From Impasse to Intimacy: Understanding Unconscious Needs Can Transform Relationships / Edition 1

by David Shaddock

Overview

An experienced couples counselor identifies the unconscious factors that influence the way we feel and behave in intimate relationships-the invisible needs that create and sustain our dysfunctional patterns of relating. Whereas the conventional focus on changing our marital scripts bypasses excavation of their roots in our deepest childhood fears-of abandonment, intrusion, shame-David Shaddock weaves contemporary thinking about the individual into the family systems approach to therapy. Effortlessly, and with gentle authority, he introduces concepts that professional and popular readers alike can adopt to begin to decode symbolic issues and, in turn, generate the understanding that builds empathy between partners.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9780765701633
Publisher:	Aronson, Jason Inc.
Publication date:	04/01/1998
Edition description:	New Edition
Pages:	242
Product dimensions:	6.32(w) x 9.38(h) x 0.90(d)

Table of Contents

	Acknowledgments	ix
	A Journey to Living Unison	1
I	Origins of the Invisible Marriage
1.	Why Love Is Blind	11
2.	Growing Up Wounded: Childhood Pain and the Origin of the Invisible Marriage	27
3.	Patterns of Protection	49
II	Visible Problems, Invisible Roots
4.	Anger and Escalation	71
5.	Pursuit and Avoidance	89
6.	Emotional Distance	109
7.	Sex and Intimacy	125
8.	Money, Housework, and In-Laws	143
III	Changing the Script
9.	Couples in Crisis: When the Script Breaks Down	163
10.	Changing the Script	183
11.	Creating the Ties That Heal	205
	Bibliography	227
	Suggested Readings	231
	Index	233