Healing the Stormy Marriage: Hope and Help for YOU when Your Loved One has Mental Health or Addiction Issues

Healing the Stormy Marriage: Hope and Help for YOU when Your Loved One has Mental Health or Addiction Issues

by R Christian Bohlen, Helen M. Bohlen

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If you are hurt, frustrated, or confused by your spouse’s behavior, this faith-based resource was designed for you.

Imagine waking up tomorrow with new hope because you understand the secrets of living successfully with an unstable spouse.

What if you could feel more confident, more in control, and less frustrated?

How? By embracing the easy-to-read recommendations from the husband-and-wife author team who beat all the odds to find happiness in marriage despite multiple mental illness diagnoses. In spite of family members and friends persuading them to call it quits, they found power in their faith and scripture and developed new skills recommended by world-renowned mental health and marriage researchers—now neatly interwoven in this groundbreaking volume—for you.
Best of all, regardless of your spouse’s choices and struggles, this book will teach you how to thrive with fresh insights and skills that can help you feel better and start healing today.

Find relief from the relentless doubts, anger, resentment, and helplessness:

* Care for yourself first (and see what God thinks about that).

* Feel your feelings the healthy way (which most spouses are not doing).

* Connect to godly power that comforts, guides, and lifts.

* Understand how your spouse may want to be loved differently than you think.

* See which of your efforts are being wasted (or doing more harm than good).

* Feel understood—perhaps for the first time ever—as you see yourself in the stories.

* Become at peace with your decision to stay in the marriage or to separate (and learn how).

Chapters are named by the most common, bedeviling frustrations that spouses of the mentally ill and addicted experience, such as:

* It’s not fair.
* Can I survive this?
* My needs are not being met.
* My spouse is walking all over me!
* My hopes for my life are unraveling.
* Our life is so chaotic I can’t plan anything!

Mental health professionals and spiritual advisors contributed to the design and contents of this meticulously reviewed resource with one objective, stated in the book:

“If spouses of the mentally ill or addicted can be spiritually strengthened and learn practical things they can do independently, more marriages can be saved.”

See that you are not alone as you peer into the inner lives and thoughts of spouses who experienced gut-wrenching anguish and the exhausting effects of mental illness on a relationship.

The authors’ conflicts, weaknesses, and personal growth are on transparent display—each from their own perspective—with harrowing stories from their incredible thirty-five year journey woven into each chapter.

Artfully designed, R. Christian Bohlen’s skills as an award-winning Fortune 500 instructional design professional are evident in this accessible, appealing presentation.

What critics and readers are saying . . .

". . . a must read." (BlueInk Reviews, starred review)

". . . highly recommended." (Midwest Book Review)

". . . empathetic . . . relatable . . . practical . . . warm and inviting . . ." (BookLife Review)

". . . profoundly helpful and moving . . . full of hope and wisdom . . . spiritually sound . . .” (Robert Reich, synod leader and pastor)

“. . . a gift for newlyweds to forty-year partners." (Ganel-Lyn Condie, bestselling author)

“. . . opened my eyes about ways to improve my own marriage of 41 years. . . The book is respectful and balanced. The format was especially helpful . . . It was lively and kept me wanting to read.” (Mardie, reader)

Start reading today. Experience instant hope and increasing relief as you discover what’s been possible for you all along!

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Product Details

BN ID: 2940164987190
Publisher: R Christian Bohlen
Publication date: 08/06/2021
Sold by: Smashwords
Format: NOOK Book
Sales rank: 268,652
File size: 7 MB

About the Author

R. Christian Bohlen is a professional communicator. He is a best-selling author and award-winning consultant to Fortune 500 companies, providing instructional design, training, and human performance improvement services. He has served in ministry and church leadership for more than 30 years and worked for over a decade with addicted and court-committed juveniles.

Christian is joined by his wife, Helen M. Bohlen, as contributor in his latest book, "Healing the Stormy Marriage." Both Christian and Helen have mental illness diagnoses. Helen's Borderline Personality Disorder diagnosis combined with Bipolar Disorder led to severe, long-term disruptions and multiple separations. Psychology professionals informed them that the unlikely survival of their relationship would constitute a "statistical outlier." Nevertheless, they found their way closer to God, discovered the secrets of making such a relationship work, and developed the critical skills needed to thrive despite these conditions.

Helen is a beloved wife, homemaker, and unstoppable jokester with a passion to help others thrive in their mental health challenges. Their intensely challenging marriage of thirty-five years survived severe mental illness through faith and research-based marriage and mental health recommendations from world-renowned experts—now interwoven in this latest book.

Christian and Helen are also certified Laughter Yoga leaders. (Find Laughter Yoga near you! It’s too funny and incredibly healthy!)

Connect with R. Christian Bohlen's latest writings at http://hislifeandmine.com

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