How We Lived

How We Lived

by Erin Butler
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How We Lived 4.4 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 17 reviews.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
The raw emotion displayed between chracters and the whirlwind emotions show the reality of losing a loved one. This book was so good i had to pre-order her next book
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
It was. A very good.
slz52 More than 1 year ago
Short but very good, this is a story about loss and how differently people deal with it, the author shows us how forgiving and loving can make losing someone you love a little less painful.
Lagalloway More than 1 year ago
I am a sucker for a bad boy with secrets. And Chase is no exception. His and Kelsey's story of loss, love and survival is outstanding. Chase was always the boy next door to Kelsey, the boy she was close to and loved from afar, but one night changed that all; the night Chase killed her brother. Kelsey was close with her brother and his absence haunts her. Her parents have fallen into a dark place, hating each other and pretending as if their only child died. Chase keeps his distance from the family, doing his part for society and the death of his best friend, Kyle. But Kyle's funeral comes and he can't seem to stay away. Kyle's death may be on his hands, but Chase's love for his best friend and his sister, Kelsey, pull him to the last place he should be. Chase finds Kelsey sitting under a tree watching the funeral from a distance; her parents wouldn't let her go to the funeral in jeans in a t-shirt. Kelsey hadn't spoken with Chase in months, blaming him for Kyle's death, but she still loves him. Kelsey's problems at home, her need to reconnect with Kyle on some level, yet try to escape his memory sends her to continually seek out Chase. Life keeps pushing them together and pulling them apart at a heartbreaking pace that drags you in and drowns you in their emotions and entanglements. Chase's secrets threaten to tear them apart, but can Kelsey forgive him for keeping them from her once they come barreling at her head-on? Can Chase and Kelsey survive the ultimate test of love; trust? The story of Chase, Kelsey and Kyle is wonderfully written. I found myself falling in love with all the characters and the struggles they went through after Kyle's death and the secrets that came to the surface (and boy did I not see ANY of that coming). It is a book I have added to my "Must Read Again!" shelf.
BookLabyrinth More than 1 year ago
How We Lived is a very quick read, but Erin Butler packs an emotional punch within its pages. The book is a story of loss and a story of love. There’s a lot of self-hatred and blame going on among Kelsey’s family and friends after her brother, Kyle, is killed. People are dealing with the loss in unhealthy ways, or perhaps not really dealing with it at all. Kelsey’s whole family is closed off from one another, going through the motions of life, but not really living. I loved watching Kelsey and Chase reconnect and seeing how they began to move forward. Their relationship was so complicated, and it was interesting to see how both internal and external forces influenced how they felt. This book is sweet and sad and realistic. So many New Adult stories present painful pasts as a reason to make a character angsty, but that wasn’t at all the case here. How We Lived is an honest portrayal of grief, love, and life.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Most of Entangled Publishings books are only around 200 pages. Why is that?
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This book is about giving second chances and I rate it 10 stars if I could
LovinLosLibros More than 1 year ago
I knew going in that this would be a very emotional read. I can't even imagine losing a loved one, let alone my own brother. I felt Erin did a beautiful job of bringing this story to life and conveying to readers that even in the darkest of times, there is still hope and the promise that it will get better. Pacing: Extremely fast-paced. This was a shorter novel, so it didn't take long to get immersed in Kelsey and Chase's world and watch them fight for what they both want and need in their lives. Storyline: Dealing with the loss of her brother and best friend, Kelsey is struggling to work through her grief. In the five months since, her life has spiraled downhill. Once a perfect student, Kelsey has failed her last semester at college and now has to take summer classes. She has witnessed her parents' marriage fall apart and now feels suffocated by the weight of grief that she has inside of her. The book begins with her and Chase, her brother's best friend and boy next door, finally reconnecting after five months of silence. Unfortunately, Chase is the boy who killed her brother. However, Kelsey can't deny that she misses him, as the three were inseparable as kids. He is there for her in ways that no one else can be and she finds herself gravitating towards him and the comfort that he offers. This obviously causes complications, as Kelsey's parents have forbidden her to see him and would freak if they only knew how much time she was spending with him. How We Lived touches on some very sensitive, but very real topics and I believe that makes this story such a good one. Every action has a consequence and sadly, accidents happen. Chase is a good person with a very big