Getting to 30: A Parent's Guide to the 20-Something Years

Getting to 30: A Parent's Guide to the 20-Something Years

by Jeffrey Jensen Arnett Ph.D., Elizabeth Fishel


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“This is the book parents have been waiting for”—Michael Thompson, coauthor of Raising Cain. The book that is “helpful, hopeful, and engaging”—Jeanne Brooks-Gunn, Ph.D., Columbia University. It is the book that addresses the new reality for parents of kids in their 20s and the issues that everyone in the media is talking about: When will this new generation of 20-somethings leave home, find love, start a career, settle down—grow up? And it's the book that will soothe your nerves. It’s loaded with information about what to expect and guidance on what to do when problems arise (as they probably will). In other words, this is the book parents need—Getting to 30, by Jeffrey Jensen Arnett, the world's leading authority on the post-adolescent phase he named emerging adulthood, and Elizabeth Fishel, author of Sisters and other books.

As Getting to 30 shows, the road to adulthood is longer than we think—and, for parents, bumpier. It explains what’s really happening to your 18- to 29-year-old, including the story behind your child’s moods. The phenomenon of the boomerang child—and why it’s actually a good thing, for parents and kids. The new landscape of 20-something romance. And it gives all the tools parents need to deal with the challenges, from six ways to listen more than you talk, to knowing when to open (and close) the Bank of Mom and Dad while saving for retirement, to figuring out the protocol for social media.

Published in hardcover as When Will My Grown-Up Kid Grow Up?, Getting to 30 includes the latest research on the optimistic and supportive attitude most parents have regarding their 20-something children.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780761179665
Publisher: Workman Publishing Company, Inc.
Publication date: 05/06/2014
Pages: 320
Sales rank: 254,526
Product dimensions: 5.40(w) x 8.20(h) x 1.00(d)

About the Author

Jeffrey Jensen Arnett, Ph.D., coined the term “emerging adulthood” and wrote the classic book on this life stage, Emerging Adulthood. He is a research professor in the Department of Psychology at Clark University and executive director of the Society for the Study of Emerging Adulthood. He lives in Worcester, Massachusetts.

Elizabeth Fishel is the author of Sisters, Reunion, I Swore I’d Never Do That, and The Men in Our Lives, and a journalist who has written for Vogue, O, Good Housekeeping, Parents, More, Family Circle, and other magazines and newspapers. She lives in Oakland, California, and is the mother of two 20-somethings.

Table of Contents

Preface: Emerging News About Emerging Adults ix

Introduction: Why This Book (and Why We're Writing It Together) xiii

Chapter 1 The Zigzagging Road to Adulthood 1

Chapter 2 Your Parallel Journey 18

Chapter 3 From Parent and Child to (Something Like) Friends 38

Chapter 4 Mom, R U Up? 60

Chapter 5 The College Years 78

Chapter 6 The Boomerang Kid 107

Chapter 7 You Can't Hurry Love 127

Chapter 8 Saying "I Do" or "I Don't" 154

Chapter 9 For Hire 180

Chapter 10 The Bank of Mom and Dad 209

Chapter 11 Keeping the Faith (or Not) 230

Chapter 12 When Things Go Wrong 244

Chapter 13 Emerging at Last 270

Acknowledgments 285

Index 287

Questions for Discussion 295

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