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Flying without a Helicopter: How to Prepare Young People for Work and Life
     

Flying without a Helicopter: How to Prepare Young People for Work and Life

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by Joanie B. Connell Ph.D.
 

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"In Flying Without a Helicopter, Joanie Connell details unique challenges faced by young adults and their leaders in the workplace,
offering action plans readers can apply to their 'real work' situation as they move

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"In Flying Without a Helicopter, Joanie Connell details unique challenges faced by young adults and their leaders in the workplace,
offering action plans readers can apply to their 'real work' situation as they move toward solution. This book was written for you-whether you are a manager, a young adult new to the business world, or a parent of that young adult. Thanks, Joanie, for zooming in on this timely topic!"

-Ken Blanchard, coauthor of The One Minute Manager®

and Great Leaders Grow

"The problems Joanie Connell describes are real. Employees are entering-and leaving-the workplace without the levels of resilience and independence they need to succeed. I recommend Flying without a Helicopter to people who want to develop the life skills needed to succeed in the corporate world (and their parents) and to leaders who want their companies to succeed."

- Daniel Bradbury, CEO coach, investor, life science consultant,

and former CEO of Amylin Pharmaceuticals

"Managing across generations now is remarkably difficult, as each one approaches timelines, deadlines, conflict, and recognition in different ways. To understand these differences and leverage the creativity within, you could do no better than to read Connell's
Flying without a Helicopter! A wise read for leaders as well as employees, job seekers, and even parents!"

-Marshall Goldsmith author of the New York Times and global bestseller What Got You Here Won't Get You There


Product Details

ISBN-13:
9781491752647
Publisher:
iUniverse, Incorporated
Publication date:
12/11/2014
Pages:
170
Product dimensions:
5.50(w) x 8.50(h) x 0.39(d)

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Flying without a Helicopter

How to Prepare Young People for Work and Life


By Joanie B. Connell

iUniverse

Copyright © 2015 Joanie B. Connell, Ph.D.
All rights reserved.
ISBN: 978-1-4917-5264-7



CHAPTER 1

What Is Going On at Work?


A few years back, I gave a talk to a law firm about generational differences in work styles. The meeting consisted of lawyers at all levels. Because it was the summer, the law school student interns were invited to watch. I was in the process of going over differences of work styles between baby boomers, Generation Xers, and millennials, when a senior partner (a baby boomer) suddenly shot up from his chair and went on a diatribe about how lazy millennial workers are and how they should not be hired at all within the firm. Needless to say, he got people's attention. The younger associates immediately jumped up and fought back. They were lawyers, so they fought with words, not fists, but it got so heated I began to worry that a brawl wasn't out of the question. The interns looked on from the sidelines, wide-eyed. I had to jump in to defuse the situation. It was one of the more memorable seminars of my career.

In a completely different industry, another executive recently said one of her company's biggest problems with newly hired young workers is that they aren't able to work with others. She said they lack communication skills, something that is interesting because the millennial generation is known for liking to work in collaborative groups. However, in this executive's experience (which is not atypical), teamwork had not gone as smoothly as she would have liked with the new generation of employees.

In a similar vein, the CEO of a large technology company said he has had bad experiences with millennial generation employees. In his experience, the millennials whom they employed did not get the work done, were not willing to put in the time and effort to get the results the company was looking for, and were difficult to work with. He said he encouraged people at his company not to hire anyone less than thirty years old. This may be the new ageism.

A director at a health services provider complained about parents of her employees getting involved at work. She said when she turned down a job applicant, his mother called. Parental involvement at work is a common occurrence today. The New York Times reported on a survey conducted in 2006 by the career website Experience, Inc. Of the four hundred respondents, 25 percent said their parents were involved in their jobs "to the point that it was either annoying or embarrassing" (Belkin 2007). Examples include calling the boss to get time off on holidays, negotiating salaries, and asking for promotions for their adult children. Managers are put off by having to talk to their employees' parents, and they are becoming concerned that their employees are incapable of taking care of themselves.

