Forgiving the Unforgivable

Forgiving the Unforgivable

by Beverly Flanigan

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A clearheaded study of what life can do to us and possible ways to begin again. —Carl A. Whitaker, M.D., author of Midnight Musings of a Family Therapist and coauthor of The Family Crucible Women and men who have been deeply hurt by someone they love often experience a pain that spirals out to undermine their work, relationships, self-esteem, and even their sense of reality. In Forgiving the Unforgivable, author Beverly Flanigan, a leading authority on forgiveness, defines such unforgivable injuries, explains their poisonous effects, and then guides readers out of the paralyzing anger and resentment. As a Fellow of the Kellogg Foundation, Flanigan conducted a pioneering study of forgiveness, and from that study, from her clinical practice, and from her many years of teaching, researching, and conducting professional workshops and seminars, she devised a unique six-stage program, presented here. Filled with inspiring real-life examples, Forgiving the Unforgivable is both a practical and a comforting guide to recovery and healing.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780020322306
Publisher: Turner Publishing Company
Publication date: 06/28/1994
Edition description: First Edition
Pages: 288
Sales rank: 656,504
Product dimensions: 5.74(w) x 8.18(h) x 0.64(d)

About the Author

Beverly Flanigan, M.S.S.W., is a clinical professor at the school of Social Work, University of Wisconsin, and a therapist in private practice specializing in forgiveness.

Table of Contents



PART I: Anatomy of an Unforgivable Injury.

1. Anatomy of an Unforgivable Injury.

2. Harms and Harmers.

3. The Aftermath of Injury.

PART II: The Journey of Forgiving.

4. Phase One: Naming the Injury.

5. Phase Two: Claiming the Injury.

6. Phase Three: Blaming the Injurer.

7. Phase Four: Balancing the Scales.

8. Phase Five: Choosing to Forgive.

9. Phase Six: The Emergence of a New Self.

PART III: Tools for Forgiving.

10. Tools for Naming the Injury.

11. Tools for Claiming the Injury.

12. Tools for Blaming the Injurer.

13. Tools for Balancing the Scales.

14. Tools for Choosing to Forgive.

15. Reflections on the New Self.

PART IV: The Need to Forgive.

16. The Need to Forgive.



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Forgiving the Unforgivable 4.5 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 2 reviews.
Guest More than 1 year ago
Soon after being given my 'legacy', I happened upon this book; it had just realeased. I can't tell you how many times I read the book, or how many pages had folded corners. Actually, I can't even tell you how many books I bought, since, so many others wanted a copy, I gave many of mine away. Finally, a friend bought me one and wrote on the inside cover, 'This book belongs to Theresa.... I will not give this copy away.' This, plus one other book, stayed on my nightstand for a few years. I called it my 'personal support group', for with it, I knew I was never alone. In the middle of the night, the listeners are sleeping, but, my copy of 'Forgiving the Unforgivable' never minded being awoken! Why am I here these many years later? Simple, somebody else really needs this book -- a total stranger. To Ms. Flanigan, I thank you.
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