Get Out of Your Own Way: Overcoming Self-Defeating Behavior

Get Out of Your Own Way: Overcoming Self-Defeating Behavior

by Mark Goulston, Philip Goldberg

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Practical, proven self help steps show how to transform 40 common self-defeating behaviors, including procrastination, envy, obsession, anger, self-pity, compulsion, neediness, guilt, rebellion, inaction, and more.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781101657751
Publisher: Penguin Publishing Group
Publication date: 02/01/1996
Sold by: Penguin Group
Format: NOOK Book
Pages: 208
Sales rank: 6,517
File size: 497 KB
Age Range: 18 Years

About the Author

Mark Goulston, M.D., is a corporate consultant who works with executives, managers, and line workers to help them get out of their own way so they can realize the success that their skills, talents, and abilities deserve. His clients include Goldman Sachs, Merrill Lynch, GE, White & Case, Eli Lilly and Company, Disney, Kodak, and the FBI. He writes "The Leading Edge" column for Fast Company. He was selected as one of America's Top Psychiatrists for 2004-2005 by the Consumers' Research Council of America. Dr. Goulston is the author of Get Out of Your Own Way and Six Secrets of a Lasting Relationship.
Philip Goldberg, a novelist and screenwriter, has authored or coauthored sixteen books.

Table of Contents

10 Things You Can Learn from Self-Defeating Behaviorxi
Introduction: How to Beat Self-Defeatxv
1.Chasing After Love and Approval From a Parent1
2.Getting Involved With the Wrong People6
4.Expecting Others to Understand How You Feel15
5.Waiting Until It's Too Late21
6.Getting So Angry You Make Things Worse25
7.Saying Yes When You Want to Say No29
8.Holding a Grudge33
9.Assuming They Don't Want Anything in Return37
10.Playing It Safe41
11.Always Having to Be Right45
12.Focusing on What Your Partner Is Doing Wrong49
13.Putting up With Broken Promises54
14.Trying to Make up While You're Still Angry59
15.Not Learning From Your Mistakes63
16.Trying to Change Others67
17.Rebelling Just for the Sake of Rebelling71
18.Talking When Nobody's Listening75
19.Pretending You're Fine When You're Not79
20.Becoming Obsessive or Compulsive83
21.Taking Things Too Personally88
22.Acting Too Needy92
23.Having Unrealistic Expectations96
24.Trying to Take Care of Everybody100
25.Refusing to "Play Games"104
26.Putting on an Act to Make a Good Impression108
27.Being Envious of Others113
28.Feeling Sorry for Yourself117
29.Assuming the Hard Way Is the Right Way122
30.Thinking "I'm Sorry" Is Enough126
31.Holding It All In130
32.Quitting Too Soon135
33.Letting Others Control Your Life139
34.Leaving Too Much to Chance143
35.Letting Fear Run Your Life148
36.Not Moving on After a Loss152
37.Not Getting Out When the Getting Is Good156
38.Not Asking for What You Need161
39.Giving Advice When They Want Something Else166
40.Backing Down Because You Don't Feel Ready171

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