In the beginning, marriage doesn't seem as though it should be all that difficult. But it doesn't take long for trouble to seep in and for bad habits to become entrenched. Before long, many married couples may be wondering when the "worse" part ends and the "better" part starts. Pastor and author Kevin A. Thompson has good news for couples: the "better" part is always within reach when they practice eight specific commitments to each other. These commitments have the power to solve almost any problem a marriage faces, and to prevent new ones from occurring. With biblical insights and engaging personal stories, Thompson shows couples how to see their marriage as bigger than themselves, avoid both apathy and aggression, release the desire for power, make and maintain peace, endure difficult times, and more. Perfect for newlyweds and for married couples at any stage of life, Happily is the gateway to a more loving, more joy-filled marriage.
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About the Author
Kevin A. Thompson is the author of Friends, Partners, and Lovers and is lead pastor at Community Bible Church, a growing multi-site church with four locations in western Arkansas. Every year he meets with nearly one hundred couples with a range of needs, from premarital counseling to navigating the most serious betrayals. A marriage and parenting conference speaker, he and his wife, Jenny, have two children and live in Fort Smith, Arkansas. He blogs at www.kevinathompson.com.
Table of Contents
Introduction: More Than Luck 13
Commitment 1 Happily Humble Yourselves 31
Commitment 2 Happily Embrace the Hurt 55
Commitment 3 Happily Avoid Both Apathy and Aggression 73
Commitment 4 Happily See Marriage as Bigger Than You 93
Commitment 5 Happily Refuse Power Struggles 111
Commitment 6 Happily Live in Truth 127
Commitment 7 Happily Make Peace 147
Commitment 8 Happily Endure Whatever May Come 165
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
This is a good resource for people wanting to make their marriage the best it can be. It is filled with sound Biblical advice although it’s somewhat meaty in content. I read it straight through as a reviewer and even though I did gain insight from it, I think I would be better served if I go back and study it rather than just ‘read’ it. The text was wordy on some occasions making me feel as if the points were being over emphasized. I believe the points could have been stated in more condensed ways. I enjoyed the personal stories and liked that this was written by a pastor/counselor who had witnessed what didn’t work in marriage. He also uses his marriage as an example of success which added to his authority on the subject. There are discussion questions at the end of each commitment and I believe any couple would benefit from studying this book. Full Review is at my website. I received this book complimentary from the publisher. I was not required to give a positive review. All of the opinions I have expressed here are my own.
This book was very inspiring, refreshing and compelling to read with that also had a best topic interesting choice story it will keep you running to the end of the last pages. As we know life is hard, married even harder either you are husband or wife for being couple and have a happy married life with love and this book will give you a greatest guiding you through that. I highly recommend to everyone must to read this book. “ I received complimentary a copy of this book from Revell Reads for this review”.
Thanks to Revell, a division of Baker Publishing Group, for sending me this book to review. I give this book 3.5 stars. It is a book about marriage and what needs to be done in order to work on marriage to keep it together. I really enjoyed the beginning of the book as I felt much of the material about marriage was applicable to my life and actually many of the topics could be used in regard to friendships too. Each chapter is a specific topic and then followed by questions at the end of the chapter to think about and journal on by yourself or with your spouse. For example, Happily Embrace the Hurt chapter is about just that- marriage isn't always fun, love, happiness. There will be some hurt involved. pg 56- One of the guarantees of love is loss. pg 57- To say "I do" is not only vowing to love but agreeing to hurt. The answer to this "hurt" is "appreciation". He feels appreciation is vital aspect of marital satisfaction. I started to not be in total agreement within the last chapter or two. I have friends and colleagues that are men and I never think twice about talking to them, hanging out with them and not having my husband present. The author wrote in regard to "practicing the commitment" ... pg 178 " For example, we won't eat alone with a person of the opposite sex, we won't ride along in a car with a person of the opposite sex, we will share passwords on social media accounts." These "rules" are his and his wife's, but it just made me think there is a lack of trust if you have to have these types of rules. Not the way I would choose to be committed to my marriage. Really some good points just the ending was a little not "Me".
I love how Kevin Thompson took the time to delve into areas we might not always see as part of a healthy marriage - but that are, in fact, the very basis of a successful life together. He encourages us to stop faking life and to get real with each other as we practice these 8 commitments - I especially enjoyed the practical ways he gave to implement them in each chapter. One of the commitments that popped out to me was 'meekness' - that "combines gentleness with strength, submission with initiative, humility with ability... Learning to stay in control, to fight wisely and to love even when we disagree." So many great truths in this book and in the end, he pulls them all together based on scripture [that I really should have seen coming... you'll see what I mean when you read the book!]
Humble yourselves, embrace the hurt, avoid both apathy and aggression, see marriage as bigger than you, refuse power struggles, live in truth, make peace, and endure whatever may come....these are the eight rules that the author tells us we should live by to thrive in a happy marriage. The book is broken into these eight sections, and he talks about what each of these rules entails, as well as addresses some misconceptions about each. Each rule comes with 'action steps,' ways to put the rule into intentional practice, for you to see it in daily life. At the end of each chapter, there are also questions for evaluating your own relationship for that particular rule. This would be a good book for those considering marriage, or newlyweds, but also has a lot to offer to couples who have been together for some time.