Author of the successful Healing the Scars of Emotional Abuse, Dr. Gregory Jantz now helps readers understand the effects of childhood abuse on their emotional, intellectual, physical, relational, and spiritual health. He then outlines the steps to lasting healing, including grieving what was lost, learning to balance emotions with intentionality, regaining a positive relationship with one's own body and mind, and coming to an understanding of God not as a frightening authority figure like the abuser or an accusing judge, but as a loving creator, redeemer, and friend.
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About the Author
Ann McMurray has coauthored several books, including Healing the Scars of Emotional Abuse. She lives in Washington and works at The Center • A Place of Hope.
Gregory L. Jantz, PhD, is a popular speaker and award-winning author of many books, including Healing the Scars of Emotional Abuse, Healing the Scars of Childhood Abuse, and Overcoming Anxiety, Worry, and Fear. He is the founder of The Center • A Place of Hope (www.aplaceofhope.com) in Washington state. Learn more at www.drgregoryjantz.com.
Table of Contents
Introduction: Finding Your Way Forward 15
1 The Hide-and-Seek of Childhood Abuse 17
2 Not Normal but Too Common 27
3 The Cost of Survival 39
4 The Violation of Emotional Abuse 51
5 The Violation of Neglect and Physical and Sexual Abuse 75
6 Childhood Abuse and Emotional Health 85
7 Additional Costs of Childhood Abuse 107
8 Steps to Emotional Healing 119
9 Steps to Cognitive Healing 133
10 Steps to Physical Healing 143
11 Steps to Healing Relationships 155
12 Steps to Spiritual Healing 169
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
This is an excellent book for those that are struggling to understand how past events have effected who they presently are. It is well written and insightful. I especially enjoy its addion of Spiritual perspective when combined with clinical findings. This would be a very thoughtful gift for someone who may be discussing this aspect of their childhood with you, especially if you are struggling with ways to help them on their journey through dealing with their past.
I think this is such an awesome book. I've always felt like there wasn't enough information out there regarding childhood abuse. This really gives you an insight to that and the people who have endured it. I know a child who is actively abused every day and nobody wants to do anything about it. This is such a raw book and really makes it hit home and much damage can be done. I'll definitely be recommending this book to family and friends.
When I chose to review this book I wasn’t 100% set on what to expect. I mean I don’t typically pick up a self-help book for review, first; but secondly these type of books can go only two ways. Completely over the top and less than helpful or very thought provoking and life altering. Of course this book has to change it all up and fit in neither camp. It’s not life altering but it is very informative. It’s not over the top but it does make you think for a moment of two. I actually think that this is a book that all parents, caregivers, or anyone who has an authoritarian role in the life of a child; not just someone who has come through the other side of childhood abuse and is looking for sustenance and healing. Broken into three distinct sections this book is a great reference point for anyone that works with children as well as survivors. Part one identifies the different types of abuse. Not only talking about emotional, physical, and sexual but also breaks in down further with specific and encompassing examples. I appreciate that the author details that while all are common at one time or another for every parent and every child having a few experiences does not create a pattern of abuse. No one is perfect and no childhood is perfect either. However, a persistent pattern of these experiences and/or even one very large event that has life-reaching impact. (Being yelled at once or twice vs a consistent pattern of yelling or in the case of sexual abuse one occurrence can alter a life forever.) The next section of the book details various and detailed ways that children cope with and react to the abuse that reaches into their own adulthood. Finally there is the section that deals with healing, including spiritual healing. All the sections provide case studies, personal antidotes, and survivor stories. This book is not a replacement for therapy, where warranted, nor does it ‘cure’ a childhood. Written from a Christian perspective this book would be a great resource for someone who has already started the process of healing their own lives. I have to reiterate again as well that anyone who has role of authority of power in the life of a child should read this book. Not only to recognize our own patterns of interaction that could potentially be tweaked, but also to help better recognize our own interactions and pitfalls as we engage with this fragile and precious young lives. I was provided a complimentary copy of this book by NetGalley. I was not compensated for this review and all thoughts and opinions expressed are my own. I was not required to write a positive review.
I was very moved by this book. It gave me great insight for those who suffered from abuse. The book itself is very well written and the author is very knowledgeable on the topic. I would recommend this to anyone searching for a better understanding of child abuse and/or how to help others.
This book was really insightful. While reading, it helped me to understand things that I've experienced and/or have done and my reactions overall. Initially I thought that almost everyone I know either was abused and/or is an abuser, given how this, that, and the third essentially is considered some type of abuse. That's a scary thought. Be it true or not, it is a possibility and an experience that one can heal from. I love how there's many examples of how one can abused, the type of abuse it's considered as, as well as how to essentially heal physically, emotionally, and/or spiritually. I plan on "paying it forward" and letting others borrow this book. It is an easy, eye-opening read that will be life changing. -Kandid
As someone who endured a rough childhood, this book was a tough read at first. I could relate to many instances of the experiences shared. The book defines varying degrees of what can be constituted as abuse (physical, verbal, emotional, sexual, neglect etc). It validates your feelings as a survivor. It follows you into adulthood with how surviving abuse can affect you years into the future. It also helps give advice for coping and addressing your traumas. Be advised that this book incorporates a lot of Christianity and scripture in the writings. Even if you are not religious or Christian, there are still good take aways and words of advice.
This is a great, well-written book for everyone and very helpful to those who suffered from abuse. I enjoyed reading this book. This book tells you about all different kinds of abuse and opens your mind to a different view. I feel like I can now understand my significant other better and help him get over his troubled past. I shared this book with him and I can tell it's helping him so much. *I received a complimentary copy of this book. This is my honest review. All opinions are my own.
Great book for those who have been abused (in any way) or those who know of someone who has. This book defines different types of abuse and then goes into ways to help healing oneself. I love how this book also includes religion because I believe religion can help as well.
Well written, compassionate and inciteful. Helped me to process some childhood traumas and have a plan to move forward with dealing them instead of letting them continue to influence my life.