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Inspired YouLetting God Breathe New Life into Your Heart and Home
By Marian Parsons
Thomas NelsonCopyright © 2012 Marian Parsons
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Chapter OneTHE INSPIRED YOU
SOME GIRLS GET GIDDY over a new pair of shoes or an outfit that redefines their image. I get giddy over room makeovers. And finding an amazing piece of furniture at a yard sale. And sewing curtains from scratch. Shall I go on? I can't help it. I love every aspect of it. With a little bit of work, time, and money, an entire home can be transformed into a beautiful space.
When my enthusiasm and passion for decorating bubbles over in a conversation, I often get a response like, "I wish I knew how to decorate. I don't really have a flair for that kind of thing." The idea that you're either good at creating a beautiful home or you aren't seems to be prevalent today. We're constantly bombarded with images of gorgeous rooms in shelter magazines, on TV, and all over the home-decorating blog world. It's easy to feel like everyone is good at it but you. Like everyone is living in an "after space" and you're sitting around in your "before," hoping a celebrity designer with a crew and a truck full of sweet furniture will show up on your doorstep to do a complete home makeover.
I am not denying that it would be awesome for that crew to swoop in and create a dream home in three days (and you then get to cry tears of joy about it on national television), but there is so much satisfaction and self-discovery (some tears as well) that come when you transform your home. No need to look back over your shoulder. I'm talking to you. You can create a beautiful home. Now, don't start rattling off excuses about your failed attempts at sewing in middle-school home economics or think things like, I'm not a creative person. You can create a beautiful home. It doesn't matter if you're right-brained, left-brained, type A, or whatever. Think of it this way: god is the creator of all things, and we are made in His image, so surely there is a creative side to all of us. Working on your home might be the best way to bring out that creativity.
Let's now redefine what a beautiful home is. It's not about big budgets and magazine-quality perfection; it's about making the best of what you have and finding contentment despite what you don't. It's not about keeping up with the hottest trends, style setters, or the neighbors; it's about creating a space that feels inviting, is functional for your family, and shows off the style and interests of the people who live there. When boiled down, that's it. Doesn't that seem like a more achievable standard? You don't need a huge budget, a degree in interior design, or a boatload of DIY (do-it-yourself) experience. You don't need to start with a dream home. Your journey can start today, with what you already know, what you have, and whatever time your schedule allows.
So let's not waste any time and dive right into a project. Do you have a frame? Any frame. Big, small, any finish, missing the glass, whatever. With a frame and a few inexpensive supplies from the hardware store, you can make your very own custom chalkboard.
I love using chalkboards in decorating. They're playful yet classic as well. I use them to display poems, verses, songs, menus, or just doodles. Choose a gold leaf frame for a formal look, warm wood for a classic style, or a brightly painted lacquer frame for a modern take.
What you'll need:
A picture frame
A piece of hardboard or Masonite cut to fit inside the picture frame
Chalkboard spray paint
A hammer and small nails
Step 1: Paint Chalkboard
Using long, smooth strokes, spray the smooth side of the hardboard or Masonite with chalkboard spray paint. Apply two or three coats, allowing ample drying time between coats.
Step 2: Season Chalkboard
once paint is completely dry, rub a piece of chalk over the entire surface. This will season the chalkboard and ensure that writing isn't "burned" into the surface. For a clean look, wipe chalkboard with a wet paper towel. For a vintage look, use a dry paper towel.
Step 3: Assemble Chalkboard
Insert hardboard into frame. If needed, secure in place with some small nails. Hang or lean chalkboard to use.
This may be one small project, but that's how beautiful homes are created. It starts with inspiration and a willingness to try. Then an "after" home is built one project at a time, one skill at a time, one purchase at a time. It's a process—one that is rewarding, fun, and a bit addictive, and one that can bring out talents and abilities you never knew you had.
LOSING AND FINDING THE INSPIRED ME
I have always found joy in creative endeavors. I was singing in church at the age of four, and I pursued theater, dance, and music all the way through college. I developed a love of interior design as a "military brat" while my dad was stationed in Germany. Touring castles and staying in quaint guesthouses were fuel for my creative eye. Rearranging the furniture in my dollhouse as a young girl turned into sketching elaborate house plans on graph paper when I was in middle school. When my husband, Jeff, and I were finally able to purchase our first home, the decorating floodgates were opened. I painted every surface of that town house (some more than once), took on several DIY projects, and loved every minute of it. I started dreaming about what our next house would be like and what projects would be waiting for us there.
