God and the Gay Christian: The Biblical Case in Support of Same-Sex Relationships

God and the Gay Christian: The Biblical Case in Support of Same-Sex Relationships

by Matthew Vines


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God and the Gay Christian: The Biblical Case in Support of Same-Sex Relationships by Matthew Vines

The landmark book exploring what the Bible actually says—and doesn’t say—about same-sex relationships.
As a young Christian man, Matthew Vines harbored the same basic hopes of most young people: to some-day share his life with someone, to build a family of his own, to give and receive love. But when he realized he was gay, those hopes were called into question. The Bible, he’d been taught, condemned gay relationships.
Feeling the tension between his understanding of the Bible and the reality of his same-sex orientation, Vines devoted years of intensive research into what the Bible says about homosexuality. With care and precision, Vines asked questions such as:
• Do biblical teachings on the marriage covenant preclude same-sex marriage or not?
• How should we apply the teachings of Jesus to the gay debate?
• Can celibacy be a calling when it is mandated, not chosen?
• What did Paul have in mind when he warned against same-sex relations?
Unique in its affirmation of both an orthodox faith and sexual diversity, God and the Gay Christian has sparked heated debate, sincere soul search­ing, and widespread cultural change on the issue of what it means to be a faithful gay Christian.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781601425164
Publisher: The Crown Publishing Group
Publication date: 04/22/2014
Pages: 224
Sales rank: 1,276,237
Product dimensions: 5.50(w) x 8.30(h) x 1.00(d)

About the Author

Matthew Vines is the founder of The Reformation Project, a Bible-based, non-profit organization that seeks to reform church teaching on sexual orientation and gender identity. Matthew took a leave from his studies at Harvard University to research what the Bible says about homosexuality. His teaching on this topic has been featured in media worldwide, including USA Today, The Washington Post, and The New York Times. Matthew lives in Wichita, Kansas.

Read an Excerpt

Reclaiming Our Light—an Introduction

I grew up singing a chorus in Sunday school about how we should share the light of our faith with the world. “This little light of mine, I’m gonna let it shine,” we sang in the classrooms at my family’s church in Wichita, Kansas. “Hide it under a bushel? No! I’m gonna let it shine.” That was before I knew I was gay.

Unfortunately, in recent years, many outside the church haven’t been able to see our faith’s light due to the rancor toward lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) people. Increasingly, young believers in particular feel caught in and repulsed by an often meanspirited theological debate about sexual orientation. They long for a charitable yet biblically sound message on this topic that’s not at odds with the Jesus of the Gospels. Most young people today, it seems, know someone who has been rejected by family, friends, or church after coming out. Citing chapter and verse, evangelical Christians have typically offered a response like this to the gay believers in their midst: “We love you. It’s your sin we hate.”

To be fair, many Christians now support same-sex relationships. But those who do tend to see Scripture as a helpful but dated guidebook, not as the final authority on questions of morality and doctrine.

That is not my view of Scripture.

Like most theologically conservative Christians, I hold what is often called a “high view” of the Bible. That means I believe all of Scripture is inspired by God and authoritative for my life. While some parts of the Bible address cultural norms that do not directly apply to modern societies, all of Scripture is “useful for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness” (2 Timothy 3:16–17, nrsv).

That view of the Bible lies at the heart of our culture’s polarization over same-sex relationships. While much of our secular society and many mainline churches have come to embrace gay relationships, the evangelical church has not. Why? Evangelicals’ beliefs are based on how they read the Bible, and most evangelicals believe the Bible condemns all same-sex relationships.

Today, that belief is coming under increasing pressure. For years, many conservative Christians supported efforts to change gay people’s sexual orientation. Some still take that approach, but in 2013, the flagship “ex-gay” organization shut down and apologized for the “false hope,” pain, and trauma it caused.1 The failure of that movement has left evangelicals grappling with how to respond to the reality of sexual orientation without compromising their beliefs about the Bible’s authority.

Not until I confronted my own same-sex orientation did my church’s crisis on this issue become a fully personal one. But that crisis—as I will describe for you in the pages ahead—propelled me on a quest that has resulted in the book you’re holding.

This book is the product of four years of meticulous research, building on four decades of high-level scholarship. I am not a biblical scholar, so I have relied on the work of dozens of scholars whose expertise is far greater than my own. My goal has not been to break new ground, but to bring credible, often-overlooked insights to light, and to synthesize those insights in clear and accessible ways for a broad audience.

