Fascinating Womanhood

Fascinating Womanhood

by Helen Andelin

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What makes a woman fascinating to her husband? What is happiness in marriage for a woman? These are just two of the questions Helen B. Andelin answers in the bestselling classic that has already brought new happiness and life to millions of couples.

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ISBN-13: 9780553292206
Publisher: Random House Publishing Group
Publication date: 01/01/1992
Edition description: REV
Pages: 512
Sales rank: 98,056
Product dimensions: 4.14(w) x 6.86(h) x 1.10(d)

About the Author

Helen Andelin is the founder of the Fascinating Womanhood movement and is also the author of The Fascinating Girl. She lives in Phoenix, Arizona.

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Fascinating Womanhood

By Helen Andelin


Copyright © 2007 Helen Andelin
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ISBN: 0553384279

The Answer

The first step to a happy marriage is to understand that all life is governed by law--nature, music, art, and all of the sciences. These laws are immutable. To live in harmony with them produces health, beauty, and the abundant life. To violate them brings ugliness and destruction. Just as unwavering are the laws of human relationships. These laws are in operation even though you may not understand them. You may be happy in marriage because you obey them, or you may be unhappy because you violate them without an awareness of the laws in operation.

Through ignorance of the laws of marriage relationships, much unnecessary unhappiness exists. We find one woman happy, honored, and loved; and another--no less attractive, no less admirable, no less lovable--neglected, unhappy, and disappointed. Why? This book explains why, for it teaches the laws she must obey if she is to be loved, honored, and adored.

Fascinating Womanhood

Fascinating Womanhood will teach you how to be happy in marriage. There are three essentials in reaching the goal:

1. Love: Since the cornerstone of a happy marriage is love, you will learn how to awaken your husband's love. These teachings apply, no matter what your age or situation. Love is not limited to the young or the beautiful, but to thosewho have qualities that awaken it.

If your husband doesn't love you, you are likely doing something to cool his affections, or have lost something which awakens his love. You may have begun marriage lovingly but romance is fading. Why? Could it be that you have changed? Take a good look. In most cases a man stops loving a woman after marriage because she stops doing things which arouse his feelings. When you regain your charming ways, love can be rekindled.

In winning your husband's love, it isn't necessary for him to know or do anything about it. This isn't to say that he doesn't make mistakes or need to improve, but when you correct your mistakes you bring about a loving response in him. Frequently his response is so remarkable that it exceeds your highest expectations.

The art of awakening a man's love is not a difficult accomplishment for women because it is based on our natural instincts. However, in our highly civilized life many of our natural instincts have become rusty due to lack of use. You need only to awaken the traits which belong to you by nature.

2. Self-Dignity: Essential to happiness in marriage is self-dignity. Does your husband ever speak to you harshly, criticize you unduly, treat you unfairly, neglect you, impose on you, or in any way mistreat you? The important thing is not what he does but how you react. Do you shrink back as if struck by a lash? Do you go into your shell? Do you pay him back with a cutting remark? Or, do you fly off the handle with an ugly temper? If you react in any of these ways you will cause yourself unnecessary grief and lessen your husband's love for you.

No man likes an ugly temper, nor does he want a woman he can walk on, or one who will retreat into her shell and feel sorry for herself. He wants a woman with some spunk--some hidden fire, a woman he can't push around. Some men even admire little spitfires, women who are adorably independent and saucy, whom they can't put down with even the most degrading remark.

In Fascinating Womanhood the method of handling wounded feelings is called childlike anger, spunk, or sauciness. It will teach you how to handle a man's rough nature without pain, without friction. You can, in a flash, turn a crisis into a humorous situation, so that the man may have the sudden impulse to laugh. Instead of hurting marriage, childlike anger can increase love and tenderness.

3. Desires: If you are to be happy in marriage your desires must be considered. I am referring to things you want to have, places you want to go, something you want to do, or something you want done for you. This is not to suggest selfish whims, but worthy desires. Unfortunately, you may have gone without these things for years because you didn't know how to motivate your husband to do these things for you.

