enGendered celebrates the God-given distinctions between a man and a woman. It concludes that the more distinction is embraced, the closer a man and woman become. Thus gender, rightly understood, is a tool for intimacy. Written in a compassionate tone and winsome style, the volume speaks to Christians who want to know what the Bible says about gender differences and why. This theology of gender is also of value for people who struggle with same-sex attraction but want to follow Christ.
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About the Author
Sam A. Andreades was senior pastor of Faith Reformed Presbyterian Church in Quarryville, Pennsylvania from 2014 to 2018. Before that, he was a pastor for ten and a half years in Greenwich Village, New York City, and is the founder of Higher Ground (originally called G.A.M.E.: Gender Affirming Ministry Endeavor), a New York City ministry of Christian discipleship serving those with unwanted same-sex attractions. He is a graduate of Yale University (B.S., geology and geophysics), Reformed Theological Seminary (M.Div., pastoral ministry), New York University (M.S., artificial intelligence), and Covenant Theological Seminary (D.Min., urban mission and ministry) where he wrote his dissertation on gender distinction in marriage. Sam married his wife, Mary K., in 1990 and they have four children togetherThaddaeus, Jeremy, Veronica, and Enoch.
Table of Contents
List of Scenic Overlooks from the Bible 7
Introduction: Prohibitions Are Not Enough 12
"How come the sermons are always about what I can't do?"
Part 1 The Way through the Thicket: Who We Are and Where Relationships Come From
1 We Have Lost the Trail of Relational Love 20
"I am a lesbian. Does Jesus accept me Just as I Am?"
2 The God of Closeness Has Shown Himself 27
"What does God have to do with my love life?"
3 Gender Is Hard to Talk About for Good Reason 35
"Why do I feel embarrassed saying women are different from men?"
4 They Are Equal in Power and Glory 42
"Doesn't the Bible denigrate women?"
5 Gender Matters in Relationship 50
"Jesus never talks about homosexuality, does He?"
6 Sex Differences Form the Platform of God's Gift 58
"I thought boys were better at math, but then why is my wife a nuclear physicist?"
Part 2 The Trail Markers: Embracing Asymmetry for the Other
7 The Grand Asymmetries of Gender Give Us Specialties 70
"Where is my job description as a husband in this marriage thing?"
8 The Asymmetry of Origin: The Man of the Solid Ground and the Woman of the Resting Rib 81
"What do you want me to do, stay home and bake cookies?"
9 The Asymmetry of Order (Part 1): The Firstborn 94
"Can't I find a woman who is not so high-maintenance?"
10 The Asymmetry of Order (Part 2): The Promoter 111
"If were equal, why should he be in charge?"
11 The Asymmetry of Intent: The Commissioned and the Empowerer 123
"Why cant she get off my back about reading to the kids? I don't feel like it"
12 Gender Specialties: Banishing Independence 132
"What's wrong with cross-dressing?"
13 Culture: The Clothes of Gender 141
"Should I be worried that my friend Peggy spends all her spare time on football?"
Part 3 The Inner Wood: The Dynamics of Getting Close
14 The Purpose of the Genders: A Gift to Foster Intimacy 150
"It isn't possible for a homosexual man to enjoy sex with a woman…is it?"
15 Deeper Still: Dynamics of Intergendered Intimacy 155
"How could depending on her make me more me?"
16 Sex: Respecting the Platform of Distinction 166
"Why would God keep my gay friend from experiencing true love in a monogamous lifelong relationship?"
17 Continuum of Closeness: When Gender Does and Doesn't Matter 173
"Should I refuse my company's offer of CEO because I am a woman?"
18 The Immense Invitation 183
"How close can we get?"
Appendix 1 A Theology of Gender 192
Appendix 2 The Structure of Judges: We Need a King 199
Works Cited 233
Scripture Index 245