What you don't know can hurt you—
but it can also lead to self-acceptance and healing.
Family Secrets gives you the tools you need to understand your family—and yourself—in an entirely new way.
In his bestselling books and compelling PBS specials, John Bradshaw has transformed our understanding of how we are shaped by our families. Now join him on this fascinating journey of discovery, which starts with your life today and takes you back through the conflicts, the strengths, and the weaknesses of your parents’ generation—and even your grandparents’. Using a powerful technique for exploring your “family tree,” you’ll trace the visible and invisible patterns that have influenced you. You’ll learn about family secrets that are healthy and necessary, and also about the secrets that can limit your wholeness and freedom—even if you don’t know they exist.
This work is sometimes painful, but it is always enlightening—filled with the kind of “aha” moments and realizations that make everything fall into place. With John Bradshaw’s guidance, you will come to a new appreciation and acceptance of yourself. You will also be able to build more open, honest, and loving relationships with the people who matter most.
|Publisher:||Random House Publishing Group|
|Product dimensions:||5.25(w) x 8.25(h) x 0.63(d)|
About the Author
John Bradshaw was educated for the Roman Catholic priesthood and took advanced degrees in psychology, philosophy, and theology before becoming a professional counselor. He is the author of such major bestsellers as Family Secrets, Healing the Shame That Binds You, Homecoming, and Creating Love. He lives in Houston, Texas, and gives lectures and workshops nationwide.
Table of Contents
Do You Know a Secret Like This? vii
Parable: The Secret History of Dorothy xvii
Part 1 Finding Home by Leaving Home 1
1 When Silence Is Golden 3
2 When Secrets Are Dark 27
3 How Is It Possible Not to Know What You Know? 55
Part 2 Traversing The Haunted Forest 81
4 Beginner's Mind: Re-imagining Your Family 83
5 Drawing Your Family Map: The Genogram as Rosetta Stone 98
6 Your Ancestors' Dark Secrets 119
7 Your Father's Dark Secrets 142
8 Your Mother's Dark Secrets 169
Part 3 Getting Back to Kansas 197
9 Discovering Your Own Dark Secrets 199
10 Freeing Yourself from the Power of Dark Family Secrets 230
11 Staying Connected with Your Family 259
Appendix: The Paradox of Memory 279
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
"How does a Seeker liberate themselves from disempowering and limiting beliefs? By understanding your past personal history and then rewriting it, you empower yourself to move forward to recreate a timeless, limitless and abundant you. Cleaning out the family closet isn't easy but eventually it must be done! John Bradshaw's book can help."
This book gives great insight into the mysteries of life for those who have experienced difficult childhoods, and clears up why we do what we do. Very helpful to those who come from addictive families, power and control, domestic violence, etc. It helped me and I use it now to help others who are trying to learn how to stop the abuse in their lives.
How does a Seeker liberate themselves from disempowering and limiting beliefs? By understanding your past personal history and then rewriting it, you empower yourself to move forward to recreate a timeless, limitless and abundant you. Cleaning out the family closet isn't easy but eventually it must be done! John Bradshaw's book can help. I highly recommend this book and think it is a classic for many more years to come.
The author presents the effect of the hierarchy of family secrets upon the individual members; how these are translated into adulthood and the effect of the ingrained behaviors that subsequently are developed. By creating genograms, one can learn of the behavior patterns that exist in families and develop strategies or treatments to assist other members if the same characteristics are evident.