Free to Run the Race: Undoing the Burdens of Parental Disregard by Gary Ventimiglia Ph.D., Brad D. Strawn Ph.D.
Free to Run the Race describes the living out of our life in Christ (Hebrews 12:1). It speaks of running "with endurance the race that is set before us." This can be done by fixing our "eyes on Jesus." "Undoing the Burden of Parental Disregard," speaks to a specific encumbrance that weighs the runner down making it harder to keep focus and finish the race. The burden is called "parental disregard." It is not being allowed to "be oneself," to pursue one's inner direction, or natural proclivity in one's life. It is the experience of developmental woundedness that says being oneself in temperament, aptitudes, natural talents, and the expressing of this is prohibited. Prov 22:6 says, "train up a child according to his own way." The burden of parental disregard is the emotional pain in living out an identity that is not based on any expression of one's natural "way(s)" or bent(s). This makes the development of trust in a heavenly Father (parent) difficult. The relieving of this burden takes a ruthlessly honest focus on this woundedness and its working out its implications honestly that allows a more truthful understanding of God's love for our lives.
Gary Ventimiglia is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and a psychoanalyst in private practice in Van Nuys, California. An ordained minister, he received a MDiv (Talbot Theological Seminary); a MA in Marriage and Family Ministries (Fuller Theological Seminary,) and two doctorates (PsyD, PhD) in psychoanalysis (Institute of Contemporary Psychoanalysis, Los Angeles). He is a clinical member of the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists, Christian Association for Psychological Studies, and the Society for the Exploration of Psychoanalytic Theory and Theology.
Table of Contents
Foreword Brad D. Strawn, PhD vii
Part I The Norm of Christian Living
Chapter 1 The Freedom of the Kingdom 17
Chapter 2 The Boundless Affection of God 33
Part II Oh, You Got to Carry that Weight
Chapter 3 Knowing, Being, Doing 49
Chapter 4 (The) Father Knows Best 68
Part III All in the Family
Chapter 5 Training Up Your Child 87
Chapter 6 Help from "The Study of the Soul" 110
Chapter 7 The Embittered Christian and Trusting in God 138