Groomed: Overcoming the Messages That Shaped Our Past and Limit Our Future

Groomed: Overcoming the Messages That Shaped Our Past and Limit Our Future

by Elizabeth Melendez Fisher Good, Beth Jusino

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Someone in your past sold you a false story about who you are and what you’re worth. It has been holding you back for too long. Take control of your future.

A staggering one out of three women in America was a victim of sexual abuse at some point in her childhood. No matter how many years it’s been, if that’s your story, those scars are probably still with you. But even if that’s not part of your story, this book is for you. Women today have been groomed for a lot more than just sex.

Using her own story of abuse, family tragedy, and rebellion, Elizabeth Melendez Fisher guides readers toward an understanding that grooming is oftentimes subtle, but it’s always life-altering. In Groomed Fisher incorporates the language and lessons gained over the past decade working with sex trafficking victims and her work in ministry and counseling before that. She draws out five specific ways that women have been groomed, from physical appearance to spirituality to finances, and shows how those manipulative messages have affected the way we see our worth and how they’ve oftentimes stifled and limited us. From there Fisher offers readers a way to overcome their past, starting with the all-important but rarely explored idea of a selah, or a time of rest and reflection, and exploring active ways to forgive and move forward to a new level of freedom.

No one has to be defined by her past. No one has to live for her groomers. It’s time to take a look back at where we came from to escape the messages of our past and take control of our future.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780785229704
Publisher: Nelson, Thomas, Inc.
Publication date: 01/14/2020
Sold by: HarperCollins Publishing
Format: NOOK Book
Pages: 208
Sales rank: 679,776
File size: 505 KB

About the Author

ELIZABETH MELENDEZ FISHER GOOD is the CEO and Co-Founder of Selah Freedom and the Selah Way Foundation, which exist to end sexual abuse, exploitation, and sex trafficking. Her leadership has brought freedom to thousands of American children and young adults who have been rescued from sexual slavery, and she has helped educate millions on the topics of leadership, exploitation and sex trafficking. Learn more at

Table of Contents

Introduction How Did I End Up Here? xiii

Part 1 We've all Been Groomed

Chapter 1 The Secrets We Keep 3

Chapter 2 The Messages We Hear 15

Chapter 3 The Stories We Tell 28

Part 2 What are you Groomed For?

Chapter 4 Groomed for Appearances 47

Chapter 5 Groomed to Be Invisible 61

Chapter 6 Groomed to Endure 75

Chapter 7 Groomed for Judgment 90

Chapter 8 Groomed for Financial Fear 106

Part 3 Leaving the Life

Chapter 9 Selah 123

Chapter 10 Release 137

Chapter 11 Relaunch 155

About Selah Freedom 173

Acknowledgments 175

For Further Reading 181

Notes 183

About the Author 187

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