Have Him at Hello: Confessions from 1,000 Guys About What Makes Them Fall in Love . . . Or Never Call Back

by Rachel Greenwald

Overview

There's a reason the media has dubbed matchmaker Rachel Greenwald as "The Wife Maker." Yes, she's responsible for over 750 marriages, but more importantly, she has solved perhaps the biggest dating mystery of all time: when you finally meet Mr. Right (or even Mr. Potential), what really compels him to call back (or not) after a date?

Armed with her Harvard MBA, Rachel embarked on a fascinating ten-year research project to decipher this puzzle. In Have Him at Hello, she applies her business savvy to the dating world by conducting in-depth "exit interviews" with 1,000 single men, asking why they called back one woman, but not another. By refusing to accept the post-date brush-off like "There wasn't any chemistry..." or the excited, but equally vague evening recap, "We hit it off!" Rachel extracted unabashedly honest and raw details. It turns out there are clear, tangible, consistent reasons why marriage-minded men either fall for you or disappear. The surprising "Top 5 Date Makers" and "Top 10 Date Breakers" revealed in this book can actually change your fate when Mr. Right finally comes along.

Rachel's goal isn't for you to pretend to be someone you're not, but rather to keep the ball in your court. By using her innovative research and tips as a guide, more men will ask to see you again; then you can do the selecting, rather than wondering if they'll call. Because information is power, this book will make your first hello a lasting one.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9780307406545
Publisher:	Harmony/Rodale
Publication date:	03/09/2010
Pages:	304
Sales rank:	733,176
Product dimensions:	5.30(w) x 7.98(h) x 0.68(d)

About the Author

RACHEL GREENWALD is a professional dating coach, matchmaker, and the international bestselling author of Find a Husband After 35: Using What I Learned at Harvard Business School. She lives in Denver, Colorado, with her husband and three children.

Table of Contents

Chapter 1 Everyone Else is Into You-So Why Not Him? 1

Chapter 2 What You Said 19

Questions Single Women Always Ask Me

Top Three Reasons Women Think Men Don't Call Them Back

Chapter 3 What He Said 27

Top Ten Date-Breakers During a First Date

Beyond the Top Ten: More Date-Breakers

Chapter 4 The Morning After 177

Top Five Date-Breakers After a First Date

Chapter 5 You Had Him at Hello 219

Top Five Date-Makers

Chapter 6 You Lost Him at Hello 229

The Outtakes: The Funny, Rude, and Weird Things Men Said

Chapter 7 Why he Lost you at Hello 233

Top Five Date-Breakers (for Women) During a First Date

Chapter 8 Exit Interviews Get Personal 243

Chapter 9 Success Stories 253

Chapter 10 So, What Now? 265

Notes: A Thousand Splendid Sons 273

Research Methods and Data Details

Acknowledgments 279

What People are Saying About This

From the Publisher

One of Cosmopolitan Magazine's Summer's 4 Hottest Beach Books (2009)

“Rachel is my kind of gutsy girl: all the kick of cheddar on rye, minus any trace of baloney. Within two weeks of trying Rachel’s strategies, I . . . am now juggling so many suitors that I’ve started a ‘man-agement’ diary.”
—O, The Oprah Magazine

“Greenwald is the hottest thing to hit the dating scene since Sex and the City!”
—Observer (London)

“Advocating that you change his perception instead of your personality, Greenwald’s vast study and witty analysis of men’s behavior is nearly a science in its fine points, and truly a contemporary approach to the speedily evolving game of dating.... Loud and clear, Greenwald offers the no-frills, tough-love advice that every single woman doesn’t want – but often needs – to hear.”
—King Features (synd.)

“This book is brilliant! I really love Rachel Greenwald’ s approach. This is a must-read guide to help single women find the right mate, even for women who have lots of guys pursuing them.”
—Tim Sullivan, former CEO, Match.com

“Greenwald . . . has become a national sensation. Her advice is uncommonly blunt.”
—San Jose Mercury News

“Dating diva Rachel Greenwald [delivers] an espresso shot of practical advice.”
—Rocky Mountain News

“Rachel Greenwald . . . has taught thousands of mature women how to meet Mr. Right.”
—People

“Rachel Greenwald is the Wife Maker.”
—Denver Post

“Rachel’s approach is clear, systematic, and motivating.”
—New York Daily News

Editorial Reviews

One of Cosmopolitan Magazine's Summer's 4 Hottest Beach Books (2009)

“Rachel is my kind of gutsy girl: all the kick of cheddar on rye, minus any trace of baloney. Within two weeks of trying Rachel’s strategies, I . . . am now juggling so many suitors that I’ve started a ‘man-agement’ diary.”
—O, The Oprah Magazine

“Greenwald is the hottest thing to hit the dating scene since Sex and the City!”
—Observer (London)

“Advocating that you change his perception instead of your personality, Greenwald’s vast study and witty analysis of men’s behavior is nearly a science in its fine points, and truly a contemporary approach to the speedily evolving game of dating.... Loud and clear, Greenwald offers the no-frills, tough-love advice that every single woman doesn’t want – but often needs – to hear.”
—King Features (synd.)

“This book is brilliant! I really love Rachel Greenwald’ s approach. This is a must-read guide to help single women find the right mate, even for women who have lots of guys pursuing them.”
—Tim Sullivan, former CEO, Match.com

“Greenwald . . . has become a national sensation. Her advice is uncommonly blunt.”
—San Jose Mercury News

“Dating diva Rachel Greenwald [delivers] an espresso shot of practical advice.”
—Rocky Mountain News

“Rachel Greenwald . . . has taught thousands of mature women how to meet Mr. Right.”
—People

“Rachel Greenwald is the Wife Maker.”
—Denver Post

“Rachel’s approach is clear, systematic, and motivating.”
—New York Daily News

From the Publisher

In this dating guide for women getting nowhere fast, professional matchmaker Greenwald takes the intriguing step of interviewing a thousand men who decided not to follow up on a first date. Unfortunately, that stab at quasi-scientific methodology doesn't turn up anything new-though you wouldn't suspect it to see the volume of Greenwald's text. To her credit, she doesn't advise readers to change who they are, but how they present themselves, emphasizing the importance of first impressions and refusing to heap blame on either men or women. Detailed descriptions and checklists will help readers determine what disagreeable stereotype you may projecting ("The Boss Lady," "The Bait & Switcher," "The Park Avenue Princess") and how to remedy it. Despite a direct voice and infectious confidence, Greenwald echoes much that's already been covered in countless other volumes-don't seem desperate, show genuine interest, don't bring up your ex-and often with more detail, examples, lists and subcategories than are necessary. Those who like their self-helps busy, or who are new to the genre, may find this book worthwhile, but in most ways it's the same story, different date.
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