah Lyons 7
Before You Begin 9
The Key 13
Part 1 Poured Out
1 Hot and Ready 19
2 Backgrounds 33
3 God's Kingdom Purposes 45
4 Live Shot 59
5 Full of It 71
6 Mind-Set 85
7 Emptied 95
8 Filled 109
9 Power 133
Part 2 Filled
10 Love 151
11 Joy 159
12 Peace 165
13 Patience 171
14 Kindness 177
15 Goodness 183
16 Faithfulness 189
17 Gentleness 195
18 Self-Control 201
Part 3 Guided and Directed
19 Looking to Jesus 209
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
I had the extreme privilege of reading "Emptied" as a part of the Pitts' launch team. And while it took me longer to read it than I would have liked (hello, mom-life), I greatly enjoyed it. Jonathan and Wynter wrote in such a way that you could tell they loved doing life together. There is an easy back and forth banter between them in some sections, a seamless weaving of their thoughts and stories, as well as a consistent pointing to Scripture and the example of Christ and the Church in relation to marriage. I loved the last section where they walk through the Fruits of the Spirit and talked about each one in regards to it's place in marriage. I appreciated the way they were so intentional to not just right their own story, but to write what they had learned about God and His character/attributes through their story. Two quotes in particular that stuck out to me from the chapters on Love and Goodness are: "What would it look like if we had the mindset of Jesus, a willingness to love each other so tangibly that we'd lay down the silly things we hold on to, to fill up or spouses?" "God's goodness motivated Him to create a plan to rescue us from disaster. His goodness motivated him to leave perfection to enter an imperfect world. That same goodness stirred Him to an active plan of emptying Himself of everything He had to fill us up. His goodness sent His Holy Spirit we can call on today. His goodness is a daily reminder that He has our best interest in mind." Again, it was a great honor to get to read this book early and I would recommend it for anyone looking for something to breathe some fresh air into their marriage. Read it single. Read it married. Read it on your own. Read it with your spouse. You will be better for it.
Real talk about real marriage. This book was an excellent narrative of the real struggles in marriage that often get glossed over. Marriage is hard, but that doesn’t mean we need to dwell on the negative, nor ignore it. If we don’t recognize what is not working, we wont’ be able to address it. Once we do, we can allow God to shape and change our hearts to honor Him in the marriage. We can’t change our spouse, but God can. We can turn toward each other while owning our own baggage, which will clear the path to a better relationship. Wynter and Jonathan talk from their own point of views on how they were contributing (or not) to some of the struggles in their marriage. It’s a refreshing dialogue of what marriage is and how God is honored throughout. I would recommend this book for anyone who is struggling with their marriage and willing to look at their own sin issues first. It’s an encouragement to read how others have done the hard work to improve their marriage.
Books written from the heart without any other agenda than to reflect the love that God has demonstrated need to be less rare. Thank you to Wynter and Jonathan for sharing your story. What an honor to read words from Wynter who poured out her love for those around her. Love this: "They weren’t perfect [years], but through emptying ourselves, God gave us a friendship with deep, deep roots." Relationships and marriages are challenging because it's easier to do things our way. Resources that offer us tools are great but hearing the stories of others and how they get through rough times and how they celebrate great times offer us courage to live out the love we are called to give to those closest to us. And then, you add kids to the mix and it can be a bigger challenge. That's when you have to be on the same team. Knowing that we are not alone on this journey already gives me the confidence to press on. The encouraging words of Wynter and Jonathan are a guide to facing reality with real expectations that teaches us to be filled up when we pour out.
This was not a groundbreaking book about marriage or a book that offers step by step marital advice, but it was gentle reminder to me personally to basically work on myself rather than pick apart my spouse, and about being emptied of my human inclinations so that I could be filled by the Holy Spirit to exercise the fruits of the spirit. This is exactly the book I needed to read and my marriage is better because of it. I highly recommend this book.
