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Guardrails Participant's Guide: Avoiding Regrets in Your Life
     

Guardrails Participant's Guide: Avoiding Regrets in Your Life

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by Andy Stanley
 

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In this six-session small group Bible study (DVD/digital video sold separately), Andy Stanley challenges us to stop flirting with disaster and establish personal guardrails.

Guardrails. They're everywhere, but they don't really get much attention ... until somebody hits one. And then, more often than not, it is a lifesaver.

Ever wonder what it would be

Overview

In this six-session small group Bible study (DVD/digital video sold separately), Andy Stanley challenges us to stop flirting with disaster and establish personal guardrails.

Guardrails. They're everywhere, but they don't really get much attention ... until somebody hits one. And then, more often than not, it is a lifesaver.

Ever wonder what it would be like to have guardrails in other areas of your life-areas where culture baits you to the edge of disaster and then chastises you when you step across the line? Your friendships. Your finances. Your marriage. Maybe your greatest regret could have been avoided if you had established guardrails. In this six-session video-based small group bible study, Andy Stanley challenges us to stop flirting with disaster and establish some personal guardrails.

Sessions include: 

  1. Direct and Protect (20:00)
  2. Why Can’t We Be Friends? (18:30)
  3. Flee Baby Flee! (21:30)
  4. Me and the Mrs. (15:00)
  5. The Consumption Assumption (19:00)
  6. Once and for All (17:30)

Designed for use with the Guardrails Video Study (sold separately).

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9780310692218
Publisher:
Zondervan
Publication date:
04/24/2013
Sold by:
Zondervan Publishing
Format:
NOOK Book
Pages:
112
Sales rank:
719,375
File size:
3 MB
Age Range:
18 Years

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Guardrails Participant's Guide


By Andy Stanley

ZONDERVAN

Copyright © 2011North Point Ministries, Inc.
All rights reserved.
ISBN: 978-0-310-69221-8


Excerpt

CHAPTER 1

Direct and Protect


Good fathers want to keep their children out of harm's way. So they set protective barriers, and they talk to their children about them. They establish rules and boundaries to keep their behavior from getting them too close to damaging consequences.

Isn't that exactly what a good father should do?

This fatherly approach is a big part of both the Old and New Testaments—just as we might expect, knowing how much God, our heavenly Father, loves us. He wants to keep his children away from life's danger zones. And in his goodness, he's done what it takes to help us do exactly that.

He knows the kinds of boundaries we need to set for ourselves. Are you willing to look at this with him, to hear the kind of help he wants to give you?


DISCUSSION STARTER

Have you ever been in a traffic accident (or seen one) where a vehicle hit a guardrail? If so, what function did the guardrail serve? What did it prevent?

How would you define a guardrail's purpose, in your own words?


VIDEO OVERVIEW

For Session 1 of the Video

We can think of a guardrail as a personal standard of behavior that becomes a matter of conscience. Whenever we bump against these guardrails, we receive an internal warning.

In our culture there are behaviors that almost everyone agrees are bad—serious mistakes and dangerous actions to avoid—whether relationally, financially, morally, ethically, or professionally. Nevertheless, our culture's warning system can be very weak.

In fact, our culture doesn't like the kinds of guardrails we're talking about here. They're seen as stupid, silly rules—too confining and restrictive.

In the book of Ephesians, as he addressed people living in a culture even more immoral than ours, the apostle Paul lists several things people needed to be on their guard about. And to help them do this, he also uses the concept of guardrails.

He urged them to "be very careful" how they lived, reminding them that "the days are evil" (5:15–16). They were living in dangerous times, as we are today.

Paul adds, "Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the Lord's will is" (5:17). He wants them to face up to God's will for their lives in every area.

The first illustration Paul gives of a guardrail concerns alcohol. He tells his readers not to get drunk, because it leads to debauchery—the kind of extreme indulgence that results in loss of control. Paul sets up the avoidance of drunkenness as a guardrail against something worse.

Throughout the Scriptures, we discover warnings to avoid whatever leads to this kind of loss of control in our lives—whether it's lust, drunkenness, greed, anger, gluttony, or whatever.