These examples are prototypical of what is happening in the workplace today. Numerous articles have been published that depict the differences between older and younger workers. For example, The Conference Board is an internationally renowned association that supports organizations and provides best-practice research to for-profit and not-for-profit organizations. One of their recent executive action white papers is titled "Will you want to hire your own kids? (Will anybody else?)." The paper features comments from CEOs of several major corporations that focus on how recent graduates are lacking the skills needed for the workplace ("Will you want to hire your own kids? [Will anybody else?]" 2009).


The Millennial Generation

As much as parents oversend the message to their millennial children that they are special, there is no denying that the millennial generation is special in some ways. They are the most tech savvy, most educated, and most prepared generation of all time. That said, they have some critical blind spots that could lead to quick derailment once they are in the workplace. Their preparation for the future is coached, taught, protected, and academically shielded from the real world. This is the crux of what this book is about. My goal is to shift our approach to preparing children for the future from a narrow, academic approach to a well-rounded one. Academics are important, but life is much broader than that.

Countless books and articles have been written on the characteristics of the millennial generation. In addition to their bountiful education and technical skills, research has shown that millennials, as compared to previous generations, tend to want to be more collaborative, are accustomed to working in teams, and have a passion for pressure (Shih and Allen 2007). They change jobs frequently, want lifelong learning, expect on-the-job training, and want to proactively plan their own careers (Kim, Knight, and Crutsinger 2009; Meister 2012; Westerman and Yamamura 2007; Zemke, Raines, and Filipczak 2000). They are motivated by different factors from previous generations (such as advancement potential and free time) more than money or greater responsibilities, per se (Barford and Hester 2011). What really matters to them is getting what they want on a personal level (Fisher 2009). The post-millennial generation wants this even more.


Specific Trends in the Workplace

Early Career Burnout

Twenty-somethings are experiencing work stress and burnout at disturbingly high rates (Jager-Hyman 2009; Khidekel 2010; "Stress in America Findings" 2010). Previously, career burnout was a midlife issue. Now it is happening early on, at the beginning of people's careers. The twenty-somethings are showing signs of burnout by asking for time off or reduced work hours, or are opting out altogether and moving back with their parents. There is also a trend for young people to start their own companies that have more relaxed work schedules. Other signs include the increased use of prescription drugs and alternative relaxation methods, such as yoga and acupuncture, among young workers.

Twenty-something millennial women are particularly at risk of career burnout. They report higher stress levels in numerous studies around the world. Similar to millennial men, they have worked so hard to get to the light at the end of the education tunnel only to find they are merely at the beginning of the career tunnel. They see a dubious future and want to get out but are strapped down with colossal student loans. Unlike men, it seems modern women have been so intent on asserting their independence that they are not as apt to take care of themselves when they are stressed. Some may rather work themselves into the ground than cut back to balance their lives or depend on a husband for support. In any case, they are more stressed and burned out than their male counterparts (Faw 2011).

Millennial men and women alike seem to have higher expectations of work satisfaction than people of previous generations. A recent study of early career burnout found that high work ideals, or high expectations, were a significant cause of early career burnout. High expectations that are not matched in real working life may cause a reality shock that increases the risk of burnout (Djordjevic 2010).

Why do millennials have such great expectations? Millennials seem to have a sense that they deserve the fast track without having to put in the effort. They expect to have interesting jobs that do not impinge on their personal lives. When they are stuck doing drone work, such as answering phones, they balk. "What I see as boredom, they see as burnout," says a thirty-year-old Gen X owner of a marketing firm (Khidekel 2010). The generations before have had to work their way up the ladder, oft en putting in long hours and sacrificing personal time to advance. Some may argue that millennials are too soft and entitled, and they cannot take the pressure. Others might say millennials have already put in the time and sacrifice at school and are now ready for the payoff. What's more, millennials have had terrible luck with their timing. They have worked insanely throughout school with the promised payoff of the dream job, and then the economic crisis hit. No wonder they are burned out and dissatisfied!

When all is said and done, the depressed economy may be adding challenges for young people, but it is not the root of the problem. Millennials have a reputation of impatience and dissatisfaction, jumping from job to job. For example, a supervisor at a call center said the turnover rate for twenty-somethings is every two months. Most companies have a ninety-day probationary period to see if the employee is working out. Over the years, companies have found it takes three months to settle into a new job and see if the employee can handle it. The millennials at the call center are quitting before they've even given it a fair chance.


