Free Us from Bullying: Real Solutions beyond Being Nice

Free Us from Bullying: Real Solutions beyond Being Nice

by Paul T. Coughlin


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Much of what we believe about bullying isn’t true. An estimated twenty million oppressed children need our help today. A critical mission field awaiting Christians is to combat bullying and proclaim liberty to wounded children. To counter bullying, we must first understand some common misconceptions.

• It is not necessarily true that bullies have low self-esteem and come from abusive homes.
• It is not true that kids who aren’t bullied are indifferent to those who are.
• Bullying is not a “school problem,” and teachers are not the frontline defense.
• Children who are bullied do not become stronger adults. Bullies cannot be stopped merely with more compassion and understanding. In fact, bullying stems from the same roots as racism, sexual harassment, and even genocide, and it requires people to combat it in similar ways that they combat other forms of oppression and injustice. We often think of combating injustice overseas, but we can combat a very real and dangerous injustice in our own neighborhoods.

After more than a decade of working with tens of thousands of students, teachers, parents, and pastors, Coughlin knows that bullying represents the worst in human nature, but combating it promotes the best. Kindness and awareness—two buzzwords in today’s anti-bullying movement—will not end bullying on their own. They must be activated by courage, transforming bystanders into righteous, loving protectors of targets. When we join this mission of love and justice, we will become peacemakers who are blessed and called children of God (Matt. 5:9).

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781684260201
Publisher: Abilene Christian University Press
Publication date: 08/14/2018
Pages: 256
Sales rank: 1,224,622
Product dimensions: 5.50(w) x 8.25(h) x (d)

About the Author

Paul T. Coughlin is the founder and president of the Protectors, an official ministry partner of the Association of Christian Schools International, working to reduce adolescent and workplace bullying. Coughlin has helped thousands of children apologize for bullying during his Courage to be Kind presentations. A former newspaper editor, Coughlin's writing has appeared in numerous media outlets, including Fox News, and he has been interviewed by The New York Times, Newsweek, and C-SPAN. Connect with him at and on Facebook and Instagram (@freedombullying) and Twitter (@BullyingDefined).

Table of Contents

Chapter 1 The Real World of Bullying 11

Interlude: Piercing the Darkness of Bullying, with Frank Peretti 23

Chapter 2 Essential Insights into the Theater of Bullying 29

Interlude: The Anatomy of a Serial Bully 39

Chapter 3 Bullying-Our School Cultural Problem 45

Interlude: Do Our Lives Matter? 57

Chapter 4 Nice and Dead Can Be Four-Letter Words 59

Interlude: Three Divine Protectors 85

Chapter 5 Justice-Minded Children Have More Courage and Success 91

Interlude: "Thank You for the Chance to Start Over" 111

Chapter 6 I Worship Me 113

Interlude: Healing Broken Hearts, with Dr. John Townsend 133

Chapter 7 Prey for Me 137

Interlude: "I Found Someone Else" 157

Chapter 8 Love, Light, and Hope in the Theater of Bullying 159

Interlude: The Sermon That Stopped a School Massacre 187

Chapter 9 Misuse of Scripture Enables Bullying 191

Interlude: Bullied before He Was Crucified 207

Chapter 10 From Witness to Protector 209

Interlude: "You Too, Paul?" 225

Chapter 11 The Coming Shalom 227

Recommended Reading 251

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