This has been my nightly read for over a month now - when I'm not too tired to read. At first I started by devouring it then realized it need to be a slow read so that I could pray the points over my marriage as I read. I started reading it when I was invited to participate in the launch and have marked so many pages in my Kindle. Now that I have it in my hands I will re-read and re-mark these pages to go back to over the years. And I have to tell you, this cover- more beautiful in person! The Pitts love story is anything but what you would expect in a marriage book, sometimes I'm like - are you in my house? - because they were just so real in writing it. Knowing their real life story has made me love this even more because it's such a God thing! This is definitely a book that has poured into my marriage and I pray it does yours as well. If you have read this, let me know what you think!
In Emptied, Jonathan and Wynter Pitts encourage readers to empty ourselves of selfish, sinful behavior and ask God to fill us with the characteristics that lead to a truly fulfilling marriage. All of their ideas, stories and Bible verses ultimately lead us from a "me" marriage to a "we" marriage. It was an easy read with relatively short chapters and stories that made you want to keep going, chapter after chapter. I liked how the authors included a mix of personal stories and Scripture. At the end of each chapter, they pose questions that allow the reader to apply the information directly to their own marriage. The authors also wrote prayers that coincides with each chapter for those of us who don't always have the right words. I especially enjoyed part two, which includes 9 chapters that each focus on one of the fruit of the Spirit. Many of the struggles they shared are things that I have experienced in my own marriage of 15 years. While it wasn't necessarily new information, I had several "aha" moments when I realized that some of my behaviors were truly sinful in nature. They showed me that things that I wrote off as normal behavior (things I say, attitudes I have, etc) actually went against God's design for marriage. It was convicting. I look forward to using this information to help my marriage grow. I feel like this book may be best for engaged or newly married couples, although I believe anyone can gain insight from their message. I received a copy of this book from the publisher.
As I read Emptied: Experiencing the Fullness of a Poured-out Marriage, I recognized a lot of the things that I have been learning over the last 5 years. I’ve watched marriages struggle, thrive and dissolve. We’ve walked a road of wrestling with what it means to lean on God and pour ourselves out for the other. Emptied felt like a familiar companion, walking alongside the road of marriage with me. The things that Jonathan and Wynter Pitts write about in the pages of Emptied were not shaming in any way. Rather, it was an encouragement to keep trying – knowing we’ll never get it perfect. But it’s more about the journey of learning to pour out for the other than it is getting your own needs met. I appreciated the Pitts’ conversational style of writing, and I felt extremely affirmed as I read the book. While I appreciated the Pitts’ desire to share the things that they learned through their marriage in an effort to help others, it felt like something was missing from the book. I couldn’t quite put my finger on what I was hoping for – but there was a depth missing. This book is a great starting place for those about to enter into marriage, or just starting out. I received a copy of this book from the publisher. This review is my own, honest opinion.
Emptied is a great book for marrieds or for those engaged to be married. Being married means being less selfish and putting another's needs above your own, posits Wynter and her husband, Jonathan. Throughout the book we hear stories of their fledgling marriage and the issues each brought into their home with them. Beyond the pretty wedding photos, beyond the great dress and handsome tuxedo, all of us bring baggage with us, from our family issues to our ideals about what marriage should be. Fifteen years later, Wynter and her husband have four girls and a marriage that has seen it's share of ups and downs. I found a lot of helpful information in "Emptied" and would recommend this book to anyone who wants to start off on the right foot in their marriage, or change the course of where their marriage is heading. Practical tips, along with questions for review together at the end of each chapter leads to encourage deeper conversation with one another. I must add that this title is the last one that Wynter completed before her unexpected passing in 2018. There will be a hole in the Christian writing/speaking community with her loss, and I felt a little bittersweet about finishing the book. However, she left a beautiful legacy of faith interwoven into this book, and I took away advice that I plan on adapting for use in my own 16 year marriage. This was a wonderful read and I am thankful to #NetGalley for an advanced reader PDF. All opinions are my own and I chose to review.
There is always something to learn about marriage. Relationships have joys and sorrows. How we experience life with each other can truly show our faith and trust in God. In this honest, heartfelt book, the authors share personal stories and lessons learned from each other and from those around them. Knowing that this book was being written before Wynter's passing makes the words even more memorable and valuable. We never know what will happen from day to day but we do have a God who loves us and is there with us in our relationships. Excellent read. I received a complimentary copy of this book. This is my personal honest opinion. No review was required.