Hand Holding

The impressions millennials are making on the people who are already in the workforce are not entirely positive. They appear self-confident and vulnerable at the same time. They seem to need constant feedback and support—and the feedback has to be positive, even glowing.

One doctor relayed his experiences of giving feedback to residents. He said the young residents are so accustomed to being told how wonderful they are that when he gives them negative evaluations, they leave his office in tears. The millennials aren't used to losing. They have been told repeatedly that "everyone's a winner," and they have been sheltered from defeat along the way. They are under the impression that they are amazing. Look at their résumés, after all. They need to keep this vision of themselves alive to maintain their self-esteem that has been artificially inflated by years of bogus praise.

In addition to praise, managers complain that younger workers need constant reassurance that they are on track. Managers complain they don't have time to give the up-to-the-minute feedback these employees seem to expect. The managers also say these workers aren't able to move forward with their tasks without instructions at every step of the way. They seem to have difficulty working independently and taking a project and running with it.

Managers comment on how "high maintenance" the young workers are. They also comment on the lack of creativity of the new generation of workers. They seem to expect to be told what to do (but not in an authoritative way) and how to do it, sometimes to the point of managers wondering if it would be simpler just to do the work themselves.

Not only are employees depending on more support from their managers and colleagues, but they also are depending on support from their parents at work. It is commonplace for adult workers to text or call their parents multiple times during the workday for support and advice. Managers are also complaining about having to take time to deal with their employees' parents. Parent calls range from simply informing the manager that the employee is sick to demanding a promotion for the employee. Managers and recruiters increasingly have to involve the parents in the hiring process, as well.

When talking with managers at organizations, oft en the first complaint they have about their younger employees is their lack of communication skills. Millennials are used to interacting with each other in short electronic chats and communicating in slang, abbreviations, and memes. Millennials are used to working at a fast pace and are used to getting immediate results. Immediacy is important to them; patience is not (Meister and Willyerd 2010). Neither are the skills of speaking and writing formally. In terms of writing, millennials have a tendency to rush through projects and turn in completed work without fine-tuning or proofreading. They copy and paste rather than write out things. I have heard countless complaints from managers of younger employees turning in work that is literally unusable.

In terms of interacting, millennials are accustomed to multitasking and working in a digital time frame, which does not offer much opportunity to reflect or control emotions. They respond quickly and impulsively, which can compromise teamwork. Millennials are known for being less empathic than other generations, meaning they do not feel what others feel. They are also known for being more narcissistic, meaning they focus more on themselves. Narcissists do not see their impact on others as well as non-narcissists. They criticize others and promote themselves. Narcissists are not good team players.

Ironically, millennials are known for being more collaborative; they like working in groups. It seems they would have great communication skills, but from what managers are saying, that is not the case. Impulsivity tends to create conflict in teams, and this is exactly what managers are complaining about now. Lack of self-control, especially in the form of emotional control, seems to be one of the major contributing factors to the communication problems at work.

Building relationships is another challenge for millennials because of their history of communicating virtually more than face-to-face. Research shows that virtual interactions contain less trust than face-to-face interactions. There is less rapport and more conflict and disagreement. People tend to feel freer to say what they want in virtual interactions. They aren't as diplomatic or respectful as in face-to-face meetings.

With the millennials' tendency to interact more oft en virtually than face-to-face, their relationships are more tenuous and less reliable. Millennials will tell you they are, in fact, closer to more friends than older people are. They feel they are connected to their friends because they share interests, ideas, and opinions with them. However, the distance of the screen creates a safety zone for them. They don't have to interact "live" or in the moment. They can compose a witty response on their keyboard and not be caught tongue-tied. They can ignore a message and not be on the spot to respond to it immediately.

More importantly, people have fewer obligations in virtual relationships. Yes, they can feel connected, but what do they owe each other? If someone is sick, will their Facebook friends go out and buy juice for them or take them to the doctor? (Or do they call their parents for this?) If someone has to duck out of the office for an hour on a personal errand, will their Twitter followers cover for them in front of the boss? (Are they colocated?) Are they willing to put their jobs on the line for their Instagram contacts? (And is that even a sacrifice if they can move back home?)


