Everyone Loves Sex: So Why Wait?: A Discussion in Sexual Faithfulness

by Bryan A. Sands

Overview

More than 100 million acts of sex occur every day in our world. If we are going to engage this arising generation, we need to

rethink how we frame the sexual faithfulness conversation.

And that’s exactly what this book does! Instead of the tired “Don’t—because the Bible says so” rhetoric, Everyone Loves Sex uncovers what psychology and sociology reveal—and the results may surprise you! Sexual faithfulness is about committing to one’s future spouse—in spite of what one’s sexual life has looked like in the

past. The future can be different! It is about making the change and honoring the one you love (or will love). Rather than casting judgment or condemnation, this book casts a vision for what your life could be, inspiring you to not only embrace positive change, but make a difference in the lives of others!

1. AUDIENCE: Millennials, 17 to 25 years old

2. EXPERIENCED AUTHOR: With over nineteen years of experience working with students, Bryan has a wide social media audience and is a sought-after speaker on the issue of sexual faithfulness.

3. UNIQUE PERSPECTIVE: This book not only presents why it make sense to wait for marriage from a psychological and sociological perspective, but also casts a positive vision of what the reader’s life can be.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9780891124887
Publisher:	Abilene Christian University Press
Publication date:	04/11/2017
Pages:	192
Product dimensions:	5.25(w) x 8.00(h) x 0.45(d)

Table of Contents

Contents

Foreword by Paul Angon........................................................ 15

Introduction—Sex, Science, Redemption, and Your Future... 19

Section One

The Purpose of Sexual Faithfulness:

Chapter 1—Why We Do What We Do ................................... 33

Chapter 2—Bonding or Bondage? ........................................ 45

Chapter 3—Am I Worth It?..................................................... 69

Section Two

The Vision of Sexual Faithfulness:

Chapter 4—What Our Lives Could Be .................................. 93

Chapter 5—How Much Is Your Selfie Worth? ...................... 111

Chapter 6—Are Sex and Love the Same Thing?.................. 137

Chapter 7—Sex Sells! But Should It?................................... 157

Conclusion—Loving Sex More than Ever! ........................... 177

Index..................................................................................... 187

Editorial Reviews

“God created us wired for sexual pleasure. Our sin complicates God’s good gift to us. Bryan Sands reminds us of God’s redemption and helps us understand our struggles and desires. I enthusiastically recommend his work, which is compellingly written as he addresses what may be the most crucial and controversial topic of today.”

— Tremper Longman III, Robert H. Gundry Professor of Biblical Studies, Westmont College, and the author of God Loves Sex

“Everyone Loves Sex is a honest and human manifesto to redeem the goodness, mystery, and beauty of sex. Using Scripture, story, culture, and science, Bryan Sands

courageously lays out a vision for what a new kind of sexual faithfulness could look like.”

—Steve Carter, Teaching Pastor, Willow Creek Community Church, author Invitational Life: Risking Yourself to Align with God’s Heartbeat for Humanity

“Bryan nailed it! Finally—an honest, straightforward, and challenging discussion of sex from a godly perspective. Bryan presents the case for faithfulness in a compelling way that truly communicates and reaches the hearts of young people. As a parent of teens, I am so grateful to have this book as a resource. Thank you, Bryan!”

— Tom Brooks, Music Producer (6 Platinum and 12 Gold Albums) and the author of The Language of Music

“Living in a culture that prides itself on being so open about the once-forbidden subject of human sexuality, it is shocking how much misinformation is floating around—often in the guise of authoritative fact. Small wonder that even people of faith are frequently confused in their thinking and damaged by their choices. With both clarity in

direction and hope for recovery, Bryan Sands brings the light of God’s perspective on sex while poignantly and wisely illustrating the reasons behind the principles. Here you will discover that God is not a cosmic killjoy out to limit our fun and restrict our enjoyment, but rather a giver of abundant life who desires his children to experience a great sex life.”

— Jim Reeve, Lead Pastor, Faith Community Church, author of Regenerate:Total Spiritual Transformation, and television host of Balance Living

“I would venture to say that a person’s romantic and sexual choices have the potential to impact their long term health and happiness more than almost any other decision in life. And we happen to live in a time when sexual mores are changing like never before. It’s a confusing and tumultuous time for the church as she attempts to discern what ‘sexual faithfulness’ looks like, yet keep young people in the pews and remain relevant as the culture undergoes drastic changes. At a time when many

young adults need more than a simple ‘Thus saith the Lord,’ Bryan’s book presents the scientific rationale behind biblical standards—and how beautiful sex can be in its safest and most glorious context.”

— Melody George, Director of the Emmy award-winning documentary End It Now, and the screenwriter of the upcoming feature film Your Love Is Strong

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