My core argument in this book is not simply that some Bible passages have been misinterpreted and others have been given undue weight. My larger argument is this: Christians who affirm the full authority of Scripture can also affirm committed, monogamous same-sex relationships. Instead of accepting the divide between more progressive Christians who support marriage equality and conservative Christians who oppose it, this book envisions a future in which all Christians come to embrace and affirm their LGBT brothers and sisters—without undermining their commitment to the authority of the Bible.

I invite you to journey with me as we take a careful look at the six passages in Scripture that speak most directly and specifically about same-sex behavior. What I learned in my study has changed the views of my parents along with many other committed Christians in my life. Yet I hope the argument I present in God and the Gay Christian does more than change minds. My prayer is that it opens up a conversation in the Christian community that is truly in the spirit of Jesus. The fiercest objections to LGBT equality—those based on religious beliefs—can begin to fall away. The tremendous pain endured by LGBT youth in many Christian homes can become a relic of the past. Christianity’s reputation in much of the Western world can begin to rebound. Together, we can reclaim our light.

If you are a conservative Christian, that degree of change might make you uncomfortable. If you are an LGBT-affirming Christian, it should give you hope. If you are nonreligious, it might strike you as unlikely. These goals are ambitious, to say the least. But the argument you are about to read is not lightly considered. This is the book I dearly needed when I admitted to myself that I was gay. And it is, I pray, an instrument God will use to help bring healing, reconciliation, and hope to many who need them most.

A Tree and Its Fruit

My knees buckled, my stomach turned, and I felt the strength drain from my body. It was my sophomore fall at Harvard, and after a long week of classes, I had stopped by the campus convenience store. Standing alone in the toothpaste aisle, I finally asked myself the question I’d managed to avoid for years. Am I gay?

The answer was obvious—it could have been obvious for years, if I hadn’t worked so hard to ignore it. But it was also terrifying. Even though I was going to a school that embraced gay students and living in a state that had legalized gay marriage years earlier, I suddenly found myself feeling hopeless.

Life at college wasn’t the problem. The problem was sixteen hundred miles away, in Wichita, Kansas. I’d been at school for only a little over a year, and Kansas remained far more important to me than Cambridge, Massachusetts. But for everything I enjoyed about my home state, most people I knew there made a significant exception to their midwestern friendliness: gay people. My Presbyterian church, in particular, was filled with kindhearted, caring Christians. But when it came to homosexuality, their views were set. If you were in a gay relationship, you were living in sin. Period.

Still frozen in place at the back of the convenience store, my new reality triggered memories. With each one came a fresh wave of anguish.

Take the summer before I left for college. Our pastor had lamented from the pulpit that progressives in our denomination were advocating for the ordination of “practicing homosexuals.” Heads shook in dismay and disappointment.

My parents were opposed to the gay rights movement, even though my older sister and I had become more open to the issue. My final year of high school, my sister, Christine, returned from college with the news that one of her close friends had come out. (I’ll call him Josh.) Mom, who had known and loved Josh since he was born, was devastated.

Dad questioned Josh’s judgment.

“How does he know he can never marry a woman?” Dad asked. “Well, he’s gay, Dad,” I said. “Why would he?”

“I’m not convinced he couldn’t overcome this. It just seems like he’s decided not to try.”

That night, Christine and I shared our frustrations. “They just don’t get it,” she said. “Josh marrying a woman would be a recipe for disaster.”

I still didn’t know what to think about gay marriage, but I wasn’t all that fazed by her friend’s revelation. The gay people I’d met at school seemed normal enough, and criticizing them for not trying to be straight didn’t make sense. Whether it was a sin or not, gay people were still gay, and ignoring their orientation wasn’t going to help.

But my dad didn’t know any openly gay people, and he had always understood the Bible to be against homosexuality. If God was against it, Dad said, God wouldn’t make anyone gay. So even if some people struggled with same-sex attraction, he was confident they could develop heterosexual attractions over time.

Other students came and went from the convenience store, but I stood there, ashen. I stared blankly at rows of toothpaste, thinking about the year Josh came out—and what would happen when I did too. For Josh, coming out to his family had been agonizing. Our church, he rightly guessed, would not have been any happier to hear his news.
Not wanting to subject himself to widespread rejection, he left town for his out-of-state college.

