If I'd Known Then What I Know Now: Why Not Learn from the Mistakes of Others? - You Can't Afford to Make Them All Yourself!

If I'd Known Then What I Know Now: Why Not Learn from the Mistakes of Others? - You Can't Afford to Make Them All Yourself!

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If I'd Known Then What I Know Now: Why Not Learn from the Mistakes of Others? - You Can't Afford to Make Them All Yourself! by J.R. Parrish

So says J.R. Parrish. Raised in the 1940s in a house on a dirt street in Macon, Georgia, he's living proof that you can succeed without having all the breaks -- as long as you've got the right attitude, a burning desire, and a commitment to following through. By learning from other people's mistakes, and heeding two mentors whose counsel he shares in this book, J.R. went from milkman to millionaire and retired in Hawaii at age fifty-five. He did this without a college education, and attributes his success to following good advice. Parrish reveals proven secrets of success in finance, business, investing, career, dating, marriage, school, and most importantly, getting along with others -- employers, teachers, coaches, parents, grandparents, and friends. Power-packed, and easy to understand and apply, this no-nonsense book is organized into five lessons for specific age groups, so you can get the best advice at exactly the time in your life when you need it most.

Accepting the guidance he shares here changed J.R. Parrish's life. If you'll take his advice literally, your life can be changed as well, assuring you a happier, more successful, and much more enjoyable future. How many times have you lamented, "If only I had known then what I know now?" This book will arm you with knowledge and help you learn from those who have gone before you. The wisest of you will want to learn from the mistakes of others, eliminating much of the pain and suffering inherent in learning by personal experience. Experience is a good teacher, but none of us lives long enough to learn all our lessons by this method alone. The best and least painful way to learn is from the experiences of others, which can make your journey through life less painful and much more rewarding.

You are precisely where you are in life today because of the choices you've made. It's not your circumstances that determine your success or happiness, but the choices you make in those circumstances. Two people can experience an identical event, such as a financial disaster, and, while one gives up and lives the rest of his or her life miserable and penniless, the other decides to start over and ends up having more than ever before. This suggests that it's not our circumstances, but how we think about and choose to deal with them, that determines the outcome. The information that follows will guide you to making better choices throughout your life.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781879384491
Publisher: Cypress House
Publication date: 03/28/2003
Edition description: 1ST
Pages: 152
Sales rank: 875,999
Product dimensions: 5.40(w) x 8.40(h) x 0.50(d)

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The first key is to recognize the fact that every human being's greatest need, after food, clothing, and shelter, is the need to feel important. By understanding and applying this key to success, you'll put yourself in a position to succeed with people in every aspect of your life. Won't it be nice to know exactly what to do to win with others? Your success and your happiness depend on your ability to get along with others. In his book, How to Have Confidence and Power in Dealing with People, Les Giblin makes the point that most failures in the business world are failures in human relations. I can tell you that learning effective human-relations skills completely changed and dramatically improved my life. Since getting along with people is crucial, it's important to learn how to get along early in your life. Human-relations skills should be taught from kindergarten through college.

Your success with everyone you meet will depend on your ability to satisfy his or her need to feel important. How do you feel when someone asks your opinion, lets you go first, gives you the best seat, offers you the last piece of candy, smiles at you, brings you a gift, or sends you a thank-you card? How about when they compliment you, encourage you, praise you, speak well of you in front of others, and show you they need and value you? Does this describe the kind of person you want to be around? These are the behaviors you must emulate if you want to be successful, happy, and popular.

How do you feel when someone interrupts you, mocks you, or frowns at what you say? What if they don't show appreciation for something you did for them, talk down to you, don't listen to you, disregard your opinions, make you feel stupid, or never let you go first? Does this describe the kind of person you want to be around? This is the person you can't afford to be if you want to win with others and succeed.

You are precisely where you are in life today because of the choices you've made. It's not your circumstances that determine your success or happiness, but the choices you make in those circumstances. Two people can experience an identical event, such as a financial disaster, and while one gives up and lives the rest of his or her life unhappy and penniless, the other decides to start over and ends up with more than he had before. This suggests that it's not our circumstances, but how we think about and choose to deal with them that determines the outcome. The information that follows is intended to guide you to making better choices throughout your life.

Before beginning any journey, it's wise to consider it carefully. Walk all the way around it. Before following anyone's advice, it's prudent to ask yourself a few questions: What does the person giving the advice have to gain? What's his track record? What's her background? Since you need to know the answers, I'll share a little of my background with you. That way, you'll get to know me a bit and sense my motivations. I hope you'll conclude that you don't need to have all the breaks to achieve the success and happiness you want.
Adults and Grandparents

The earlier you learn to deal effectively with adults, the more success and happiness you can expect. Your answers to the following questions will show you why. Who has lived a long time and had experiences that can be helpful to you? Who is far ahead of you financially? Who has time on their hands, and remembers when they were young, and would like to help a young person succeed? Who has greater love than your grandparents have?

It will help you to remind yourself each day that much of your success in life depends on your ability to get along with others. Besides your parents, the people who can teach and help you the most are your grandparents and other adults. How can you make a good impression and make them want to help you? Now is a good time for you to learn how to make a good impression on anyone. First impressions are lasting, and you never get a second chance to make a good first impression. If you make a good first impression, you can do a lot wrong after that and the other person will still think well of you. If you make a bad first impression, it's difficult to change people's minds, no matter how you conduct yourself from then on. Clearly, making your first impression a good one will benefit you, and I'd bet you'll be surprised how it's done.

The way to make a good first impression is to show other people that you are impressed with them!

Table of Contents

Forewordix
Preface1
Overview of Some Basic Principles of Life5
Three Keys to Success Regardless of Age11
Lesson 1Ages 7-1515
Subjects
Mom/Dad
Brother/Sister
Friends
Adults/Grandparents
Manners
School
Your Thoughts
Habits
The Lesson in a Nutshell
A Few Profound Thoughts
Lesson 2Ages 16-2535
Subjects
Family
Others
Dating/Marriage
School
Career
Finance
Health
Your Thoughts
Habits
The Lesson in a Nutshell
A Few Profound Thoughts
Lesson 3Ages 26-4073
Subjects
Family
Marriage
Parenting
Others
Career
Finance
Health
Your Thoughts
The Lesson in a Nutshell
A Few Profound Thoughts
Lesson 4Ages 41-54103
Subjects
Marriage
Others
Finance
Health
Your Thoughts
The Lesson in a Nutshell
A Few Profound Thoughts
Lesson 5Age 55 and over123
Subjects
Family
Marriage
Others
Finance
Health
Your Thoughts
Some Thoughts on Aging
A Few Profound Thoughts
Conclusion135

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