Then we moved to a new town, bought a home, and had two baby boys, Marshall and Calvin, all within about a two-year period. You may have guessed, and rightly so, that most DIY projects I had been dreaming about were shelved (although I did refinish our floors when I was five months pregnant, but that's another totally ridiculous story I'll get to later). As a stay-at-home mom, my day was filled with grocery shopping, cooking, cleaning, dropping kids off, picking kids up, picking toys up, putting kids in time-out, taking the trash out, emptying the dishwasher ... and on it went. Day after day. I find great joy in homemaking and motherhood as a whole (I guess I could do without the laundry and cleaning toilets), but there came a time when I was sitting on my sofa with a four-month-old and an almost two-year-old, and I felt totally overwhelmed.
I remember the morning vividly. I was sitting on my sofa, in sweatpants, of course, and the endless parade of diapers, dishes, laundry (ugh), and bills was suffocating me. My mom called and probably asked a simple question like, "How is your day going?" Questions like that are dangerous when they're directed at someone who is just a question away from bursting into tears. The end result was just that—me bursting into tears. I had reached that moment in my life when I realized I wasn't thriving. I was just churning through the routine of my day. As I was trying to articulate this to my mom between sobs, she stopped me. "Marian, I've been saying for a while now that you should start your own creative business. Maybe this is the time to step out and do just that."
I knew she was right, but I had always thought that starting my own business was something I would talk about and never really do. Dozens of reasons prevented me from giving it serious consideration. I didn't know anything about taxes or insurance. I wasn't a "business-minded" person. I lacked the formal training. I also didn't have the money. The reasons I spewed out did not deter my mom: "give it a try. Go for it, and we'll help."
I remember pausing as I digested those words. Could I really do it? Do people like me just decide one day to start a business? I felt hope. Starting my own business was a way I could achieve two goals: stay at home with my young boys and, hopefully, contribute to the household income. It even fulfilled a third intangible goal I never expected—an outlet for my creativity and a way to pursue my passion for decorating. I wiped away the tears and immediately started writing down ideas. I talked it over with Jeff, and the work began.
Starting that countertop business was exactly what I needed, and god used it to pull me out of my funk. I relished the creative process and the fact that I could shop at yard sales, make over pieces of furniture, and decorate my home as a part of my business. Even though I was working harder than ever, I had more energy than ever. I was up late at night, refinishing a dresser to sell or making a slipcover for my family room, but I didn't mind waking up at 6:00 a.m. to the chubby hand of a toddler pulling at my pajama sleeve to rouse me from my bed. The mountains of laundry (my favorite), sticky floors, and smashed crackers were all still there and a part of my daily life, but I didn't feel like I was drowning in it anymore. I felt inspired again. And believe it or not, you can too. My mom gave me a little push to start using my creative talents, and I have been so blessed because of it. This book may be the little push you need.
START CREATING A BEAUTIFUL HOME (LIKE, RIGHT NOW!)
If you're surrounded by 1980s wallpaper sporting geese with bonnets or you've cried tears over the avocado-green bathtub, sink, and matching toilet that you just can't afford to replace right now, you might snicker (or cry harder) at the thought of making that space beautiful. I know there are challenging rooms out there, and I'm sure you have limitations. It's pretty rare to have all the time, money, and skills required to turn every square foot into all your heart desires. No matter what your situation, though, today is a good day to start, and there is always something you can do to improve your space, even if it's just a little at a time. (And I'm not suggesting you "improve" that avocado bathroom by taking a sledgehammer to it before your spouse gets home from work today, however tempting it might be.)
When Jeff and I first moved into our current house, we were ready to get to work to make it exactly what we wanted it to be, but there were two big problems ... time and money. I was six months pregnant with our first son when we moved in, and I wanted the entire house renovated in a week. In other words, I was in major nesting mode. The second issue was money. Our budget was, like, zero. Does that sound familiar to anyone? I'm guessing it does. Remember that I had been dreaming about everything I was going to do to this house, so a lack of time and money and an overabundance of hormones (a volatile combination) were not enough to stop me from making some immediate improvements. So I figured out a few steps anyone can take to make the greatest impact in a home right away and on a shoestring:
Clean it. I know this step isn't the most exciting, but it works. A clean home looks beautiful, plus it's more comfortable and inviting. Clean the windows, give dusty blinds a bath, shampoo the carpet, and get all the dead bugs out of your ceiling light fixtures. (come on, we all have those!) Take it to the next level by making the beds, clearing away the clutter, and straightening things up. You will be surprised how much a thorough cleaning and some "fluffing" will transform a space.
