"The day my daughter Marley was born, I went straight to the nursery and held her for well over two hours. I just held her and cried because I had never experienced such a love for anyone or anything in my life. I think the nurses thought I was crazy because eventually they told me I needed to go be with my wife. Three days later, before we left the hospital, the pediatric doctor told us she thought Marley might have Down syndrome. My reaction: Are you freaking kidding me? I immediately had a panic attack."
Thus begins the brutally honest account of a new father who struggles with his faith, his family, and mostly himself as he comes to grips with the prospect of raising a child with a disability.
The author, Jack Barr, does not hold anything back as he shares his questions and his pain. Through a process of understanding, love, prayer, faith, and support from others, the author's perspective changes and he comes to realize the beautiful blessing that has been given to him and the privilege it is to be a father.
"Failing at Fatherhood" is indeed a book for the imperfect father and it will help any parent who may be struggling through a crisis of faith. By sharing Jack's story, one will grow in their perspective on life and God so that they may better understand their own role as a parent and spouse.
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Reviewed by Samantha Gregory for Readers' Favorite Failing at Fatherhood: A Book for the Imperfect Father by Jack Barr is the story of the birth of Jack's daughter, Marley, and her diagnosis of Down's Syndrome. Jack shares his feelings about the diagnosis and how it affected him in the early part of his daughter's life. He becomes angry at his wife, Marley, and God over the diagnosis, but instead of talking to anyone about it, he bottles it all up. As the book goes on, Jack begins to accept his daughter's diagnosis. Jack Barr has written about a difficult event in Failing at Fatherhood, but in the early chapters you don't really have any sympathy for him. His reaction is completely selfish - he is only worried about himself and how everything is affecting him. He has already written off his daughter before she has a chance to prove him wrong. Children with Down's Syndrome can live very full lives. Gradually, Jack learns to accept it and comes to terms with it. He tells us about his own childhood and the experiences he had with his own father and how they shaped him. There is a strong Christian influence in the book and Jack works in Thailand teaching people about God. Many parents of Down's Syndrome children will tell you that, while it can be difficult at times, they wouldn't change their child for anything. Having Down's Syndrome does not define a child, it is just a part of them. I think the book is interesting to read for parents of children born with a disability.
My breath was taken away many times while reading Author, Jack Barr’s book titled: Failing at Fatherhood, A book for the Imperfect Father. It is a raw, honest, and open look at one man’s faults when learning that his 3 day old ‘Marley’ has Down Syndrome, and how he reacts to this news. Even those with a strong “faith” can be rocked by such news. We then tend to feel and think it was our fault some how that this has happened to “my child”. Jack’s book shows us all as the human people that we are. We are not perfect by any means, we do at times react before we think things through, and we are a work in progress for a lifetime. His open heart, spilling out all his faults is a very brave thing to do, even in our society when men are taught or raised to be strong, not to show feelings or emotions. Jack is like any other man. My heart hurt many times of his deep sharing, and raw account of his story. Like one reader mentioned in their review, this book will take your on an in-depth emotional journey. And that is how I felt when done reading this well written book. I enjoyed his writing style, and like I did, take the reader on a journey. And you could read the rawness when he wrote of Marley. She is now a vibrant, sweet little 3 1/2-year-old darling that you will also fall in love with!! If she doesn’t to it by her photo on the front cover of the book? Reading more about her in Jack’s book will! Jack has done an exceptional job at Raising Awareness of Down Syndrome with his first book. I hope he continues Marley’s story, and the families in future books. It truly is worth the time to read. Catherine Lyon, Author