To emphasize his point, Paul presents a contrast. He says that instead of getting drunk, they should "be filled with the Spirit" (5:18).

Paul knows that our heavenly Father wants to be the preeminent influencer in our lives. And the Bible teaches that when we put our faith in Christ, the Spirit of God comes to live in us in a unique way, to prompt us, guide us, and direct us.

Paul is saying, When you sense that still, small voice warning you on the inside, then pay attention. Be careful! Because your life's too important and time's too short and the world's too dangerous not to.


VIDEO NOTES

[Your Notes]


DISCUSSION QUESTIONS

1. Andy defines a guardrail as "a personal standard of behavior that becomes a matter of conscience." Why is it important that we think of these guardrails personally—as something individually for us and not necessarily for everyone?


[Your Response]

2. In establishing guardrails, why is it important that they be linked to our consciences?


[Your Response]

3. What are the kinds of disasters and danger zones that you especially want to guard against—in your marriage and family, as well as financially, professionally, morally, ethically, relationally, and in other areas?


[Your Response]

4. How can establishing guardrails help open us to the protective love of God?


[Your Response]

5. What kind of protection from God should we be able to count on? What kind of protection from him should we not count on?


[Your Response]

6. In various areas of your life, how strong is your desire to live by God's will and God's plan? How well do you know his will and his plan in each of these areas?


[Your Response]


MILEPOSTS

• We all need to establish guardrails in significant areas of our lives. They protect us from the "danger zones," where the consequences are most destructive.

• Guardrails are valuable because they help us avoid the great regrets of life. All of us have areas of regret that could have been avoided if we'd established guardrails in those areas.

• A guardrail is a personal standard of behavior that becomes a matter of conscience. It's personal—meant just for us (and not as a rule that applies to everyone). And it involves the conscience, so that it triggers our sense of danger and brings a sense of guilt when we bump against it.


MOVING FORWARD

At this point, what is your attitude and response concerning the whole idea of establishing guardrails in your life? Is this something you see a need for? Why or why not?


CHANGING YOUR MIND

Allow this passage to help you focus on our highest aim when we establish guardrails:

Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the Lord's will is. Ephesians 5:17


PREPARATION FOR SESSION 2

To help you prepare for Session 2, use these suggested devotions during the week leading up to your small group meeting.


Day One

Look at Proverbs 13:20. In your own words, how would you restate both the promise and the warning found in that verse?


[Your Notes]


Day Two

How does 1 Corinthians 15:33 relate to the truths you saw in Proverbs 13:20?


[Your Notes]


Day Three

Look at what we're told to do with others in Hebrews 10:24–25. To what extent does this happen when you are with your friends?


[Your Notes]


Day Four

Look also at what we're told to do with others in 1 Thessalonians 5:11. To what extent does this happen when you are with your friends?


[Your Notes]


Day Five

Look also at what we're told to do with others in Hebrews 3:13. To what extent does this happen when you are with your friends?


[Your Notes]


Last Session

A guardrail is a personal standard of behavior that becomes a matter of conscience. We need guardrails in every significant area of our lives, because they protect us from the "danger zones," where we're likely to be deeply hurt. These guardrails help us avoid the big regrets of life.
(Continues...)


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Meet the Author

Communicator, author, and pastor Andy Stanley founded Atlanta-based North Point Ministries in 1995. Today, NPM consists of six churches in the Atlanta area and a network of more than 50 churches around the globe that collectively serve nearly 90,000 people weekly. As host of Your Move with Andy Stanley, which delivers over six million messages each month through television and podcasts, and author of more than 20 books, including The New Rules for Love, Sex & Dating; Ask It; How to Be Rich; Deep & Wide; Visioneering; and Next Generation Leader, he is considered one of the most influential pastors in America. Andy and his wife, Sandra, have three grown children and live near Atlanta.

 

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Guardrails - Avoiding Regrets in Your Life 4 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 1 reviews.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
In our Bible study time, we are using the shorter versions of the video segments to allow more time for discussion. The questions in the guide are challenging for individual preparation and for generating conversation in the group.