heart and he desperately wants to be the one Kelsey turns to and falls in love with, even after everything they've faced. I was surprised to hear Chase's account of that night and what really happened and was said before the accident. These revelations were heartbreaking to hear, and it really made sense why Chase is so passionate about his community outreach program he has started. Characters: Kelsey and Chase's characters both really broke my heart. It was hard to watch them work through their grief and struggle to find their way to one another. This is a huge change in both of their lives and they are doing the best they can to work through it in their own ways. Kelsey definitely frustrated me a bit, however. I realize she's going through a lot and her feelings are really all over the place, but I didn't like seeing her hurt Chase- even though it was unintentionally. I felt like she didn't know where she belonged and I hated that for her. She was trying to find comfort in Bear, another of their friends, and as sweet as he was, he just wasn't giving her what she truly needed. Only Chase could give that and she knew that she shouldn't be running to him. She has forgiven him, but doesn't stick up for him when he needs her to. That really hurts him more than anything because Chase already carries so much guilt over what happened. Even though she's forgiven him, until she shows him that she'll fight for him like he will for her, he knows it won't work between them. Chase is such a good guy. He is holding on to so much more guilt than just being the one drinking and driving that night. He won't ever be able to truly give himself to Kelsey until he confesses everything that happened that night. His mom, however, knows everything and has been a really great support system for him. She was always close to Kyle and Kelsey, and the accident caused her to lose both of them, as Kelsey's parents have forbidden contact between the two families. Kelsey's parents have always felt Chase was a trouble maker and a bad influence on their kids. However, Chase has decided if Kelsey wants to be with him and see him, no one will get in the way of doing so. Kelsey's parents aren't bad people, but they are grieving. Grief affects people in different ways and they are so angry over what happened that they don't see the things Chase is doing now or how much he is helping their daughter heal. Final Thoughts: How We Lived is a beautiful story about loss, grief, forgiveness, love, and hope. We see two characters who were once inseparable find their way back to one another and fall in love despite what their family and friends think. It is through that love that they are able to find acceptance and peace and move forward in the future.
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micharch More than 1 year ago
Erin Butler sucked me right in with this story.  Chase and Kelsey have known each other all of their lives and, after a terrible mistake, Kelsey's brother died.  Chase is now blamed and Kelsey has to try to reconcile her feelings for him knowing that her family and whole town are going to be angry with her if she has a relationship with him.  Chase tries to keep hope that Kelsey will forgive him and find a way to have a relationship with him.  He is willing to even just be her friend, however, his dream is for them to be together. I will not give any spoilers so that is all I am going to say. It was well written and a fast read. 
FS_Meurinne More than 1 year ago
"Received and ARC for an honest review" This book got straight through me. It made me teary and squeezed my heart but I wouldn't want it any other way.  Kelsey is in a place in her life that thankfully not everyone gets to be. Unfortunately, that's not my case. I lost a sister to an accident as well, so this story really got in my heart.  I love how Erin managed it all. The reality and how well she understands and makes you feel what the characters are going through is no easy task, but she nailed it.  The different process with Kyle's death that each character affronts is what truly goes on. How Kelsey's parents dwell with loosing a child, forgetting a hit about what the surviving one is feeling. How their marriage is on the thread because of it. How Kelsey tries her best to overcome her loss by herself and finds that Chase, Kyle's best friend, is going through the same, trying also to overcome his guilt and find a path to redeem himself.  I absolutely give this book a go, I read it in one sit and if you know someone going though any related situation, I hope you give them a hand, because even though you never really overcome completely from a tragic loss, having someone there with you is just the best way to keep going. 
Anlenhart1 More than 1 year ago
.This is story of grief, healing and connection between Kelsey a 19 year old college student and Chase, her dead brother's best friend. Chase is persona non-grata because he was driving the vehicle that resulted in the death of Kyle, Kelsey's brother. Her life is falling apart, she failing school, her parents are fighting and her boyfriend isn't interested in her physically. She and Chase reconnect at Kylie's funeral and start to heal each other. This novel was a very strong story that balanced the difficult plot of grief and family drama with friendship, and romantic attraction. It was well developed and realistic. We'll worth the time. I was given an free copy for an honest review.