He left church too.

This was a young man who often shared his musical talents with our church, singing and playing original songs in front of hundreds on Sunday mornings. He was one of the smartest kids in high school, and he was voted onto homecoming court his senior year. Now when people talked about him, it was in hushed tones. The sense of shame over what people assumed to be his “decision” was palpable.

Feeling rejected by our church and alienated from God, Josh started much of his life over on the West Coast. In time, he found it impossible to keep believing in a loving God. As he saw it, the God of the Bible required him to hate a core part of himself. Not surprisingly, he also gave up on the Bible, since it had been the instrument that taught others to reject that part of him too. Thankfully, his family came around over time, and they now embrace him. But much of the damage from our church’s stance had already been done. Josh’s faith, along with the church community that first nurtured it, was already lost.

I walked home from the store that night feeling sick. All weekend, I could barely eat or sleep. Trying to concentrate on my philosophy paper or my Spanish assignment was impossible.

In the days and weeks ahead, I did my best to figure out a way forward. Josh’s path—as much as I empathized with him—didn’t seem bearable to me. The losses would be too great. My faith had been of central importance to me for as long as I could remember. When I was two years old, my parents bought me a children’s Bible, which I studied diligently over the years. One Sunday, while riding home from church at the age of three, I asked Jesus to come into my heart. (I would repeat this request countless times before I made it to middle school, just to make sure it worked.)

My parents nurtured a faith in Jesus in me and my sister, giving us a moral and spiritual anchor as we grew up. Just as importantly, Mom and Dad lived out their faith in loving and authentic ways, daily confirming for us the value of placing Christ at the center of our lives. So even though I was now facing up to the fact of my sexual orientation, my faith in God was not in jeopardy. Besides, after doing a Bible study of the issue the year before, I had already come to question whether God’s views on gay people matched what Christians back home seemed to think they were.

But while my faith felt secure, my relationship with my parents—and with our entire church community—had never felt more fragile. Homosexuality, to the limited extent it was discussed in our church, was little more than a political football, a quick test of orthodoxy. The “progressives” in our denomination supported it, but anyone who truly believed in the authority of the Bible, I was told, did not. In all this, the concerns, lives, and dignity of gay people were not mentioned. (As more than a few parishioners would later tell me, they had never stopped to think whether there might be any gay people in our church.) By some strange feat of the will, I had been able to suppress my own awareness of my sexual orientation until I was nineteen. But I knew that wasn’t the case for many others, maybe most others. For a young kid who realizes she is gay and has no one at home or church she can talk to, it can be an impossibly heavy burden. For a young man like Josh, who internalized rejection from our church with barely a word spoken, it can drive a wedge between him and God.

And what would become of me?

Weeks passed. After deep prayer and several long conversations with my sister and with some friends, I realized what I had to do. I packed my bags that Christmas, boarded a plane home for Kansas, and anxiously peered out the window. Boston would soon be slipping away, replaced by the familiar terrain of the Bible Belt. But this time, going home would be different. This time, I was going to come out.

From the Hardcover edition.

