How to Stop Worrying and Start Living

How to Stop Worrying and Start Living

by Dale Carnegie

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ISBN-13: 9780671035976
Publisher: Gallery Books
Publication date: 10/05/2004
Edition description: Revised Edition
Pages: 320
Sales rank: 8,954
Product dimensions: 5.31(w) x 8.25(h) x 0.90(d)

About the Author

Dale Carnegie (1888-1955) described himself as a "simple country boy" from Missouri but was also a pioneer of the self-improvement genre. Since the 1936 publication of his first book, How to Win Friends and Influence People, he has touched millions of readers and his classic works continue to impact lives to this day.

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How This Book Was Written

— and Why

In 1909, I was one of the unhappiest lads in New York. I was selling motor trucks for a living. I didn't know what made a motor truck run. That wasn't all: I didn't want to know. I despised my job. I despised living in a cheap furnished room on West Fifty-sixth Street — a room infested with cockroaches. I still remember that I had a bunch of neckties hanging on the walls; and when I reached out of a morning to get a fresh necktie, the cockroaches scattered in all directions. I despised having to eat in cheap, dirty restaurants that were also probably infested with cockroaches.

I came home to my lonely room each night with a sick headache — a headache bred and fed by disappointment, worry, bitterness, and rebellion. I was rebelling because the dreams I had nourished back in my college days had turned into nightmares. Was this life? Was this the vital adventure to which I had looked forward so eagerly? Was this all life would ever mean to me — working at a job I despised, living with cockroaches, eating vile food — and with no hope for the future?...I longed for leisure to read, and to write the books I had dreamed of writing back in my college days.

I knew I had everything to gain and nothing to lose by giving up the job I despised. I wasn't interested in making a lot of money, but I was interested in making a lot of living. In short, I had come to the Rubicon — to that moment of decision which faces most young people when they start out in life. So I made my decision — and that decision completely altered my future. It has made the rest of my life happy and rewarding beyond my most Utopian aspirations.

My decision was this: I would give up the work I loathed; and, since I had spent four years studying in the State Teachers College at Warrensburg, Missouri, preparing to teach, I would make my living teaching adult classes in night schools. Then I would have my days free to read books, prepare lectures, write novels and short stories. I wanted "to live to write and write to live."

What subject should I teach to adults at night? As I looked back and evaluated my own college training, I saw that the training and experience I had had in public speaking had been of more practical value to me in business — and in life — than everything else I had studied in college all put together. Why? Because it had wiped out my timidity and lack of self-confidence and given me the courage and assurance to deal with people. It had also made clear that leadership usually gravitates to the man who can get up and say what he thinks.

I applied for a position teaching public speaking in the night extension courses both at Columbia University and New York University, but these universities decided they could struggle along somehow without my help.

I was disappointed then — but now I thank God that they did turn me down, because I started teaching in YMCA night schools, where I had to show concrete results and show them quickly. What a challenge that was! These adults didn't come to my classes because they wanted college credits or social prestige. They came for one reason only: they wanted to solve their problems. They wanted to be able to stand up on their feet and say a few words at a business meeting without fainting from fright. Salesmen wanted to be able to call on a tough customer without having to walk around the block three times to get up courage. They wanted to develop poise and self-confidence. They wanted to get ahead in business. They wanted to have more money for their families. And since they were paying their tuition on an installment basis — and they stopped paying if they didn't get results — and since I was being paid, not a salary, but a percentage of the profits, I had to be practical if I wanted to eat.

I felt at the time that I was teaching under a handicap, but I realize now that I was getting priceless training. I had to motivate my students. I had to help them solve their problems. I had to make each session so inspiring that they wanted to continue coming.