Luvmyhootie More than 1 year ago
Chase Crowley was the ultimate broken boy! Everybody needs a guy like this. Family drama is something nobody is immune from. Even fewer to the degree of falling in love with your brothers killer but How We Lived was a beautiful story about overcoming grief and learning to forgive. Kelsey and Chase have been best friends for years. Before anything bad happened to them they along with Kelsey's brother Kyle were inseparable. Playing the childhood friends to lovers angle really worked for me even though Chase made a reckless mistake that cost them both someone they loved dearly. This was another quick read that wasn't very long but ultimately stole my attention away pretty fast. It wasn't hard to connect emotionally with both characters and the grief they both feel but for different reasons.  Kelsey lost a brother and confidant but the absence of him isn't the only thing that is causing so much pain. It's watching her parents fall apart over their suffering while basically ignoring her. She's a girl floundering to find purpose in the sadness and trying to figure out what she should do with her life. Six months after Kyle's death she's failing at state college and the relationship she has with her brothers friend Bear isn't helping anymore. The comfort she once found in him is dying and the only person she feels who really gets her is Chase. There is so much that she learns not only about herself but about life and love. Kelsey has to grow up tremendously in such a short time but the growth in her character was just one thing I enjoyed about this book. Standing up for not only herself but for Chase as well took serious courage and because of that I felt pride in her development. Chase Crowley was the best thing about this book. There is just something special about a broken guy as I've said so many times before. Yes he made a huge mistake and yes he's suffering right along with everyone else but it was his indomitable spirit to be better than what people think of him that really made me love him. Since the accident that killed his best friend everyone has turned against him. His friends, the town's folk and Kelsey's parents who have never cared much for him have gone to extreme lengths to make sure he knows they don't like him. Chase was the ultimate underdog who didn't have to try hard to win my affection. He was such a sweet guy and it showed in his actions. Knowing that he's been in love with Kelsey for a long time made their connection that much more beautiful to me. Seeing the significant changes he's made to his life and how it ultimately affected Kelsey made me want to bawl my eyes out. There's more to his story than just getting behind the wheel against his better judgement and learning the truth scared me a little because I didn't want it to hinder the relationship he shared with Kelsey. How We Lived was filled with so many heart warming moments between Kelsey and Chase. Their childhood bond grew into something special and made me swoon with every new experience they encountered. Getting glimpses of how Chase changed from the skirt chasing sex pot to a guy who wanted to deserve Kelsey was very special. It was a bumpy road for both characters but they always say there is a pot of gold in every rainbow and How We Lived definitely fits that description. I'll definitely be keeping my eye out for this author in the future because she blew me away with this story which was my first experience with her writing. She made her characters come alive and the issues they faced were real and honest, something you could understand whole wholeheartedly. Sometimes you need a good story that gets you in the feels and shakes off the dust of some of the other tropes that can seem redundant so I would implore you to give this book a try and fall in love with Kelsey and Chase just like I did.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Better have some tissues handy.  I consider myself a fairly tough guy, butthis book had me tearing up with the first chapter! A wonderful tale of losss, redemption, recovery, and love. I'm not ashamed to admit thatthis one got mechoked up.  Great job on this book!
psee More than 1 year ago
5 "Better Get Some Kleenex" Stars Wow. This book was really good. I love when I go into a story without big expectations, and then you are blown away. While this was a quick read for me it was rich with substance and filled with things I love like friends who find love and healing while they do it. Kelsey is home from college because even though her brother died five months ago, they are just now able to do the service. What makes it worse is that her parents nor her have done well these past five months and the one person she could get the most comfort from is not welcomed by her family. Chase, two years older, was in essence the third amigo with Kelsey and her brother Kyle. But how can Kelsey let Chase make it better when he was the one responsible for her brother's death in the first place. Deep right. Sometimes no matter what others may think, the heart knows what is best. For Kelsey it is Chase, and for Chase, he knew it was Kelsey before she did. They have so many obstacles to overcome. Everyone knows their story and initially aside from Vito, the really sweet restaurant owner, they are not supportive of Chase and Kelsey. The writer does such a great job drawing you into this very sweet but sad story. Such young people dealing with horrific grief, and guilt. Nothing is overly drawn out or dramatic in this story. It is just real and it is enough. I highly recommend this book and look forward to more from Butler. Thanks to NetGalley for an ARC in exchange for an honest review.
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WorldsCollide More than 1 year ago
An emotional, sweet, and wonderful New Adult romance, How We Lived was a fantastic read. I really liked this lovely book. I thought it was great. Kelsey was a lovely heroine. Throughout the book, she struggled to move on from her brother's death. As the book went on, she became stronger and more determined to take her life into her own hands. It was a little frustrating how she would run away from facing her emotions, though. But, overall, I liked her. Chase was wonderful. He was so sweet. From the beginning, it was easy to sympathize for him. He was driving drunk the night that Kyle died and the crash he got into led to Kyle's death. Because of that, basically everyone turned against him, except his mother. But, it was clear that he was anything but a bad person. He was torn up with guilt and grieved in a way that really proved how good of a person he was. His character had a lot of depth and I really adored him. My one issue isn't with his character, but with how people acted towards him. I didn't understand why Kelsey's parents didn't approve of him, even before the crash. It was vaguely alluded that it was because he was from a lower class, but seriously? Even if that was the reason, it was not portrayed in how the characters lived and acted. And, it apparently extended to Kyle, which makes even less sense to me. I just didn't get it. The romance was lovely. Kelsey and Chase was so sweet together. I loved how they helped each other heal and how, since they had liked each other for a while and had an already established friendship, their feelings were deep and really came across. There was a bit of heat in there, but not too much. I thought they were great together. The plot was well paced and I was hooked the entire way through. There were several secrets that really took me by surprise. I really enjoyed the story and the ending was lovely. How We Lived was a wonderful New Adult romance. I really liked this book. It was deep, emotional, romantic, and a truly lovely read. Romance lovers, this is a book you won't want to miss. *I received a complimentary copy from the publisher in exchange for an honest review