Rick and Brenda's lives were changed forever when Rick went to the doctor to get a prescription refill. The doctor unexpectedly decided to perform a prostate exam. When he did, he felt a suspicious lump. Weeks later, a biopsy confirmed that Rick had prostate cancer. As a couple, they found their lives changed in unexpected ways following robotic surgery. They decided to share an intimate glimpse into their lives after surgery so other couples would be more prepared than they were. If you are thinking about surgery, or if you just had surgery, you will want to read about their experiences and the life lessons they learned along the way.
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Rick just wanted a refill of his prescription when his doctor insisted on doing a quick prostate check, irrevocably changing Rick’s life. After his doctor felt a lump, he sent out blood work to confirm his suspicions. A few days later, after a grueling wait, Rick was informed that he had prostate cancer. He was now faced with a barrage of tests and decisions to make from his treatment plan to informing his family and everything in between. Rick provides the reader with a very honest description of his challenges as he opted to have his prostate removed. His book explores topics from intimacy, religion and his deeply personal struggles with recovery. I Left My Prostate in San Francisco- Where’s Yours? is a great book for men who are battling prostate cancer or people who know someone who has been diagnosed. Mr. Redner describes in detail the many ups and downs that come with recovering after having your prostate removed. Each chapter is concluded with questions to discuss with your family or caregiver to help keep you moving down the healing path. I appreciated the humor throughout the book. I can see how dealing with issues of masculinity and dignity could wear on one’s soul, but Redner uses his honesty and humor to push forward. His pearls of wisdom will be very helpful as readers find themselves in similar situations. While the book is well written and informative, I felt like the last chapters written by Mrs. Redner could have been stronger. These chapters merely retold the challenges that Mr. Redner faced and discussed how she turned to her faith to get through these hard times. I think these chapters could have been more powerful if she discussed the fears that she had as the wife of a man recovering from having his prostate removed. How did she feel when he was unable to perform in the bedroom? How did she deal with him pulling away from their relationship? How did she manage to keep moving forward knowing she could lose her husband to cancer? I think that information would have been much more relatable to a reader. Overall I would highly recommend this book to anyone who knows anyone who has had their prostate removed or has prostate cancer. You will quickly learn the stress they are going through and how you can be supportive and helpful as they deal with this disease.
Reviewed by Anne Boling for Readers' Favorite At the writing of the book "I Left My Prostate in San Francisco– Where Is Yours?: Coping with the Emotional, Relational, Sexual, and Spiritual Aspects of Prostate Cancer" by Rick Redner and Brenda Redner, the American Cancer Society reported that 241,740 men would be diagnosed with prostate cancer in the US. Yet men do not want to discuss prostate cancer. Courageously, Rick and Brenda Redner share their knowledge, experiences and feelings with readers in the hope that they can help someone else facing the same situation. On December 10, 2011, Rick Redner received a phone call from his Urologist with the results of his biopsy---positive. Rick had prostate cancer and it was considered moderately aggressive. He pictured tiny monster cells in his body chewing their way through his prostate. He was frightened; his mind was filled with questions and he was filling in his own answers without being informed. “I Left My Heart in San Francisco” takes the reader on a treacherous journey from the moment the Urologist found the lump. Too often doctors gloss over the side effects of treatments. Rick and Brenda share in an honest and open manner. This book demonstrates that prostate cancer affects the whole family, not just the patient and not just physically but emotionally and spiritually. I had never received a book dealing with prostate cancer until last week, but then I received three books on the subject. They came in at a time when I needed them. My husband had just received the news that his PSA level was 9.5. We both knew what that could mean and naturally it frightened us both. I’d like to thank the Redners for writing this book. The Redners write in a simple, easy to read manner. The information within these pages is invaluable. There is information concerning biopsies, surgery, leakage, erectile problems and diapers. They also discuss the depression a male faces after surgery. This book should be in every library and should be recommended by all urologists. This book is not just for men but for wives also. Again I thank the authors for their openness.