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In Control: Learning to Say No to Sexual Pressure based on 0 ratings. 1 reviews.
This book was not what I was looking for because it only dealt with sexual pressure within a committed boyfriend/girlfriend relationship and did not deal with the sexual pressure and harassment my daughter experiences from guys she is not involved with and may have just met for the first time. Even if I was buying the book to address the issue of pressure to have sex within a relationship, it promotes abstinence as being the only way to behave and avoid problems resulting from a sexual relationship. I wanted my daughter to learn a little bit about what a healthy relationship is like when sex is included. I did not even give the book to her and am donating it to the library. The pictures also seem a bit outdated and posed and I don't think they'd capture the interest of today's teens. Some are in black and white too, but the photos are multicultural and represent kids from various races and ethnicities. The book as a whole is presented more like a text book than a book a kid would enjoy picking up and reading. The reading level is about a 7th grade reading level or even 6th depending on the reader. My 17 year old would have laughed if I had given it to her and I can't blame her. That said, for a parent with a younger pre-teen who does want their child to remain abstinent, this book would probably be ok, but for most of today's teens we have to face the reality that they are experimenting with sex and I'd prefer to teach them safety when doing so and how to have healthy relationships rather than just saying "don't do it." Of course that is just my opinion. The book I recommend is a far better choice that presents realistic scenarios that teens face and that my daughter has faced. It talks about sexual grooming, which is when the pursuer preps their target through manipulation and other persuasive methods over time, so before the target knows it they are in a position where they feel like they "owe" the pursuer or are trapped and can't say no. That's just one aspect of the book. I'm reading it with my daughter and it's right on the mark for the lessons I wanted her to learn. Since reading it, she realized that this older guy who has been pursuing her and buying her lunch every single day, is probably "grooming" her to be pressured into something later on. She is learning that relationships should be two-way.