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I Never Called It Rape based on 0 ratings. 1 reviews.
I first read this when I was in my early 20's, and it was horrifying. I just reread it. It's still horrifying, but not how the author intends. I'm not a kid anymore, I understand it now. This isn't about rape, this about the Ms. Foundation's views of society. Their survey was distributed without any subjects knowing their answers would be used for rape statistics. This shows that Ms equates rape with sexual aggression. That they consider it rape unless it's Mutually Satisfying. Less than 10% of the survey met even the Ms. Definition of rape. For the most part they experienced what's called Sexual victimization - that's unwanted Kissing, Petting or Fondling, and much of that was from over eager dates. Any human interaction isn't mutual. One is always more persistent. Whoever initiates any interaction always an Aggressor. Ms. considers it sexual violence if any demand or pressure is made. No matter how much men have been led on, or how long they've been dating, Ms. still says men have no right to demand sex. They also perpetuate the Myth that men can stop, no matter how aroused they are. Ms. considers it a Myth that women are turned on by violence or that violence is a form of Foreplay. Often times post fighting sex, or make up sex, is considered the best by both genders. The book clearly stated that only 27% those Ms. called rape victims, consider themselves raped. States that 42% of the women kept having sex with those Ms. tries to call Assailants. That certainly indicates that the Ms. Definition is inaccurate. Most of the females involved in the survey would be outraged if they knew their lovers are being called rapists. The book gives many examples of Rape. Those examples are extreme - each is brutal, sick and terrifying. It uses the fear those stories cause as a tool for attacking Fraternities, Athletics, all Forms of Male Bonding, and the entire Sexual Psyche. Specifically attacking any notion that sex is an achievement and expressing outrage over Sex being a way for males to prove themselves. Going on to demonize Masculinity and everything Macho. Beliefs like those in this book use fear, manipulation and force to achieve results, without any concern for who it hurts. This book Rapes the Mind.