How Are You Feeling, Momma? (You don't need to say,

How Are You Feeling, Momma? (You don't need to say, "I'm fine."): Authentic & Encouraging Psalm Reflections on the Many Emotions of Motherhood

by Shelby Spear, Lisa Leshaw


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The simple question, “How are you feeling, Momma?” wins the prize for the most loaded inquiry in the history of all things wonder. As moms, we’ve concocted a gazillion ways to dodge and deflect the question in order to avoid giving an honest answer. A trite “I’m fine” keeps the heaviness of authenticity from mucking up our everyday living.

Yet, the truth is, beneath our facade are countless felt needs just begging for healing and resolve. Motherhood is full of competing emotions that sap our energy on the regular. We often choose to ignore our feelings because if we give them room to breathe, scary things can happen. One of which is a complete unraveling of all the ‘fake it until you make it’ holding us together. Who wants to risk coming undone when we’re already on ‘overwhelmed mother’ status? But trying to side-step our reality by not being genuine only adds to the emotional weight we carry because of the missed opportunities to unburden our heart.

The good news is God is ready and willing to listen to how we feel. He already knows our heart anyway. His presence never leaves us, which means the availability God has on any given day to hear our prayers, pleadings, worries, and fears is all of time and eternity. It seems like the Hebrews took full advantage of this truth back in the day when you consider the Psalms. Turns out all the “Why, God?”, ”Why not, God?”, “When, God?”, “How, God?”, and “Are you sure, God?” questions hanging in the air thousands of years ago still resonate in our heart space today.

How Are You Feeling, Momma? is a collection of 31 short reflections giving you a peek into the inner life of Shelby and Lisa as they share all the emotions they've grappled with as moms over the course of many years. You will be comforted in knowing you are not alone in how you feel, as mom emotions are universal to all. In each chapter, you will read two perspectives on a specific emotion and corresponding Psalm scripture. One captures the emotion from Shelby's experience as a Christian mom and the other from Lisa’s vantage point as a Jewish step-mom and grandma.

Motherhood is hard, and the emotions moms deal with on any given day are universal. Shelby and Lisa’s words draw from deep wells of inexperienced experiences in hopes of bringing relief and encouragement to Moms everywhere. With vulnerability and a hefty dose of wit, Shelby and Lisa will:

  • Inspire you to lean into and get real about your mom feelings
  • Give you two perspectives on each emotion through both a Jewish and Christian lens
  • Encourage you to feel comforted in knowing you aren’t alone in how you feel
  • Help you connect the pleadings in the Psalms to the pleadings in your soul

While on paper, these two would appear to be polar opposites, ironically, their differences are the adhesive that binds them in this joint effort to give moms some spiritual uplift while in the trenches of motherhood. A serendipitous online encounter brought them together, and these two are living proof that despite differing views, background, and culture when it comes to God all things are possible through love. And when it comes to motherhood, all of us are in this together.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780578424187
Publisher: Shelby Spear
Publication date: 01/25/2019
Pages: 142
Sales rank: 1,065,193
Product dimensions: 6.00(w) x 9.00(h) x 0.30(d)

About the Author

A self-described "sappy soul whisperer and sarcasm aficionado", Shelby Spear is a wife of 25 years and a mom of three 20-something kiddos who has a deep love for Jesus and storytelling. Most days she muses in rhetorical wonder over what God was thinking when He put her in charge of three humans. Although God's quick to remind her how capable she is, apparently He sometimes does so while crossing His fingers behind His back.
Now that she and her husband, John, are in a season of empty nest, Shelby spends her days writing about all the ways motherhood has shaped, transformed, inspired, and aged her. You'll find her stories all over the web at places like Her View From Home, For Every Mom, Today, Love What Matters, and others. She has several stories in print at Guideposts magazine as well, the most recent in the January 2019 issue called, Our 40 Day Soul Fast. She is the loving and goofball hostess of a growing family of friends on her blog at and across social media outlets.
While John and her children graffiti her soul, all things chocolate melt her heart. Music stirs her like no other, crying fulfills her, and a love of sports keeps her competitive streak alive. Some of her favorite things in life are books, yoga, This Is Us, and a comfy pair of jeans-most notably the stretchy kind. Denim defines her in a bluesy kind of way.

Lisa is excited to be entering a new frontier in her life; meeting the eligibility requirement for Dunkin' Donuts senior discount. Because she's now a 'biddy,' she lives in the same attire as new mommas: tshirts and sweats for daily living and extravagant affairs.
She is an avid storyteller with plenty of material to pull from in her role as wife of 40+ years to Stu, step-mom to a son and daughter, both in their early forties, and a grandma to six grandbabies: five boys and one girl, ages 6-16.
You can find her words online and in print at places like Her View From Home, Grown and Flown, Guideposts, and Chicken Soup for the Soul.
Her decades of experience as a mental health professional along with her weekly empowerment circles give mommas of every age a place to celebrate themselves and one another. She prays every day that the world becomes a more tolerant and accepting place-hoping that each one of us will work towards making a lasting contribution to ensure this outcome.
Lisa also loves children's theater and is ready to pursue a career in stand-up comedy if someone discovers she's funny. Her children's book, A Royal Mistake, is ready to be published if someone discovers she's written it.
When it's all said and done, Lisa's wish is that everyone walk with lightness, giggle easily, and land softly someday in the arms God.

Table of Contents

Table of Contents




1 Psalms for Afraid Moms

2 Psalms for Alone Moms

3 Psalms for Burned-Out Moms

4 Psalms for Cheated Moms

5 Psalms for Confused Moms

6 Psalms for Depressed Moms

7 Psalms for Distressed Moms

8 Psalms for Elated Moms

9 Psalms for Guilty Moms

10 Psalms for Hateful Moms

11 Psalms for Impatient Moms

12 Psalms for Insecure Moms

13 Psalms for Insulted Moms

14 Psalms for Jealous Moms

15 Psalms for Like Quitting Moms

16 Psalms for Lost Moms

17 Psalms for Overwhelmed Moms

18 Psalms for Penitent Moms

19 Psalms for Prideful Moms

20 Psalms for Purposeless Moms

21 Psalms for Sad Moms

22 Psalms for Self-Confident Moms

23 Psalms for Tense Moms

24 Psalms for Thankful Moms

25 Psalms for Threatened Moms

26 Psalms for Tired Moms

27 Psalms for Trapped Moms

28 Psalms for Unmotivated Moms

29 Psalms for Vulnerable Moms

30 Psalms for Worried Moms

31 Psalms for Worshipful Moms

32 More about Shelby

33 More about Lisa

34 For More Info and Resources from Shelby

35 For More Info and Resources from Lisa

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