As a consequence, his feelings for you have likely diminished. We love whom we serve. If your husband never does anything for you beyond the call of duty, he may lose his love for you. In Fascinating Womanhood you will learn how to obtain the things you need and deserve without causing a marital stir. Your husband will want to do things for you and will love you more because of it.

Although the teachings focus on building a relationship with your husband, the principles apply in building a relationship with any man--father, brother, son, teacher, student, employer. Take care, however, that you don't use them unrighteously, to win the affections of a married man. You would be guilty of a cruel sin and would destroy another woman's relationship as well as your own. In relationships outside of your marriage, apply them only to eliminate friction and to build harmony and trust.

The teachings are also helpful to the single mother who is rearing a family without a father present in the home. She becomes the feminine image for her children to view, as essential to boys in developing their manliness as to girls in developing their womanliness. She should also teach them about masculinity by providing them with a male image to associate with--her father, a brother, or another male person.

Within these pages you will learn principles to follow if you are to be happy, loved, and cherished. The study centers around the ideal woman, from a man's point of view, the kind of woman who awakens a man's deepest feelings of love. Within your reach is the possibility of a happy marriage. You can bring it about independent of any effort on the part of your husband. So, you hold the keys to your own happiness.

In accomplishing this you lose none of your dignity, influence, or freedom, but gain them, and it is only then that you can play your vital part in this world. The role of a woman when played correctly is fulfilling, fascinating, and full of intrigue. There never need be a dull moment. The practice of this art of womanhood is an enjoyable one, filled with rich rewards, numerous surprises, and vast happiness. Many years of experience teaching thousands of women has proven this to be true.