Table of Contents

Reclaiming Our Light-an Introduction 1

1 A Tree and Its Fruit 5

2 Telescopes, Tradition, and Sexual Orientation 21

3 The Gift of Celibacy 43

4 The Real Sin of Sodom 59

5 The Abominations of Leviticus 77

6 Excess Passion and Unnatural Acts in Romans 1 95

7 Will Gay People Inherit the Kingdom of God? 117

8 The Biblical Argument for Marriage Equality 133

9 What the Image of God Teaches Us About Gay Christians 149

10 Seeds of a Modern Reformation 163

Acknowledgments 179

Notes 181

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Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Matthew Vines is an inspirational young man. I hope this book contributes to a shift in the discussion surrounding the love of God towards all people, regardless of sexual orientation. This book, I hope, will serve as a catalyst for change in preconceived notions about same-sex attractions and their legitimacy in God eyes as well as the modern-day Church. Furthermore, I truly hope this book helps to put to rest the misconceptions about and misinterpretations of scripture that have been used belittle as well as subjugate the LGBTQ communities. Remember: God is love. God bless you all.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
An affirmation of faith even non-biblical scholars can follow.  This is a personal story worth reading.  For those of us sitting in the pews, it provides clarity to issues that are  often outside of our comfort level.  This book does not preach.  Instead it explores complex sexuality issues in a reasoned and respectful manner.  While primarily an academic biblical argument, the author also weaves his personal story into a compelling and thoughtful read.   This book is a journey worth taking!  
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Matthew offers a profound amount of thorough research on a touchy subject for many Christians. His efforts truly make a wholesome and sound case for Christians to support same-sex marriage. I would recommend this book to both gay people and straight people alike, along with those who oppose and those who support same-sex relationships and marriage. This will open your eyes to a whole new perspective, and best of all, it's a very easy-to-understand book. 
FreeXenon More than 1 year ago
This is one of the most important books on this subject. I have read a few books on this topic and this is the first one that really analyzes the issue appropriately. READ IT!
lovelybookshelf More than 1 year ago
When I hear the words "gay Christian," I think "theologically liberal." I'm not sure I personally know any conservative evangelicals who are supportive of same-sex relationships. So I was completely surprised when I started reading God and the Gay Christian and discovered it is written from a theologically conservative point of view! Matthew Vines takes a much more literal view of the Bible than, say, a progressive Christian would. This becomes the book's greatest strength, because Vines had to be especially meticulous in his research, which is demonstrated throughout the book, complete with plenty of notes. He believes "our understanding of Scripture can be wrong," that "our fallibility as human interpreters is precisely why" we need "to study the issue more closely" (page 14). His reasoning is solid; his approach is thoughtful and kind. He chooses to use the terms "affirming" and "non-affirming" rather than pro-gay or anti-gay, in order to respect those who believe differently. Not once does he resort to snark or petty jabs, which is so refreshing when reading a book on such a hot-button issue as this. It's worth mentioning a reminder that transgender people are the "T" in the LGBT umbrella, even if they are straight, so some transfolk may find God and the Gay Christian a bit lacking. They are mentioned in only a few brief paragraphs toward the end of the book (through Kathy Baldock's story). However, Vines does point out that "few groups are more misunderstood, mistreated, or unwelcome in the church today" (page 167). Regardless, God and the Gay Christian is inspiring and fosters healthy discussion among all Christians. Affirming Christians will find confidence in Vines's optimism and arguments. He encourages people to question the whole "the Bible is very clear" attitude that tends to perpetuate non-affirming stances. Even though the topic of this particular book is same-sex relationships, I got the feeling that Vines would encourage us never to be afraid to take our own thorough, researched, closer look into any faith-related issue. Let's face it, plenty of people are going to hate this book because of its title alone, without ever opening it. Hopefully, non-affirming Christians won't read this with the intent to tear apart each and every argument, but instead, with the intent to understand and respect a different interpretation among fellow Christians.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Matthew mixes personal experiences of his (and his family's) struggle with his orientation and deep Christian faith with a presentation of the careful research he (together with his father) did to satisfy his need to be faithful to scripture while also considering tradition, reason and experience. There is nothing new here, but Matthew's presentation is personable and readable.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
But he wants you to come back to him. It is immoral for two men or two women to be together. I remember a five year old saying, " I know why two men cant be together, they cant have a baby." If something is so obviously wrong that a five year old knows it, why cant we?
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Matthew Vines has made a clear and convincing case for affirming the LGBT community. This book will open hearts and minds. A must read!
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Um, that is not correct. Obviously God did not intend for man to be with man. He destroyed Sodom and it is a sin. Yes, there is grace, but if you are truly a disciple of Jesus why would you do something he forbid. There is no support of same-sex relations in The Bible. In fact, quite the opposite, even though people will say itswrong and hateful for me to take this stance, it is out of love that I tell you that this book is wrong. Do you really think Jesus died on the cross so that we could sin. He died to forgive us and liberate Gods elect, yet the world hates the truth. In fact, with Rob Bell saying there is no hell and this author claiming something that it says in the bible is a sin, it shows the world is fullof false propet.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
"No one who is born of God will continue to practice sin." 1 John 3:9. If there is a continue sin, sin that you do not desire to repent of and seek to turn from, then it means you are not regenerate. Yes God is love, and that is why He sent his son Jesus to be the atonement of our sins. Being homosexual is a sin. It is not a more or lesser sin then any of the others. When a person confesses and repents of their sins then God will give them new desires and a new heart. Those who say that that God does not talk about homosexuality so therefore it is ok, then they clearly do no know the Bible. “Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor men who have sex with men nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God.” 1 Cor 6:9-10