It was exciting work. I loved it. I was astounded at how quickly these businessmen developed self-confidence and how quickly many of them secured promotions and increased pay. The classes were succeeding far beyond my most optimistic hopes. Within three seasons, the YMCAs, which had refused to pay me five dollars a night in salary, were paying me thirty dollars a night on a percentage basis. At first, I taught only public speaking, but, as the years went by, I saw that these adults also needed the ability to win friends and influence people. Since I couldn't find an adequate textbook on human relations, I wrote one myself. It was written — no, it wasn't written in the usual way. It grew and evolved out of the experiences of the adults in these classes. I called it How to Win Friends and Influence People.

Since it was written solely as a textbook for my own adult classes, and since I had written four other books that no one had ever heard of, I never dreamed that it would have a large sale: I am probably one of the most astonished authors now living.

As the years went by, I realized that another one of the biggest problems of these adults was worry. A large majority of my students were businessmen — executives, salesmen, engineers, accountants: a cross section of all the trades and professions — and most of them had problems! There were women in the classes — businesswomen and housewives. They, too, had problems! Clearly, what I needed was a textbook on how to conquer worry — so again I tried to find one. I went to New York's great public library at Fifth Avenue and Forty-second Street and discovered to my astonishment that this library had only twenty-two books listed under the title WORRY. I also noticed, to my amusement, that it had one hundred eighty-nine books listed under WORMS. Almost nine times as many books about worms as about worry! Astounding, isn't it? Since worry is one of the biggest problems facing mankind, you would think, wouldn't you, that every high school and college in the land would give a course on "How to Stop Worrying"? Yet, if there is even one course on that subject in any college in the land, I have never heard of it. No wonder David Seabury said in his book How to Worry Successfully: "We come to maturity with as little preparation for the pressures of experience as a bookworm asked to do a ballet."

The result? More than half of our hospital beds are occupied by people with nervous and emotional troubles.

I looked over these twenty-two books on worry reposing on the shelves of the New York Public Library. In addition, I purchased all the books on worry I could find; yet I couldn't discover even one that I could use as a text in my course for adults. So I resolved to write one myself.

I began preparing myself to write this book seven years ago. How? By reading what the philosophers of all ages have said about worry. I also read hundreds of biographies, all the way from Confucius to Churchill. I also interviewed scores of prominent people in many walks of life, such as Jack Dempsey, General Omar Bradley, General Mark Clark, Henry Ford, Eleanor Roosevelt, and Dorothy Dix. But that was only a beginning.

I also did something else that was far more important than the interviews and the reading. I worked for five years in a laboratory for conquering worry — a laboratory conducted in our own adult classes. As far as I know, it was the first and only laboratory of its kind in the world. This is what we did. We gave students a set of rules on how to stop worrying and asked them to apply these rules in their own lives and then talk to the class on the results they had obtained. Others reported on techniques they had used in the past.

As a result of this experience, I presume I have listened to more talks on "How I Conquered Worry" than has any other individual who ever walked this earth. In addition, I read hundreds of other talks on "How I Conquered Worry" — talks that were sent to me by mail — talks that had won prizes in our classes that are held throughout the world. So this book didn't come out of an ivory tower. Neither is it an academic preachment on how worry might be conquered. Instead, I have tried to write a fast-moving, concise, documented report on how worry has been conquered by thousands of adults. One thing is certain: this book is practical. You can set your teeth in it.

"Science," said the French philosopher Valéry, "is a collection of successful recipes." That is what this book is: a collection of successful and time-tested recipes to rid our lives of worry. However, let me warn you: you won't find anything new in it, but you will find much that is not generally applied. And when it comes to that, you and I don't need to be told anything new. We already know enough to lead perfect lives. We have all read the golden rule and the Sermon on the Mount. Our trouble is not ignorance, but inaction. The purpose of this book is to restate, illustrate, streamline, air-condition, and glorify a lot of ancient and basic truths — and kick you in the shins and make you do something about applying them.

You didn't pick up this book to read about how it was written. You are looking for action. All right, let's go. Please read Parts One and Two of this book — and if by that time you don't feel that you have acquired a new power and a new inspiration to stop worry and enjoy life — then toss this book away. It is no good for you.

