Ending the Diet Mindset is the last book on dieting you’ll ever need. How many times have you gone on a diet, only to find weeks or even days later you’re right back where you started? And each time you’ve given up on your diet, you inevitably feel like you’ve given up on yourself.
Decades of dieting have created a culture where women are afraid of food and no longer know how to eat the way nature intended. Despite evidence and research that shows dieting does not work, it remains a multimillion-dollar industry and continues to be the only solution presented when faced with the question, “How do I create a balanced relationship with food?”
Becca Clegg, LPC, CEDS, proposes a radical alternative: to improve your relationship with food, you must first improve your relationship with yourself. You must recognize how destructive mindsets inherent in our diet culture have infiltrated your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors in order to identify the real problem and correct your course. By identifying the ten destructive Diet Mindsets, you can change your perspective on dieting and embrace a newfound respect for your body. Live a life free of obsession, and instead gain the courage to love yourself and find peace within.
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About the Author
Becca Clegg is a licensed professional counselor, certified eating-disorder specialist (CEDS), IAEDP-approved eating-disorder supervisor, and certified clinical hypnotherapist. She is the president and clinical director of Authentic Living, a psychotherapy practice specializing in the treatment of women in recovery from eating disorders of Creative Health Initiatives (CHI), a group-therapy program that focuses on providing outpatient groups, programs, and workshops to women. In addition to her clinical practice, Becca is also a speaker, writer, and teacher, and presents nationally educating and facilitating workshops for women and other clinicians on the treatment of eating disorders, body image, and women's issues. For more information about Becca and her work, visit www.rebeccaclegg.com.
Read an Excerpt
The greatest discovery of all time is that a person can change his future by merely changing his attitude.
Before we jump into talking about the Diet Mindsets, it is important to define <|>mindset|> itself. This word has gotten really popular in the last few years, but to understand what a mindset is and the role mindsets play in our emotional, psychological, and behavioral life, a deeper explanation is in order.
A mindset is the set of attitudes or beliefs held by a person. You can have a different mindset about different things and situations in your life. In this case, with dieting, I look at your attitude and beliefs about dieting (mindset) as the primary driver behind your actions (motivation), which is the primary influence behind how you feel (emotions) when dieting. So, your mindset influences your motivation, which in turn influences your feelings.
Throughout this book, as I teach you about the ten Diet Mindsets, I encourage you to look at your mindset as it applies to all areas of your life. As I said earlier, the Diet Mindsets are the very reason why traditional diets fail us. But they don’t just fail us; they actually harm us because they allow us to integrate negative and fixed beliefs about our capabilities, our worth, and our value in this world. Remember, this book is not focused only on the mindsets involved in dieting, but what happens to our self-worth and emotional life as a result of the mindset. It is below the surface of the mindset where we discover the problem.
The destructive Diet Mindsets take hold of our belief systems and manifest in the form of low self-esteem, fear of failure, and a disheartened attitude toward making any and all changes to our relationship with food and exercise. Perhaps the most insidious fallout of relating to food with a Diet Mindset, though, is the total sense of disconnection with our bodies and our internal authority with regard to our own self-care.
For example, let’s look at two different women, Andrea and Jan (these are pseudonyms, not names of actual women I’ve worked with).
Andrea gets up every morning at 7:00 a.m., gets to the gym, carefully prepares her meals for the day, and keeps a journal to stay aware of what she is feeling and thinking. Jan does the exact same thing.
Now let’s look at mindset, or what drives their behavior. Andrea’s mindset tells her, “My body is flawed, and I’ll never be acceptable until I fix the flaws of my body. I have to lose this weight. I better not eat too much, or I’m going to gain weight. I can’t trust myself. I have to write down my food in my journal and track my weight, or I’m going to lose control. I’ve got to go the gym to work off what I have eaten. I can’t gain weight. I have to lose weight to be worthy.”
Jan’s mindset is very different. Her mindset tells her, “I need to take care of my body; if I don’t take care of myself, who will? I am tired of treating myself like crap. It’s time I start to show myself some respect. Eating is a fundamental need, not something to be worried about, and being mindful of what I eat is an act of self-care. Going to the gym keeps me strong and centered, but I don’t have to do it compulsively. Taking care of myself is a priority, but this is a practice, and perfection doesn’t exist. I deserve to have what I want, but it’s also okay to take breaks along the way.”
Now, I know that these two examples are extremes, which is intentional to make my point. Very few of us actually say these things (at least in that language) to ourselves, but I do think variations on these beliefs can be present, silently motivating our behaviors. Do you recognize your own thoughts or beliefs in either example?
In the examples, one is extremely damaging and the other is extremely empowering. The behaviors may look similar (intentional choices with food, journaling, and exercise), but the long-term psychological and emotional implications for each example are vastly different.
In the first example with Andrea, which is n example of a Diet Mindset, the changes in behavior will end up being self-destructive. In the second example with Jan, the changes in behavior will be sustainable and self-developing. The reasons for this are explained in the following chapters, Where we will look deeper into the psychology and nuances of the ten destructive Diet Mindsets.
Table of Contents
Ten Destructive Mindsets
A Note about Eating Disorders and Treatment
Chapter 1: What Is a Mindset?
Chapter 2: The Diet Mindset
Chapter 3: The Deprivation Mindset
Chapter 4: The Externalized Mindset
Chapter 5: The Mean Girl Mindset
The Jerk Boss Syndrome
Chapter 6: The RigidMindset
Chapter 7: The ABC Mindset
The Spiral of Change
Chapter 8: The Take-an-Aspirin Mindset
Needs of the Soul
Chapter 9: The Playing Small Mindset
Chapter 10: The Bureaucratic Mindset
Chapter 11: The Shame-BasedMindset
Chapter 12: The Misdirected-Attention Mindset
Chapter 13: Considerations
Weighing and Scales