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Fascinating Womanhood 4 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 23 reviews.
Guest More than 1 year ago
As a previous commenter said,this was garbage, is NOT true. This book was a turning point in my life and my relationship with my husband. Because it helped me to see what his needs were as a man, and I was able to do what I could to make him feel special and in turn, he treated me with more respect and love and cherished me more than even before, and we had a good marriage before. He did not nor does not overpower me, however he is the 'head' because anything with two heads is a monster and no marriage can be stable with a monster. I loved this book and recommend it to everyone
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
It's not clearly stated, but this is a super, SUPER old version of the book (1980's). I have the newer version of the book and highly recommend it. Was trying to buy this book for a friend, but was not expecting it to be so old.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
There was a couple of reviewers who stated that anyone who liked this book was weakminded. I am a strong woman who has her own mind and I loved this book. What is wrong with a woman thinking of others before herself. This world is filled with selfish selfminded people. The problem is that the so called feminists aren't mad at men they are dissatissfied with themselves and blame others for their own issues. I love this book and highly recommend it to others
KB3 More than 1 year ago
I purchased this book based off my pastor's wife recommendation. I have to say it's addicting and very hard to stop reading. I haven't finished the book yet but just from what I read and put in practice I have seen a major difference in my husband. I feel like we are newly weds again! If you think you have a great marriage you still should read this book it will help make it even better! I could go on and on! This is a definite every woman's must read weather you are married or engaged!
Romashka More than 1 year ago
This book is awesome!!! If you read it carefully and obey, it will save your marrage and make it happy!!!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Good book - Good info - This is the earlier edition and it is nearly half the cost of the newer edition. Other book worth getting for the men is Man of Steel and Velvet... However it is not available from BN, only found at FascinatingWomanhood.net 888-890-1750. Otherwise used copies are outrageously priced.
Guest More than 1 year ago
I just want to say that I just read the first Angelic quality about accepting him...then implemented it and I already see the difference...WOW!! I am a college graduate with a business degree and this book is master's degree course in marriage and relationship techniques. I am grateful for the spiritually inspired author that has helped women to find out what REAL womanhood is all about.... It's a fascinating read so far!
Guest More than 1 year ago
I was raised by a single mom so I give her a lot of credit, but she's kind of down on men. I was recomended this book by a friend and it completely changed how i relate to men. I'm more comforatable and confident talking with guys. I thank God for this book.
Guest More than 1 year ago
This is the single most important book for women who want to be good wives and want to gain the love of their husbands. This book is a practical guide but also very enjoyable reading. Once you read it you will sing Helen B. Andelin's praises the rest of your life.
Guest More than 1 year ago
Then you can activate him indirectly to change himself! IT WORKS! I now understand what men want and need and what women want and need out of relationships. I have applied this knowledge. Our marriage went from me considering divorce to the strongest on either side of our families and seen as perfect by all our friends. I recommend this book to every woman - men won't read it because it has a pink cover! which is just how we want it ;)heehee! Proverbs 31:10-12 Who can find a virtuous women?for her prices is far above rubies. The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life. Thank you God for this book!
Guest More than 1 year ago
I haven't even read the whole book yet. But great books start out great and the information gets better and better. This book is an absolute must for all women, married or not.
MadameJarrin on LibraryThing More than 1 year ago
Written in the early '60s, Fascinating Womanhood is both of its time and timeless. A self-help book written for women who wish to learn how to "awaken a man's deepest love and tenderness". Certainly some of the advice will be off-putting for some of today's liberated ladies and the author does at times refer to Bible passages, but if one can put aside a knee-jerk reaction to disdain the entirety of this treatise for the few outdated flaws it may be burdened with, a great deal of reinforcement and validation for elegant femininity can be gleaned from these pages. On a personal note and as testimony for the qualities of the information in this book, I would like to add that I myself am not Christian, therefore my admiration for its content are wholly based on the efficacy of the advice I have put into practice in my own day-to-day life.
Ponies on LibraryThing More than 1 year ago
Interesting to read this old-fashioned viewpoint. Some of it seems useful, some of it seems oppressive. I can see that the christian-type people might put this into practice, but it could also be a good read for those into bdsm.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This book is not a realistic view of marriage or the real world for that matter I have worked in the human services field for many years and have seen the result of severe abuse. I grew up in a home I knew both of my parents who believed in God so forth and so on. The husband is suppose to lead his household, the wife should be supportive so forth and so on however, no woman should ever allow anyone to have complete control over her nor treat her the children in an abusive manner if so DIVORCE AND LEAVE IMMEDIATELY. 2. Cheating is a CHOICE if your husband is cheating with another woman why is it the fault of the wife? Wow!! this book gives the impression that wives should allow anything and cater to their husband for fear of hurting their husbands pride etc.... God made people to love and respect one another and work together through the tough times however, if the marriage causing pain and hurting your family let go and move on God gave human beings common sense God does not condone foolishness
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Guest More than 1 year ago
Mrs Andelin wrote a masterpiece in Fascinating Womanhood. It is so practical and specific in helping women be "successful" wives. School and college helped me get into the workforce, but didn't help me at all with being a wife. This is a MUST read for wives. I regularly give this to women at my church. BTW, the website cited in the book is now the title of the book dot net.
Guest More than 1 year ago
Thirty years of women's liberation cannot dispell the fact that women are in need of love and romance.Some women DO make good men, yet most of us want to be cherish,loved and adored,and the only way to obtain what we want is to respect the husband's headship and support it in our marriages. Women have limitations in emotion and strength;we need men to fullfill their roles of leadership in the home.
---Al--- More than 1 year ago
This book is horrile!!! Oh yeah, let's have the woman change and let the man stay the same. If the marriage is failing, it is up to the woman to fix it. She does away with her "problems" and "habits" but does the man...the answer to that is no. She needs to act "childish" just so that her husband won't get mad at her? This book is incredibly sexist/anti-feminist and I can't believe that this crap was written by a woman for goodness sake!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Anyway, a husband should respect his wife automatically. We are not dogs who need to do tricks to impress our husbands and gain their respect!

In response to the first posters's review, I am sorry but I am in no way "limited" in my emotions or my strength. If you are a woman, I feel sorry for you that you think so low of yourself.

I would recommend this book to NO ONE and if I could, I would give it ZERO stars!!!
Guest More than 1 year ago
I think you women are out of your minds. I do not need a man to tell me what to do. Men aren't the heads of a household unless you are too weak to think for yourself. I believe in a marriage in which a man loves his wife, cherishes, and respects her as an equal. Stop lying to yourselves. This book is crap.