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*A New York Times Love and Relationships bestseller*
For readers of Cheryl Strayed and Anne Lamott, a collection of brand new, impassioned, and inspiring letters by the author of the beloved advice column Ask Polly, featured weekly on New York Magazine's The Cut
Should you quit your day job to follow your dreams? How do you rein in an overbearing mother? Will you ever stop dating wishy-washy, noncommittal guys? Should you put off having a baby for your career?
Heather Havrilesky, the author of the weekly advice column Ask Polly, featured in New York magazine’s The Cut, is here to guide you through the “what if’s” and “I don’t knows” of modern life with the signature wisdom and tough love her readers have come to expect.
How to Be a Person in the World is a collection of never-before-published material along with a few fan favorites. Whether she’s responding to cheaters or loners, lovers or haters, the depressed or the down-and-out, Havrilesky writes with equal parts grace, humor, and compassion to remind you that even in your darkest moments you’re not alone.
|Publisher:||Knopf Doubleday Publishing Group|
|Product dimensions:||5.70(w) x 8.40(h) x 0.80(d)|
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Table of Contents
Author's Note xi
I Flaws Become You
Here Comes the (Anxious) Bride 5
My Mind Likes Imagining Boys 12
The Poisons of Materialism 18
Am I Too Weird? 24
Crushed by an STD 33
II You Are Uniquely Qualified to Bring You the World
What Would Kanye Do? 43
My Boyfriend Has Never Had a Job 51
Devil Town 56
Commitmentphobes of N.Y.C. 64
III Reckoning, Anger, and Obsession
The Cheat Sheet 73
I'm Tired of Being So Nice 81
The Weight of Rage 86
Cheaters Become You 93
That Bitter Aftertaste 101
IV Weepiness Is Next to Godliness
Drunk No More 113
I'm Dating My Best Friend's Ex 118
How Do I Get Over This Betrayal? 128
Why Don't the Men I Date Ever Love Me? 134
V Identity and Becoming an Artist (Whether You Make Art or Not)
Land of the Lost Artist 147
Lame Job, Lame Life 155
Do I Make Music or Have a Family? 162
This Job Is Killing Me 169
VI The Uncertainty Principle
Making Friends (Out of Nothing at All) 179
I'm Thirty-Eight and Everything Is Awful 189
Don't Shy Away 195
I Don't Know 202
Career or Baby? 209
VII Beauty in the Breakdown
I Feel Haunted by My Affair 221
The Good Wife 229
Full Disclosure 234
Mourning Glory 239
The Bean Eaters 247
Reading Group Guide
How To Be A Person in The World: Readers Guide
1. If you could ask Polly any question, what would it be?
2. Polly is known for her tough love—does this approach work for you?
3. Even though the truth can be hard, do you see value in the author’s honesty?
4. Polly is a self-care advocate: what are some different methods of self-care she mentions that she thinks you might be able to apply to your own life? Do you agree with her about the importance of exercise to self-discovery and betterment?
5. Did How To Be A Person in The World leave you creatively inspired?
6. Which essay resonated the most with you?
7. Were there any questions that you couldn’t apply to your own life? If so, why?
8. Why do you think the book was titled “How To Be A Person in The World”?
9. Did you have a favorite quote from any of Polly’s answers?
10. Why do you think Heather Havrilesky adopted the persona of “Polly” for her advice column?
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
For an adult in existential angst. Pleasantly surprised. Would have liked it to be longer.