Ok...So they say everything happens for a reason. But try telling that to a young woman with a newly broken heart. It doesn't help. What possible purpose could a jerk of an ex-boyfriend serve in the grand scheme of things? After writing a ton of poetry chronicling her entire relationship (including some poems riddled with humor, and others filled to the brim with the highest levels of "pissivity"), the whole reflection culminated in an unexpected life lesson that surfaced on 9/11. So it seems that even crappy ex-boyfriends are good for something after all.
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Tayo Oredein is a writer from Jamaica, Queens NY and a graduate of Wellesley College, Hunter College (CUNY) and Rutgers University. She models and acts as well. This is her first book.
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Reviewed by Susana Pena for Readers' Favorite His PhD is in Hypocrisy: And Other Poems about My Crappy Ex-Boyfriend by Tayo Oredein is a book of poems that revolves around a Muslim guy named Steven. The author used to be madly in love with him, and she takes us on a poetic journey through their roller coaster relationship. She pours her heart out as she recalls all of the immense love she once felt for Steven, as well as the times when confusion, lack of trust, and anxiety plagued her mind. Tayo was head over heels in love with Steven, and she was looking forward to being his future wife. Steven ends up breaking her heart when he cheats behind her back with another woman. The author has a very hard time getting over this hurtful relationship. But in the end, she triumphs by learning to live without Steven. She heals herself from all of the hurt, loneliness, and sadness that he caused her. The rocky relationship that took place between author Tayo Oredein and her boyfriend Steven is vividly recalled in this work. The author takes us on a journey that starts with her falling madly in love with Steven; he is her happiness and true love. Then, Steven betrays her, and she is deeply hurt. In the end, Tayo finally has the courage to let go of this unhealthy relationship, and time heals her deeply punctured wounds. The poet's raw emotions that she experienced throughout her relationship with Steven were so vividly described, and I felt her pain. I think a lot of women can relate to this book because many people have experienced this type of relationship at one point in their lives, especially with their first true love. Falling in love, being cheated on, getting hurt, and finding the courage to move on, is - unfortunately - very common in the real world.
It wasn't that long ago that a title caught my eye on the internet that initially made me smile. "His Ph.D. is in Hypocrisy ... and other poems about my crappy ex-boyfriend", was the title. What is this, toilet reading for women? A collection of remedies for boo-hooing, Maya Angelou quotes and inspiring passages like "to thine own self me true? This is what I was thinking it was and I couldn't have been further off. What this seemed to be about was a young girl in America at the turn of the century, for better or worse in a relationship with a white Muslim, as the world was changing and building to something yet unspoken. It was the simple everyday tale about the ups and downs of love, respect and trust issues that are the testing ground for new relationships. The time that this true story takes place is important and the setting of NYC ,(predominantly) of equal magnitude. The blip on the radar of time is but a year but it’s a life changing year with ripples of waves that are still rolling. The author is the first person narrator of this story; Tayo Oredein from Jamaica, Queens, a beautiful, noble and talented woman. Almost 15 years have passed since she met her first true love, and she presents her tumultuous relationship here in a series of 94 poems that run the gamut of free-form, rap lyrics, humor, corny love expression, sweetness and purity to heart-wrenching rage, guilt, self-doubt and pathos. These poems tell the story of a young woman's journey through discovering love - a love that should have been simple and a love that should have been easy to overcome. Oredein reveals much about her hurtful experience, but yet remains so determined to hold on to her perceived happiness, you may want to shake her back to sense. We are given insights to how a woman swallows the truth and lies to herself because she thinks she's doing the right thing. Over and over again, she jumps from paranoia to bliss in a most unsettling manner. The story arch is incredibly well thought out and the reader's journey is absolute. This is a novel told through poems. I read it in one sitting! This is told in such a vivid and revealing way that it does play like a movie in one's mind. Getting into her soul is a remarkable thing. Remember, these are a series of poems and thoughts of a woman plummeting through a period of incredible growth, pain and enlightenment. What starts off almost in a naïve prose about what they wear to a pizza joint, actually transforms in style and sophistication before your eyes. Oredein bares her soul in a truth that can be undenied. Like a lover afraid to let go or believe what is happening, she revisits themes and repeats stories, adding new layers of textures each time, giving us glimpses into discovering the truth ourselves before she has to tell us. And what am I to learn from this? Having been in interracial relationships all my life and raising mixed children, I can say I revisited a lot in these pages. It took me places I had buried and forgotten. It gave me more appreciation for the people I have had and have in my life. Years ago I read another similar revealing voyage called The Bridges of Madison County. For those who remember that, it was about the choices you make and the lifetime you spend dealing with the consequence of the choice. That is what you get here. For Tayo Oredein, she is optimistic she has passed the rites. For the awaiting literary world, I join in her optimism. Darcy HooverCanada, 2014