|Publisher:||Tyndale House Publishers|
|Product dimensions:||5.50(w) x 8.10(h) x 0.90(d)|
About the Author
John Ortberg is the senior pastor of Menlo Church in Northern California, and the bestselling author of All the Places to Go…How Will You Know?; If You Want to Walk on Water, You've Got to Get Out of the Boat; and The Me I Want to Be. He and his wife, Nancy, have three grown children. Visit him online at johnortberg.com.
Table of Contents
Introduction: Table for One? ix
1 Are You With Me? 1
2 Let's Get This Straight 19
3 Born to Bond 53
4 Your Bid… 67
5 Me, Myself, and Lies 77
6 The Joy of Jury Duty 93
7 We Should All Be Committed 109
8 Something There Is That Doesn't Love a Wall 131
9 Naked and Unafraid 157
10 The Deep Down Dark 181
11 This Time It's Personal 203
12 Houston, We Have a Problem 221
13 Who Will Cry at Your Funeral? 241
14 At Last 261
About the Author 277
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
The title is deceiving and the book was not what I expected. The is book about intimacy with others and with God. Ortberg believes we are made for intimacy. In this book Ortberg explores, in a rather dry way, obstacles to intimacy, the reasons for fear of intimacy, the different way people experience intimacy and most notably intimacy with God. I did not appreciate the I do this because I am a Christian style of writing as though someone who weren’t a Christian might have made a different choice, because I don’t feel that was true in every instance. Regardless, he backed up reasons for choices, decisions and intimacy with great biblical references. This book is a great book for a Christian that is looking to deepen and improve their intimacy with their significant other and God, although it could be said that these principals could be easily applied outside of this narrow box. In general, I found the information helpful, but not my style. If I’m to read a book like this, I’d rather read the who, what, when, where and why and then be given information about why and how it aligns with the bible, more like Fireproof. Thank you to Tyndale House Publishers for providing me with a complimentary copy of this book for the purpose of review.
In his new book I’d like you more if you were more like me John Ortberg challenged many of my preconceived notions of intimacy. I’ve read a few books on topics such as this, such as Scary Close by Donald Miller. In Ortberg’s book he takes a fresh perspective and presents some great questions to pause on and reflect. Switching through the book from intimacy with God to a spouse to children and friends, he confronts the barriers and opportunities to create intimacy with skill. As it pertains to God, some of the particularly challenging questions were: What is my appetite for reading Scripture? How naturally do I find myself experiencing gratitude and expressing it to heaven? Is my personal and social conscience growing clearer? Am I more patient? Am I noticing under-resourced people more? As it relates to marital relationships, I was surprised by the statistics referenced – that “husbands headed for divorce disregard their wives’ bids for connection 82 percent of the time, while husbands in stable relationships disregard their wives’ bids just 19 percent of the time.” Wow! To put this into practice, Ortberg points out that it is often in these small “bids” that relationships are built or eroded. “Every Big Exit is preceded by a thousand Little Exits that have eroded the foundation of commitment. Just because we haven’t taken a Big Exit doesn’t mean we’re keeping our commitments; it may just mean we’re refusing to acknowledge the reality that we are living separate lives under one roof.” With this information, Ortberg crafts an enjoyable read and builds a compelling narrative around the beauty and difficulty of intimacy in marriage relationships. Overall, I enjoyed this book and found it to be another strong book in the list of great reads by John Ortberg!