A Comfortable Environment

A senior partner at a law firm told me he was puzzled as to why his junior associates had to stop at Starbucks on the way to court. He was in a hurry to get there early to be ready to argue in front of the judge, whereas the associates were more concerned with getting no-foam lattes.

Gen X started the trend to have a more comfortable workplace. Perhaps this began as a reaction to having a less comfortable workplace, consisting of cubicles instead of offices. In any case, millennials have taken it to the next level. Work has to be comfortable, as well as fun, exciting, praiseworthy, and a growth experience. Companies are introducing new formats for work that include games to attract millennial workers. Really.

The millennials have been entering the workplace with unrealistic expectations. They don't realize they will have to work long hours and do work they consider drudgery. They are used to cushy, fun environments, listening to music on their iPods, and chatting with friends on Facebook, with moms, dads, coaches, and others poring over them to meet their needs and tell them how wonderful and special they are. They expect nothing less at work. The cliché of the millennials is they want a trophy for just showing up. (And why not? They have received trophies for that in the past.) They are accustomed to having a team of adults working to develop them and presume the managers and others at work are there to do just that. When they come face-to-face with the fact that the managers think they work for them, they think the managers just do not get it.

The clash between employer and employee expectations is resulting in some interesting trends. First, as this chapter has unsubtly implied, is that there is a generational divide in the workplace. There is oft en an "us versus them" attitude among the generations. The old think the young are lazy and entitled. The young think the old are incompetent and inefficient. There are many books and consultants to give organizations advice on how to reduce this conflict and work together more productively. I have given numerous workshops on this topic.

Second, the economic downturn has given the employers the upper hand. They can be more selective about whom they hire and fire. They can refuse to meet the demands of the workers, and the workers either have to "suck it up" or leave. Because the baby boomers and Gen Xers don't have such high expectations of the workplace, they are the ones who "suck it up" and the millennials are pushed out or they opt out on their own volition.


(Continues...)