Dale Carnegie

Copyright 1944, 1945, 1946, 1947, 1948 by Dale Carnegie. Copyright renewed.

Copyright © 1984 by Donna Dale Carnegie and Dorothy Carnegie

Table of Contents

Contents


    PREFACE
  • How This Book Was Written -- and Why
  • Nine Suggestions on How to Get the Most out of This Book


PART ONE

FUNDAMENTAL FACTS YOU SHOULD KNOW ABOUT WORRY

  • 1 Live in "Day-tight Compartments"
  • 2 A Magic Formula for Solving Worry Situations
  • 3 What Worry May Do to You


PART TWO

BASIC TECHNIQUES IN ANALYZING WORRY

  • 4 How to Analyze and Solve Worry Problems
  • 5 How to Eliminate Fifty Per Cent of Your Business Worries


PART THREE

HOW TO BREAK THE WORRY HABIT BEFORE IT BREAKS YOU

  • 6 How to Crowd Worry Out of Your Mind
  • 7 Don't Let the Beetles Get You Down
  • 8 A Law That Will Outlaw Many of Your Worries
  • 9 Co-operate with the Inevitable
  • 10 Put a "Stop-Loss" Order on Your Worries
  • 11 Don't Try to Saw Sawdust


PART FOUR

SEVEN WAYS TO CULTIVATE A MENTAL ATTITUDE THAT WILL BRING YOU PEACE AND HAPPINESS

  • 12 Eight Words That Can Transform Your Life
  • 13 The High Cost of Getting Even
  • 14 If You Do This, You Will Never Worry About Ingratitude
  • 15 Would You Take a Million Dollars for What You Have?
  • 16 Find Yourself and Be Yourself: Remember There Is No One Else on Earth Like You
  • 17 If You Have a Lemon, Make a Lemonade
  • 18 How to Cure Depression in Fourteen Days


PART FIVE

THE PERFECT WAY TO CONQUER WORRY

  • 19 How My Mother and Father Conquered Worry


PART SIX

HOW TO KEEP FROM WORRYING ABOUT CRITICISM

  • 20 Remember That No One Ever Kicks a Dead Dog
  • 21 Do This -- and Criticism Can't Hurt You
  • 22 Fool Things I Have Done


PART SEVEN

SIX WAYS TO PREVENT FATIGUE AND WORRY AND KEEP YOUR ENERGY AND SPIRITS HIGH

  • 23 How to Add One Hour a Day to Your Waking Life
  • 24 What Makes You Tired -- and What You Can Do About It
  • 25 How to Avoid Fatigue -- and Keep Looking Young!
  • 26 Four Good Working Habits That Will Help Prevent Fatigue and Worry
  • 27 How to Banish the Boredom That Produces Fatigue, Worry, and Resentment
  • 28 How to Keep from Worrying About Insomnia


PART EIGHT

"HOW I CONQUERED WORRY"

Six Major Troubles Hit Me All at Once

by C.I. Blackwood

I Can Turn Myself into a Shouting Optimist Within an Hour

by Roger W. Babson

How I got Rid of an Inferiority Complex

by Elmer Thomas

I Lived in the Garden of Allah

by R. V. C. Bodley

Five Methods I have Used to Banish Worry

by Professor William Lyon Phelps

I Stood Yesterday. I Can Stand Today

by Dorothy Dix

I Did Not Expect to Live to See the Dawn

by J.C. Penney

I Go to the Gym to Punch the Bag or Take a Hike Outdoors

by Colonel Eddie Eagan

I Was "The Worrying Wreck from Virginia Tech"

