The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships & Other Adventures

The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships & Other Adventures

by Dossie Easton, Janet W. Hardy

Paperback(Revised)

$16.99

Overview

The essential guide for singles and couples who want to explore polyamory in ways that are ethically and emotionally sustainable.

For anyone who has ever dreamed of love, sex, and companionship beyond the limits of traditional monogamy, this groundbreaking guide navigates the infinite possibilities that open relationships can offer. Experienced ethical sluts Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy dispel myths and cover all the skills necessary to maintain a successful and responsible polyamorous lifestyle—from self-reflection and honest communication to practicing safe sex and raising a family. Individuals and their partners will learn how to discuss and honor boundaries, resolve conflicts, and to define relationships on their own terms.

"I couldn't stop reading it, and I for one identify as an ethical slut. This is a book for anyone interested in creating more pleasure in their lives . . . a complete guide to improving any style of relating, from going steady to having an extended family of sexual friends." —Betty Dodson, PhD, author of Sex for One

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781587613371
Publisher: Potter/Ten Speed/Harmony/Rodale
Publication date: 03/28/2009
Edition description: Revised
Pages: 296
Product dimensions: 6.00(w) x 8.90(h) x 2.70(d)

About the Author

JANET W. HARDY is the author of more than 10 books and founder of Greenery Press, a San Francisco Bay Area book publisher specializing in sexually adventurous books. She swore off monogamy in 1987.

THE AUTHOR SCOOP

Do you eat your vegetables?
Yes, but I’d rather steal your dessert.

Have any good pet stories?
My dear Amy – a gigantic shaggy lab/poodle mix who went to doggie heaven last summer – is still the stuff of legend in San Francisco’s alt-sex scene. One evening, she wandered into the room during a bondage demo: a sweetie of ours was modeling a spreadeagle pose. Amy took one look at her beloved auntie and immediately flopped down next to her on her back, all four legs spread out in the identical pose, as the room dissolved in hysterics and Auntie sat up, rubbing her wrists indignantly, and sputtered, “Upstaged by a fucking dog!”

Are you "six degrees of separation" away from anyone famous?
Distantly related to Clement C. Moore, author of The Night Before Christmas.

Do you have a scar anywhere on your body? How did you get it?
A stylized elephant branded on my right calf, put there by Fakir Musafar. Elephants are large, smart and matriarchal – hence, my totem.

What was your favorite birthday?
Ah, this is a good one… my 35th, the year my two main squeezes at the time took a cabin at Sea Ranch for my birthday and we spent the weekend mushroom-hunting, binge-eating and fucking.

Name a favorite dish that your mother used to make.
“Israeli salad,” which she learned to make when she was trapshooting on the American team in the Maccabiah Games, the Jewish olympics. A chopped salad made with tomatoes, cukes, hard-boiled eggs, bell peppers, etc., and tossed with olive oil and lemon juice.

What is your favorite thing about being an author?
Spelunking in my own brain.

DOSSIE EASTON is a licensed marriage and family therapist specializing in alternative sexualities and open relationships. She is the author of four other books. She lives in the San Francisco Bay Area and has been an ethical slut since 1969.

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments vii

Part 1 Welcome

1 Who Is an Ethical Slut? 3

2 Myths and Realities 9

3 Our Beliefs 20

4 Slut Styles 27

5 Battling Sex Negativity 41

6 Infinite Possibilities 46

Part 2 The Practice of Sluthood

7 Abundance 56

8 Slut Skills 63

9 Boundaries 71

Interlude: The Unethical Slut (A Rant) 78

10 Flirting and Cruising 82

11 Keeping Sex Safe 92

12 Childrearing 100

Part 3 Navigating Challenges

13 Roadmaps through Jealousy 108

Interlude: Clean Love 131

14 Embracing Conflict 133

15 Making Agreements 148

16 Opening an Existing Relationship 160

Part 4 Sluts in Love

17 Making Connection 182

18 Couples 190

19 The Single Slut 205

20 The Ebb and Flow of Relationships 218

21 Sex and Pleasure 226

22 Public Sex, Group Sex, and Orgies 250

Conclusion A Slut Utopia 268

A Slut's Glossary 272

Resource Guide 277

Index 281

About the Authors 287

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