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StrategicLearner More than 1 year ago
“The cliche’ of the millenials is they want a trophy for just showing up. (And why not?  They have received trophies for that in the past.)” … Apparently Dr. Joanie Connell has been listening in to my kitchen table rants, because the entire first section of Flying Without A Helicopter is a powerful and complete description of a situation about which I have railed often and loudly, although not nearly as eloquently or astutely as her observations, solid research, and clearly communicated perceptions. This is not a “Bash The Millennials” book, but a serious attempt to call our attention to a real problem which our entire society must address.  At first, I thought this book was an academic discussion of the sociological dynamics of recent years which have affected our educational system, changed our parenting, and resulted in problematic attitudes and behaviors in current college students and entry-level workers. Then as I moved through the book, I was treated to a good dose of career development counseling the way it ought to always be done.  The book ends with some excellent coaching for self-improvement through a solid set of strategies to develop characteristics that we may have let wither. Dr. Connell clearly and convincingly shows us why this topic is important for all of us regardless of age or generational identification, and  how we got to the place where her book is not just necessary, but essential.  After a rousing preface and introduction, we enjoy a deep and rich exploration of this issue, how it manifests in school, relationships, and at work, and finally what we can individually do change the situation for ourselves. The heart of Dr. Connell’s book is what she calls “REAL Life“, as defined by four characteristics essential for career success (Resilience, Empowerment, Authenticity, and Limberness), along with five action strategies designed to develop or enhance those four characteristics.   Here’s the first of the five strategies with some commentary from me:  1) “Accept Imperfection:  Praise less and appreciate imperfections in yourself and others.” The point here is to engage in worthwhile praise for specific behaviors and accomplishments, rather than mindless praise phrases such as “Good Job”, which loses its effectiveness as soon as the person is potty trained, in my opinion.  Parents and bosses often use the vague type of “good job” praise because they mistakenly believe this is a coaching approach, showing they lack a strong understanding of what is effective coaching. The other four strategies are 2) Build Resilience, 3) Develop Independence, 4) Polish Communication Skills, 5)  Foster creativity. The book contains three major sections:  Part 1 is an extended and rich discussion of the problem as the author sees it, expanding greatly on the points made in the preface. Part 2 The Solutions includes a detailed treatment of the five strategies.  I dare you to read this section (in whatever order “floats your boat”) and fail to come away with some useful material for reflection and self-evaluation. Part 3 follows naturally with a series of reflective questions and exercises for each chapter, to drive the learning deep into your mind.  This is the action part. Once you have read the introductory material, you can start to dip into areas of particular interest and connect a section in Part 2 with the proper exercises in Part 3.  However, my bet is that you will end up reading the whole blessed thing … maybe not in linear order, but completely.  It’s that interesting and useful. The Bottom Line?   This book is useful for anyone in school at any level, with a child in school, or who works with people in school, especially if you want to help them succeed.  It is also great for anyone planning to or already working, with relatives who work, or who works with other people, especially if you want to influence them.
RaggedyJaney More than 1 year ago
Flying Without a Helicopter How to Prepare Young People for Work and Life - Joanie B. Connell PhD  “What is a helicopter parent?” This, I asked my friend who stared back at me in disbelief. To think I had raised 3 kids and was on round two with a grandson and I had never heard that term before! For those reading this who are as in the dark as I was just a few years ago, a helicopter parent hovers. Right! They are constantly looking to make sure their child gets attention at least equal to that of their peers, assure they get adequate play time on the field of their chosen sport, and helicopter parents protect their children from discomfort. Being a parent and grandparent, I know and you know, we want the best for our offspring, but being a helicopter parent is not the way to prepare young people for work or life. I, as a reader of this book have seen a few instances of what the author presents, but I work frequently with kids ages 2 to 12 and have admiration for the next generation of workers in the cue. I hope parents and millennials pick up a copy of this book and read it to learn how to live a REAL life as the author explains.  Joanie Connell, from her own expertise and research, wrote this book for young people and for the parents of young people, because she’s concerned that kids are growing up in a make believe world where they aren’t given enough opportunities to experience discomfort, responsibility, solve problems, be empowered, or communicate effectively. Joanie says, “[Today’s parents] are more coddling, more competitive, more anxious, and more frenetic than ever before. This affects how kids behave and cope as adults at work, at home, and in life.” She adds, “I know many people aren’t ready to hear this message, but I’m putting it out there anyway.”   PROBLEMS Problems at work? Section One places emphasis on the workplace and is written primarily from the perspective of a manager, highlighting situations that cause frustration when generational lines are crossed in organizations and more specifically on teams. The first two chapters of the book lay out the groundwork for the possible solutions discussed in Section Two. What is going on at work? Research shows that the Millennial Generation, as compared to previous generations, lean toward working in groups, collaborating on projects, don’t mind pressure, change jobs frequently, have had more education, are technically skilled, expect to be trained on the job, are life-long learners, want to be the masters of their future, and are set on planning their own careers. Millennials now are motivated more by getting what they want on a personal level than generations preceding them who were motivated by advancement and money What you need at work This is a chapter in the book, not to glance over lightly. My favorite part was the illustration of the things we encounter at work. Here are just a few: Tedious tasks, irritating problems, mistakes, insufficient resources, competition, ethical dilemmas, politics – and that is just a few that Joanie describes. Neither work nor life are fun all the time. Here the author introduces REAL:  It takes a lot to be successful in real life. Resilient, Empowered, Authentic, Limber The remaining sections of the book delve into five actions and details of how to make them a driving force to help you be R.E.A.L.  SOLUTIONS 1. Accept Imperfection  2. Build Resilience 3. Develop Independence 4. Polish Communication Skills 5. Foster Creativity
CynthiaB12 More than 1 year ago
Joanie is masterful in assessing a situation from all sides, clearly defining what changes are necessary, and giving detailed advice to all. Her book “Flying without a Helicopter” is full of information on how to be successful at work and in life. She sincerely wants to share her talent in improving how young people develop into competent adults with a true sense of pride.  She writes with clarity, directness, warmth and understanding. I highly recommend her book to everyone, as it concerns the leaders of tomorrow and what you can do to impact their lives in a positive way.