by Jim Birdsall

I Have Lived by This Sentence

by Dr. Joseph R. Sizoo

I Hit Bottom and Survived

by Ted Ericksen

I Used to Be One of the World's Biggest Jackasses

by Percy H. Whiting

I Have Always Tried to Keep My Line of Supplies Open

by Gene Autry

I Heard a Voice in India

by E. Stanley Jones

When the Sheriff Came in My Front Door

by Homer Croy

The Toughest Opponent I Ever Fought Was Worry

by Jack Dempsey

I Prayed to God to Keep Me Out of an Orphans' Home

by Kathleen Halter

My Stomach Was Twisting Like a Kansas Whirlwind

by Cameron Shipp

I Learned to Stop Worrying by Watching My Wife Wash Dishes

by Reverend William Wood

I Found the Answer

by Del Hughes

Time Solves a Lot of Things!

by Louis T. Montant, Jr.

I Was Warned Not to Try to Speak or to Move Even a Finger

by Joseph L. Ryan

I Am a Great Dismisser

by Ordway Tead

If I Had Not Stopped Worrying, I Would Have Been in My Grave Long Ago

by Connie Mack

I Got Rid of Stomach Ulcers and Worry by Changing My Job and My Mental Attitude

by Arden W. Sharpe

I Now Look for the Green Light

by Joseph M. Cotter

How John D. Rockefeller Lived on Borrowed Time for Forty-five Years

I Was Committing Slow Suicide Because I Didn't Know How to Relax

by Paul Sampson

A Real Miracle Happened to Me

by Mrs. John Burger

How Benjamin Franklin Conquered Worry

I Was so Worried I Didn't Eat a Bite of Solid Food for Eighteen Days

by Kathryne Holcombe Farmer

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Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Dale Carnegie wrote some great books back in the 30's and 40's, and this book is one of them. Readers who liked Carnegie's bestselling How to Win Friends & Influence People won't be disappointed in this book.

The writing style is classic Carnegie. To put it simply, the guy just writes like he talks. This makes for a very friendly and easy to understand book, rather like a good friend giving you a piece of advice.

And a lot of advice he gives. The book is divided up into ten sections, each one tackling some aspect of worrying. I could give you a rundown of the topics, but you don't really need me to repeat the table on contents to decide if you want to read the book. Rather, let me just say that book covers just about every major "worry issue" that might be causing a troubled mind, such as your work, your finances, other people's criticisms- and them some.

While there are no earth-shattering, never-before-seen tips in the book, I wouldn't hesitate for a second to recommend it to anyone who is looking to ease their mind a bit. That's because it does a GREAT job of conveying simple wisdom that really make you think good and hard about why you're worrying and if those things are really worth worrying about at all.

