Fighting for Your Marriage: A Deluxe Revised Edition of the Classic Best-seller for Enhancing Marriage and Preventing Divorce

Fighting for Your Marriage: A Deluxe Revised Edition of the Classic Best-seller for Enhancing Marriage and Preventing Divorce


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A thorough revision with a new DVD of couples in action, using the PREP method for strengthening marriage and avoiding divorce court

The third edition of the best-selling classic on marriage enhancement and divorce prevention, features the latest research and changes of heart in our culture and society. New and revised, Fighting for Your Marriage is based on the widely acclaimed PREP (Prevention and Relationship Enhancement Program) approach. Groundbreaking studies have found that couples can use the strategies of this approach to handle conflict more constructively, protect their happiness, and reduce the odds of breaking up.

  • The book is based on more than twenty years of university research
  • Explores how to apply the PREP approach to any marriage
  • Shows couples how to talk more and fight less, deepen and protect their friendship, and keep the fun alive
  • Reveals what it takes to have a more intimate, sensual relationship and how to clarify and act on priorities

The authors have included a wealth of techniques and down-to-earth guidance for all couples who seek to promote greater character and pleasure in their long-term relationships.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780470485910
Publisher: Wiley
Publication date: 04/26/2010
Pages: 464
Sales rank: 157,959
Product dimensions: 5.90(w) x 9.00(h) x 1.40(d)

About the Author

Howard J. Markman, Ph.D., is professor of psychology and co-director of the Center for Marital and Family Studies at the University of Denver.

Scott M. Stanley, Ph.D., is codirector of the Center for Marital and Family Studies at the University of Denver.

Susan L. Blumberg, Ph.D., is director of Interpersonal Communication Options in Denver, CO.

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Table of Contents


Introduction 1

Part One: Understanding the Risks on the Road to Lasting Love.

1. Five Keys for a Great Relationship: PREP in a Nutshell.

2. Destructive Patterns: Signs of Danger Ahead.

3. Changing Roles, Changing Rules: Men and Women in Conflict.

Part Two: Teaming Up to Handle Conflict.

4. When What You Heard Isn’t What I Said: Understanding Filters in Communication.

5. Talking Safely Without Fighting: The Speaker Listener Technique.

6. Controlling the Home Fires: Handling Issues and Events Well.

7. New Perspectives on Problems and Problem Solving.

8. Keeping Confl ict Under Control: Ground Rules for a Great Relationship.

Part Three: Enjoying Each Other.

9. Safe Harbor: Preserving and Protecting Friendship.

10. Being There: Supporting One Another in Life.

11. Playing Together: How to Succeed in Fun Without Really Trying.

12. Sense and Sensuality: Enhancing and Protecting Your Sex Life.

13. Sacred Places: Core Beliefs and Spiritual Intimacy.

Part Four: Staying the Course.

14. Why You Can't Always Get What You Want: Unraveling the Mysteries of Expectations.

15. Forgiveness: Restoring Hope.

16. Sticking, Stuck, or Stopped: On the Path to Commitment.

17. Moving Forward.

Getting More Help.

Resources and Training.


About the Authors.


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Fighting for Your Marriage 3.9 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 20 reviews.
DcnBill More than 1 year ago
My wife and I have been involved in marriage preparation for engaged couples and in marriage enrichment for over 12 years. When we discovered "Fighting For Your Marriage" we knew that we had found a gold mine. This is a book that every married couple should have. Every couple should keep it handy to refer to frequently. "Fighting For Your Marriage" is based on sound research. It provides communications techniques that are proven. We have used it as the required text for our marriage enrichment programs and not one single couple who purchased the book has said that they regret the purchase. In fact, every couple has commented on how easy the book is to read and how thoroughly practical and helpful it is. We all get married desiring a lifelong partnership in which we feel happy and secure. However, when two distinct personalities are joined together in marriage, it is hardly surprising that even in the strongest of relationships there are times when we don't feel happy or secure. There are always areas of our relationship that we need to work on. This book responds to these needs. "Fighting For Your Marriage" seeks to reinforce a understanding of "couple identity" and to ensure that we do not neglect the vitally important aspect of friendship in our marriage. Using the techniques provided in this book to talk about difficult issues without fighting insures that the intimate friendship relationship between spouses will not erode due to poorly handled conflict. Buy this book today!
Guest More than 1 year ago
I recently had the opportunity to participate in a small group using this text as a marriage counseling tool. My participation was out of professional curiosity, but I must say the experience was healthy for everyone in the group...even me who wasn't there to shore up a faltering relationship. I heartily recommend it for use by anyone looking for answers and solutions in their relationship. As with my introduction to the work, attest to its usefulness as a group study tool. Seperate groups for husbands and wives may work better and encourage the appropriate levels of participation in the discussions that will inevitably result. Those just looking for a well written guide to relationship maintenence will also find this text valuable. I guess you may have noticed my high regard for this book. Let me just say that I travel frequently and often encounter people troubled with the stresses of separation. This book has been an invaluable tool to help me encourage them through their struggles. As a matter of fact, I came here to check the price as I prepare to recommend it to several folks on the road with me today. Happy trails.
Guest More than 1 year ago
A real go getter of a book. Lots of things to meditate on. It isn't something to just speed read! Getting to root problems in any relationship can be understood in another book titled 'why singles are not married & the married are single' Another excellent writing with deep insights and gender reconcilliation.
Guest More than 1 year ago
This book gives common sence ideas for communicating and relating to your spouse in a productive, healthy way. Our marriage is definately enhanced because of what we have learned and applied in our relationship. The communication skills learned in this book can be used in all facets of life.
Guest More than 1 year ago
Before my wife and I got married we had some really bad issues. a counselor I was seeing to help me with depression recommended this book to us.. After reading it we got married and are still married.. it will be 6 years this may..I credit much of our success on the book.
Guest More than 1 year ago
There is great material in this book but too much of it. I got bogged down and had to force myself forward in reading it. Any marriage can benefit from this book. The book does teach us to be better listeners and communicators and there are tools available for how we handle our disagreements. I thought some of the humor was good but some friends didn't like it. We all have our own sense of humor. Stan Cronin's book 'How to Date Your Wife' is another book that has similar concepts but its half the length and a much easier read. Forgiving and staying the course, or I prefer to call it enduring to the end are principles I agree with and they are contained herein. Everyone can improve their marriage by reading these two books.
Guest More than 1 year ago
This book was required reading when my husband and I went to marriage counselling a few years ago. The PREP method outlined in the book literally saved our marriage. I would highly recommend this book to every couple, happy or otherwise. We have shared our copy with friends, and consider it an invaluable wedding gift. We know now that whatever trials we face (and there have been huge ones already), we can get through them, together.
Guest More than 1 year ago
What an absolutely wonderful book that puts the challenges of marriages in perspective and offers many good examples on how to improve your relationship. I highly recommend this book to anyone in a marriage or serious relationship. Whether you're happy or not, there are some great ideas here that will benefit you and your marriage. Its emphasis on restoring the friendship in your marriage is right on! This book is inspiring and offers hope.
LTW on LibraryThing More than 1 year ago
This book has a lot of worthwhile information in it, however, there are some obvious problems with it as well. It makes some overarching statements like "70% of women behave", without citing the source of their information. In fact there is no bibliography. Thus this book should be viewed with a critical eyes, with the reader asking whether certain information really applies to their marriage.
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Good book
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