Getting to the Other Side of Grief: Overcoming the Loss of a Spouse

Getting to the Other Side of Grief: Overcoming the Loss of a Spouse

by Susan J. R.N. Zonnebelt-Smeenge, Robert C. De Vries

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There is little in life that rocks us like the death of a husband or wife. Whether you're feeling alone, drowning under an ocean of emotions, or you've worked your way through to the darkest nights of the soul and are now wondering how to get on with your life, you'll find comfort and guidance from the authors of this book. One a clinical psychologist, the other a pastor and professor, both suffered the loss of a spouse at a relatively young age. Their empathy, valuable psychological insights, biblical observations, and male and female perspectives will help you experience your grief in the healthiest and most complete way so that you can move forward to embrace the new life that is waiting for you on the other side.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780801094231
Publisher: Baker Publishing Group
Publication date: 08/06/2019
Edition description: Revised and Updated Edition
Pages: 224
Sales rank: 387,999
Product dimensions: 5.50(w) x 8.50(h) x (d)

About the Author

Susan J. Zonnebelt-Smeenge, RN, EdD, is a licensed clinical psychologist now in private practice in Marietta, Georgia. She worked at Pine Rest Christian Mental Health Services in Grand Rapids, Michigan, for over 20 years.

Robert C. De Vries
, DMin, PhD, is professor emeritus of church education at Calvin Theological Seminary and an ordained pastor.

They speak nationally to churches, community groups, and professional organizations and facilitate a variety of educational grief support groups.

Table of Contents

1 Why Grieve?
2 How Do You Grieve?
3 What Is the Grief Process?
4 How Can You Take Charge of Your Grief?
5 How Can You Proceed in Your Grief?
6 How Does Gender Affect Your Grief?
7 How Can You Be a Grieving Parent?
8 What about Financial and Employment Issues?
9 What Is the Other Side of Grief?

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Getting to the Other Side of Grief: Overcoming the Loss of a Spouse 4.3 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 15 reviews.
Guest More than 1 year ago
Grief is a painful and often debilitating journey that challenges the griever to find new meaning in living and in his/her spititual faith. Bob and Susan take the reader by the hand and tell their own pain-filled story of their journey of grief. But, much more than a journal of their experiences, this book offers professionally sound psychological and theological analysis of the subject of grief. The author's self-disclosure regarding their own grief experiences brings flesh and blood to the abstract process of grieving. The authors offer many practical grief-resolving suggestions on topics that range from sex to finances, parenting to dating, memeory-making to remarriage. Pastor Bob grapples with the difficult questions of theology and personal faith that surround the grief journey. The pastor provides pointed words of comapssionate support that are shaped by a hope-filled Biblical perspective. But he is never superficially pollyanna with his Christian perspective. Instead, he offers wisdom that evolved from a personal wrestling with God that tears at scripture to find meaningful truths. Susan encourages the reader to identify and stay in touch with the various emtions that are associcated with grief and recovery. Homework assignments that she offers require committment on the part of the griever to work at healthy recovery and not passively wait for time to pass. She worked at her recovery and expects the readers to do the same, but at their own pace and utilizing their own strengths. Her sensitivity as a clinician is evident throughout the book. Both authors challenge readers to work out their grief without avoidance and with the assurance that God is their partner in this painful journey of healing.
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Guest More than 1 year ago
There is no 'fast' recovery from losing your spouse. Both authors let you know there is a long road ahead -- they've both been there. Even with their individual professional experience and knowledge (A Phychological therapist and a minister) they found themselves in the depths of grief as they lost their previous spouses. Susan walks you through from the 'nuts and bolts' of your emotions and your thinking, while Robert guides you through your relationship with God. I lost my wife in March, 2000, to cancer. Even non-Christians will be thinking about hereafter. I never examined my faith and belief in afterlife as closely as I did after my wife died. Susan and Robert, through their book, filled me in on my personal walk through that dark valley. Don't spend too much time looking for this book in local bookstores (I tried four in Los Angeles area with no success). Go ahead and order it if you think this is for you.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
A great book for widows and widowers. Gives great Godly advice as the book takes you through grieving the loss of a spouce
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This book helped me understand what I was going through and feeling after the loss of my husband was normal. It also helped me start to heal. I am still in the early process of grief. Plan to read the book again soon.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
At 42, my hubby died after a four month fight with a brain tumor. Although I've worked among the dying for most of my life, nothing prepared me for his death. This book is one of the very few resources out there for younger widows and widowers. In the last ten plus years, I've read most of what is available. This book is the best! It is written so that you can read it a chapter here and there on a particular topic of interest, or cover to cover. I appreciate both the man and woman's perspectives, and the minister and counselor's professional perspectives. The authors are widows and widowers themselves, who have now married each other. I've purchased this book multiple times as a gift for others on this journey.
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Guest More than 1 year ago
I recently lost my husband due to cancer and I have turned to this book time and time again. It answered many of my questions such as when do I take off my wedding ring...I still refer to it even though a year has passed. I am buying copies to pass along to friends that they may find the comfort I found in this book! I can't say enough! Great Reference Material for Everyone!
Guest More than 1 year ago
It took me about a year to read this book, but I found it very helpful and practical.