In short, its a bestseller because it makes a lot of sense and its advice can do a lot to re-frame your thinking about things. And if you can re-frame your thinking, well, you've about found the best "Compound-W" for worry warts.
Guest More than 1 year ago
Dale Carnegie has given excellent real life examples which relate to the practical situations of stress experienced by each of us in life. Worry is something which can affect your health, happiness and keep you away from the happiness of living life. The book deals with numerous ways of how to vent out worries from your mind with very simple and practical techniques. It's a great book and the examples given are excellent and touch your heart.
Guest More than 1 year ago
I like to read reviews before I purchase a book so naturally I took into account all of the other reviews made on this book thus far. I was very impressed and decided 'what the heck!?' This book did not live up my expectations, it CRUSHED them by surpassing them TREMENDOUSLY!!! We all have our good days and bad days, we're human. We all notice patterns in our daily lives that make us feel better and try to remember them so we can stay in our state of 'euphoria' and 'productiveness' for long amounts of time. This book helps remind you of all those wonderful things you remember to help you live a better life, from relaxing the eyes to prevent fatigue to reading valuable quotes by Jesus that prove we were not, as humans, meant to worry about anything! This book is not recommended for those who have trouble worrying, it's recommended to EVERYONE in this world! Heart attacks, stomach ulcers, nervous break downs, high blood pressure, and non-hereditary diabetes are everywhere in this world...and they are caused by worry/stress/tension...all things Dale helps you EASILY solve and forget! Buy this cheap $8 life-changing book!
Guest More than 1 year ago
i ll start my review from the quote: 'As a rule man is a fool, when it is hot he wants it to cool,when it is cool wants it to be hot, always wanting what is not' it true that we human always wants things what we dont have and never care for things that we have in past thats the main cause which bring us to stress, so now when we get stressed so this book porvide a great help for reducing the stress, with realistic examples. this book is very good in order to live life fully.
Guest More than 1 year ago
In 1944, when this book was first published, what they called 'worry' was what we now call 'stress.' This is a great book on how to deal with stress. The methods are simple and straightforward and Carnegie delivers them with a good helping of entertainment in the form of true stories. This book is really seven small books bound together into one: The first is a short description of the health affects of too much stress, and two basic principles to handle almost any form of stressful situation. The second book is really about the form of stress we now call worry and how to eliminate it. The next three sections are full of practical principles to not only have less stress in your life, but how to have more happiness. They are mostly new mental habits. Carnegie tells you how to think about situations so that you minimize your stress and maximize your effectiveness. Good stuff. Then there's a section on dealing with criticism. And finally, a section on work habits and sleep habits that can add more time to your day and give you more energy during your working day. I'm the author of the book, Self-Help Stuff That Works, and I am an expert on what works and what doesn't. In my expert opinion, How to Stop Worrying and Start Living is jam-packed with more practical advice than any other book on the market. I highly recommend it.
markdeo on LibraryThing 25 days ago
One of my favorites. I give this book a 5. Mr. Carnegie writes so well in a friendly advice manner. Carnegie always provides tremendous insight. This book is really tremendous for mindset. A must read and must have.
indrawarman on LibraryThing 25 days ago
this book really made my eyes opened, that actually we could become who ever we want to become. God bless you, mr. Carnegie.
Kaz2 on LibraryThing 25 days ago
In this book,it strats from Dale Carnegie's life.He was poor in his childhood,and he was always worrying about many things,but he gradually overcame worrying.Then he noticed many people worrying,and therefore he wrote how to get rid of worrying in this book.But the vocabulary level is very high,and I think it's difficult to read without the dictionary.But in this book,it is written how to get over worrying,and I think it's useful.
carterchristian1 on LibraryThing 25 days ago
How well this has aged.
ctkcec on LibraryThing 25 days ago
A bit dated, but still an outstanding classic in the field of self-help and motivation.
emigre on LibraryThing 25 days ago
A classic, the tips still work. While I may not be able to stop worrying altogether, it could be a compulsion forever, Carnegie's stories and teachings are valuable.
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Loved it! So helpful
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A great book of all time. So interesting. Read about 4 times ... Enjoy every time.
kross1 More than 1 year ago
Dale Carnegie Never Fails To Write an Empowering Advice Book This book was a lifesaver for me, because I worry about everything, and this book has provided me with the wisdom I need to grow into the more confident, assertive person I was truly meant to be. Carengie is one of my top authors, and I highly regaurd him. The writing of his work has helped me to ward off my anxiety by thinking about what is causing me to worry, why I am worrying and how I can  resolve the conflict that is causing my anxiety. Simple techniques like these have  helped me to live a more relaxing well deserving life. 
gitpicker More than 1 year ago
This is an excellent book. I love Carnegie's writing style.
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It’s a funny thing: The principles that Dale Carnegie talks about are obvious, but they’re difficult to implement in real life. The greatest challenge, in my opinion, is conquering your own character traits that don’t let you behave the way you want. The best book on emotional control, which includes anxiety, is recently published Secret Techniques for Controlling Sadness, Anger, Fear, Anxiety, and Other Emotions by Vlad Koros. Koros guides you step by step using funny examples how to turn off your anxiety at will. I tried it on several occasions, and I can’t believe that it works! Once you can control your inclinations, you can try Carnegie’s advice. At least, I will.
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Great
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