From Fat, Black, and Unlovable to Beautiful. Powerful. Love.: a journey of intergenerational healing and transformation

From Fat, Black, and Unlovable to Beautiful. Powerful. Love.: a journey of intergenerational healing and transformation


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Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781733640404
Publisher: Pamplin Digital
Publication date: 03/20/2019
Pages: 136
Sales rank: 963,042
Product dimensions: 5.00(w) x 8.00(h) x 0.32(d)

About the Author

Barbara Pamplin's life was changed by 50, 3, and 3. That's 50 days in Intensive Care, 3 open heart surgeries, and 3 deaths and resuscitations - all in the fall of 2017. Barbara has written a memoir/self-help book that looks through the lens of family dynamics, personal narrative-making, and the legacy of slavery and institutional racism to examine the core beliefs that took a toll on her heart and how she is transforming those beliefs to reclaim her well-being. Her book, From Fat, Black, and Unlovable to Beautiful. Powerful. Love., offers personal practices that guide us through self-reflection, perspective-taking, and celebration--all in service of healing and transformation.

In addition to writing the book, the author partnered to create the Beautiful. Powerful. Love. event series creating opportunities for health and healing through arts and culture. With this work, Barbara invites Black women and others to celebrate and engage in the soul work of personal transformation, to confront the health crisis among Black women at its root level.

Barbara is no stranger to the concept of change and transformation, even within organizations.

Barbara is the former Chief Marketing Officer for the YMCA of Greater Seattle who modernized the non-profit's marketing efforts through centralizing and expanding the marketing department, replacing legacy marketing technology, transforming internal processes, and championing data-driven decision making.

She also developed new global direct acquisition strategies for the Microsoft's Office family of products (including Office 365 and iOS app launches) and drove global paid search for Xbox consoles, services, and various game titles. She was also Microsoft's Mobile Marketing Global Practice Lead -- developing mobile marketing training, process, and tools as well as consulting on critical projects for the company's thousands of marketers across 51 countries.

Barbara's experience prior to joining Microsoft includes brand management with Johnson & Johnson, Unilever Bestfoods, and full-service agency account management for clients such as Amtrak, Wachovia, and the US Fund for Unicef.

In Barbara's words:
My "way" of life is to never stop learning - about myself, people, and the planet on which we all live; exploring new ways to connect with others and observing how as human consciousness and habits evolve so does how we relate to each other and judge the meaning of success and happiness. My approach to personal and organizational transformation is similar - analysis-based, fact-driven, and human-focused with enough "new age" wisdom to look beyond the obvious to drive positive results.

Barbara's mission is to support personal transformation through content and programs that help individuals grow and find balance, while working with organizations to support growth and retention among diverse employee populations through targeted initiatives.

Contact her via email at

Chief Oluwo Obafemi Fayemi Epega is a world-renowned Babalawo and the founder of O.I.D.S.I. (Obafemi Institute for the Divine & Universal Study of Ifa). He was initiated as a priest of Obatala in January 2004, and received his Tefa in February 2005 from the late Oluwo Dr. Afolabi Epega at the Epega Compound in Akure, Ondo State, Nigeria. He strongly believes that the restoration and preservation of African divine sciences and traditions can restore psychological balance and personal empowerment to all people.
Born Stephen Benjamin Clark Mackey on December 30, 1957 in Houston, TX, Chief Oluwo Obafemi Fayemi Epega is the fifth child of Vivian and Fletcher Mackey, Sr., and the father of four boys: Stephen Jr., Corey, Sheldon and Jordan. Baba Femi is the author of the book entitled "Who is Sambo?", and has also established a substantial YouTube presence for himself via Ifa-related lectures and classes over the years. He has been a diligent scholar of, as well as an active practitioner of Ifa for more than a decade. As a lecturer, teacher and healer, Baba Femi has facilitated Ifa workshops all over the world, including Mexico, Australia, Brazil, Europe and the Caribbean. He has been invited to share his knowledge and insight on countless radio shows, as well as on major university and college campuses. He has also participated as a panelist, in conjunction with prominent Black psychologists, in comprehensive discussions regarding the assessment and improvement of the mental and spiritual health of the Black community.
In addition to overseeing more than 400 ceremonies and rituals, Baba Femi has either directly facilitated, or served as the principal liaison for the initiations of more than 50 Ifa and Olorisha priests. With the blessings of Olodumare, his ancestors, and Ifa, this life has allowed him to fully embrace and experience that which his heart has chosen. He is proud to be an African American man, native Houstonian, descendant of slaves, priest of Ifa, teacher, author, mentor, son, a friend to many, a loving husband, and most importantly, an honorable father.

Table of Contents

Table of Contents



CHAPTER 1 The Belief at the Root of My Pain 9

CHAPTER 2 Plantation Proverbs: Surviving EnslavemenT 23

“The empty wagon rattles loud goin’ down the road” 24

“Do as I say, not as I do” 28

“Always expect the worst” 33

“Fools names and fools faces are always seen in public places” 39

“Being Black, you have to work twice as hard to get half as far” 42

CHAPTER 3 Mammies And Jezebels: When Enslavers Define You 49

You Betta Look Like Bunny Debarge! 51

Gimme a Break! Mammy of the 80's 55

Video ho’s – Jezebels Need Love Too 60

Welfare Queens and Strong Single Mothers – Two Sides of One Coin 65

Sapphire (aka The Angry Black Woman) and the Curse of Romance Novels 71

CHAPTER 4 Transformation Ain’t Easy: You Gotta Do The Work 77

Five Components of The Work 82

The Work: Becoming Aware in Osun’s Mirror 85

The Work: Walk a Mile and Pivot 93






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