Getting It Through My Thick Skull: Why I Stayed, What I Learned, and What Millions of People Involved with Sociopaths Need to Know

Getting It Through My Thick Skull: Why I Stayed, What I Learned, and What Millions of People Involved with Sociopaths Need to Know

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Getting It Through My Thick Skull: Why I Stayed, What I Learned, and What Millions of People Involved with Sociopaths Need to Know by Mary Jo Buttafuoco

"I think, every once in a while, about the life I should be living, the one I fully expected to be enjoying right about now. In the life I was supposed to have, my husband and I would be admiring the view from our waterfront home in the town where we were both born and raised. Good friends and neighbors would be next door, up the street, and all over the neighborhood. Our parents would live only blocks away, in our childhood homes. We'd be taking our grandchildren to the beach club on weekends, enjoying the fruits of our labors and looking forward to a peaceful retirement. That was the plan, anyway . . . but the whole world knows how that turned out."

Mary Jo Buttafuoco's anonymous life as a suburban wife and mother in sleepy Massapequa, New York, on Long Island, ended in May 1992, when she was shot in the head on her own front porch. The 'Long Island Lolita' saga sparked a media frenzy that has not died to this day. As the years passed and Mary Jo steadfastly stood by her man while Joey Buttafuoco and Amy Fisher continued to make headlines, one question lingered in the minds of women everywhere: Why did she stay for so long? In Getting It Through My Thick Skull, Mary Jo finally answers that question fully and convincingly. The answer is simple, yet it took almost three decades of turmoil: She was married to a sociopath. And while Mary Jo's face and story are known all over the world, she's just one of countless women who have become similarly enmeshed with a partner who wreaks utter havoc on the lives around them.

Using her own experiences, Mary Jo helps readers determine if they are indeed involved with a sociopath and offers hope and help for them throughher tragic and triumphant life lessons. In addition, readers will be inspired by Mary Jo's comeback: A true reclamation and re-creation of her life from the inside out. Through private details of the resiliency and rebuilding she has forged over the past sixteen years, Mary Jo shares with readers for the first time:

  • Her addiction to painkillers and her recovery through the Betty Ford Center
  • Her overdue decision to leave Joey and start over again on her own in California-3,000 miles from her support system
  • Taking control of her physical, spiritual, and emotional health and learning to feel attractive and in control again, despite the scars and trauma of the gunshot
  • Her highly controversial and public forgiveness of Amy Fisher
  • The new love in her life and how she found the courage to trust, believe, and find hope in a committed relationship once again

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780757313721
Publisher: Health Communications, Incorporated
Publication date: 07/21/2009
Pages: 256
Sales rank: 558,697
Product dimensions: 5.90(w) x 9.10(h) x 1.10(d)

About the Author

After a five-year courtship and a twenty-two-year marriage to Joey Buttafuoco, Mary Jo Buttafuoco now lives quietly in Ventura County, California, with her fiancé, Stu, and their "Brady Bunch" blended family. Visit the blog at http://maryjobuttafuoco.hcibooks.com

Julie McCarron is a New York Times bestselling author and celebrity collaborator. Her work includes Tracy Gold's Room to Grow, rocker Gene Simmons's Sex, Money, Kiss, and Why I Love Baseball with Larry King, among others.

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Getting It Through My Thick Skull: Why I Stayed, What I Learned, and What Millions of People Involved with Sociopaths Need to Know 3.4 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 15 reviews.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Even though we know the plot, we don't really know the story. Mary Jo is generous in sharing memories that I bet she would really rather forget in this book. Don't start with this book until you've got the time to read it all the way through. It's hard to put down. I think every woman needs to read this book so that they will have a benchmark for crazy relationships. You may think that what your significant other is doing is "normal," but read this book, think again, and save yourself. Mary Jo Buttafuoco is a better woman than I am. I am truly humbled by her strength, courage, and indomitable spirit. She is a true inspiration to all women IMHO.
toenails More than 1 year ago
I bought it...I loved it...I recommend it!! It's about time Mary Jo tells her side of the story and how she got through it. She is very honest about her reasons for staying with Joey, her healing, her troubles, and how she survived it. She is a remarkable woman and can teach us all something about family, forgiveness, and perseverance. I hope everyone reads this and finds a way to make peace with their own demons, as she's done.
SuzieA More than 1 year ago
I was interested in the book because of the title. What I liked about it was her story---she was truthful but did not come across as a "poor me victim". This is a sad but true story of a woman who fell in love with a selfish, self-centered man and her journey to the discovery and truth of her situation. She deserves all the happiness she has found.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Mary was an ordinary woman in extraordinary circumstances . That she lives life with such grace is more than one might expect . Moreover hers is a cautionary tale.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
While it does tell her side of the story, it doesn't live up to the claim on the front cover of "what millions of people involved with sociopaths need to know". There are better books available for learning about sociopaths. This book is all about Mary Jo, from beginning to end. If that's all you're interested in, you will love this book.
voyager8 More than 1 year ago
I am so sorry Mary Jo for looking down my nose all those years ago at a starnger's pain and thinking ugh what an idiot for being Mrs Joey Buttafuoco. I was young and judgemental and needed to learn compassion. Mary Jo is a hero who put herself aside in such extreme circumstances to hold her family together. She was fighting a loosing battle but her selflessness is clear in this book. Mary Jo is one tough cookie,a fighter and an honest and interesting person. Thanks for setting the record straight. A good read tells us about ourselves as this book certainly does and for me explores the curious phenom of blaming the victim that permiates our society.
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Mary Jo gives us all the gory details about her suffering after Amy Fisher shot her in the head. She explains how blind she was to her husband's motives and behavior. Like so many people, she was raised in a happy home and had no idea that sociopaths are among us. Her purpose in writing the book is to tell people the story behind the lurid headlines. Thank you, Mary Jo. If I had a teenager, I would give her or him this book.
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Some errors on some pages.