Table of Contents
Introduction 7
Step 1 Making a Commitment to Build Romantic Love 9
Agreement to Meet the Most Important Emotional Needs and Overcome Love Busters 11
Step 2 Identifying the Most Important Emotional Needs 13
Emotional Needs Questionnaire 14
Step 3 Learning to Meet the Most Important Emotional Needs 27
Learning to Meet the Need of Affection 28
Affection Inventory 30
Strategy to Meet the Need of Affection 32
Affection Worksheet 34
Learning to Meet the Need of Intimate Conversation 36
Friends and Enemies of Intimate Conversation Inventory 38
Strategy to Meet the Need of Intimate Conversation 40
Friends and Enemies of Intimate Conversation Worksheet 42
Learning to Meet the Need of Sexual Fulfillment 45
Sexual Experience Inventory 47
Strategy to Discover the Five Stages of Sexual Experience 52
Sexual Experience Worksheet 53
Sexual Fulfillment Inventory 55
Strategy to Meet the Need of Sexual Fulfillment 57
Sexual Fulfillment Worksheet 59
Learning to Meet the Need of Recreational Companionship 61
Recreational Enjoyment Inventory 63
Strategy to Meet the Need of Recreational Companionship 66
Recreational Companionship Worksheet 67
Learning to Set Aside Time for Undivided Attention 69
Time for Undivided Attention Worksheet 71
Time for Undivided Attention Graph 73
Learning to Meet the Need of Honesty and Openness 74
Honesty and Openness Inventory 75
Strategy to Become Honest and Open 77
Honesty and Openness Worksheet 79
Learning to Meet the Need of Physical Attractiveness 81
Physical Appearance Inventory 82
Strategy to Meet the Need of Physical Attractiveness 83
Learning to Meet the Need of Financial Support 84
Financial Support Inventory: Needs and Wants Budget 86
Strategy to Meet the Need of Financial Support 90
Learning to Meet the Need of Domestic Support 92
Household Responsibilities Inventory 94
His Household Responsibilities 95
Her Household Responsibilities 96
Learning to Meet the Need of Family Commitment 97
Family Commitment Inventory 99
Strategy to Meet the Need of Family Commitment 101
Quality Family Time Worksheet 103
Quality Family Time Graph 105
Learning to Meet the Need of Admiration and Appreciation 106
Admiration and Appreciation Inventory 107
Strategy to Meet the Need of Admiration and Appreciation 109
Admiration and Appreciation Worksheet 111
Step 4 Identifying Love Busters 113
Love Busters Questionnaire 114
Step 5 Overcoming Love Busters 123
Overcoming Selfish Demands 124
Selfish Demands Inventory 126
Strategy to Replace Selfish Demands with Thoughtful Requests 128
Guidelines to Making Thoughtful Requests Inventory 130
Selfish Demands Worksheet 132
Thoughtful Requests Worksheet 134
Overcoming Disrespectful Judgments 136
Disrespectful Judgments Inventory 138
Strategy to Replace Disrespectful Judgments with Respectful Persuasion 140
Guidelines to Respectful Persuasion Inventory 142
Disrespectful Judgments Worksheet 144
Respectful Persuasion Worksheet 146
Overcoming Angry Outbursts 148
Angry Outbursts Inventory 150
Strategy to Overcome Angry Outbursts 152
Angry Outbursts Worksheet 155
Overcoming Dishonesty 157
Dishonesty Inventory 159
Strategy to Overcome Dishonesty 161
Dishonesty Worksheet 163
Overcoming Annoying Habits 165
Annoying Habits Inventory: Part 1 167
Annoying Habits Inventory: Part 2 168
Strategy to Overcome Annoying Habits 170
Annoying Habits Worksheet 172
Overcoming Independent Behavior 174
Practice Resolving the Five Most Common Issues in Marriage 177
Resolving Your Unresolved Conflicts Using the Policy of Joint Agreement and the Four Guidelines for Successful Negotiation 186
Marital Negotiation Worksheet 193
Possible Solutions for Practice Conflicts 195
How to Find a Good Marriage Counselor 199