Remove what you don't like. That's what we did with the Berber carpeting that was covering the original hardwood floors in our house. We didn't have the money to refinish the floors right away, but we could remove the stained and stinky carpet, which immediately improved the room. Don't go overboard with this, though. If you hate your hand-me-down couch but it's the only place your family has to sit, don't set it out by the curb until you have a replacement. Move out the accessories and furniture you don't use and don't like. It's better to have a sparse room furnished with a few things you love than a room stuffed with things you don't like.
Rearrange the furniture. I like to call this "resetting a room." Take everything out except the large pieces of furniture you know you want to keep. Get a friend or family member to help you scoot the furniture around the room until you find the best arrangement. Put in pictures and accessories, and try new arrangements. This is a great thing to do with the change of the seasons, just to keep things fresh and to incorporate new holiday decor.
Shop your house. Pull furniture and accessories from other areas of the house to try in new rooms. You probably have a lot of things sitting around that would look great if repurposed or simply put in a new place. I once cut a bed pillow in half and stitched each raw end because I needed two pillows for a pair of side chairs. Voilà! Two accent pillows out of one unused bed pillow. Put your ingenuity to work and give it a try, even if your idea sounds a little nutty.
Swap with a friend or family member. Most people have hand-me-down furniture or things they bought a long time ago that they no longer love. Try to arrange a swap where you can put items from your home up for grabs and your friends and family can do the same. You may end up with some pieces you really love, and you can bring an entirely new look to your home (and theirs) for free.
Shop the curb. go ahead and get the giggles out about curb shopping and Dumpster diving. I know it sounds gross, but I'm serious. Some people throw away very nice things, and there's no reason to let them go to a landfill. I once found a caned French settee on the side of the road. I asked Jeff to turn around so I could rescue it. The back leg was broken, but he was able to fix that for me, and I used it in my house for about four years. Just make sure you're taking something that was meant for the trash and not a piece someone is loading into his vehicle. It's a good idea to knock on the door and ask permission before claiming your discovery as your own. Also, there are often "curb alerts" and free listings on sites such as craigslist and Freecycle.
I hope these ideas have given you a starting point on the journey of transforming your house into a home you love. Are you feeling inspired yet?
DISCOVERING THE INSPIRED YOU
Perhaps you're in that place, that same wallowing-in-self-pity place I was in a few years ago, or you're just churning through the daily routine of your life. You might be able to concede that you could have untapped creative talents or possibly some mad furniture refinishing skills, but you're too drained and uninspired at the end of the day to test them out. You go to bed feeling like it's a victory that your house doesn't look like it belongs on an episode of Hoarders. Well, it's time to get out of survival mode and start thriving.
Working on your home is a great way to unearth hidden abilities or rediscover ones that have gotten a little dusty while you raised your family or worked long hours in an office. God has given you talents for a reason—so you can feel fulfilled using them and then share them with others. Putting your gifts to good use will bring so much joy to your life, and that joy will be evident to your family and friends. It's hard to hide the immense satisfaction you can experience when you make a slipcover for the lumpy, faded recliner you inherited from your bachelor uncle. You'll ooze excitement over a headboard you made with big-girl tools all by yourself. (oh yes.) And while you're experiencing that creative spark, the reward of a job well done, and the intense joy of a tidy space, you'll also be creating a beautiful and inviting space for you, your family, and all who enter your home as a big bonus. As god breathes new life into your heart, it will spill over into your home. And that's so much better than the instant gratification you'd get with a TV makeover.
Chapter TwoBREATHING NEW LIFE INTO YOUR HOME
I MOVED A LOT AS A KID. I didn't view this as the ruin of my primary school social life, but as a great adventure. For my mom, however, it was ... well, an adventure of another kind. When we moved to our military housing in Stuttgart, germany, she cried. When we moved into the house my dad purchased in Virginia, she cried. In both of those places, she faced something a lot of us face: trying to make a beautiful home out of a house we don't really like. As a kid, I was baffled by her tears. I just cared about who got the bigger bedroom, and I didn't notice the army-green counters, purple walls, and hideous flooring that were all so distressing to my mom. "There she goes! Mom's crying about the house ... again." As an adult, I've come to understand her tears.
Most women make an emotional investment in a home. Call it nesting or maternal instincts; it's there, and it can be fierce. We want a place for our family to live that's comfortable, warm, welcoming, and beautiful. In both germany and Virginia, my mom walked through the front door and was overwhelmed by the "before" state of those spaces. Some of you may have had similar experiences. Maybe you're still looking around your house, wondering how you can ever be content living there. Where do you even begin?
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