Intentional Parenting: Autopilot Is for Planes

Intentional Parenting: Autopilot Is for Planes

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Intentional Parenting: Autopilot Is for Planes by Sissy Goff, David Thomas, Melissa Trevathan

This is about you, not just your child.

Regardless of age, parenting requires a certain amount of uncertainty.  But you can be certain that your children look to you to help them discover who they are.  And you can only offer that to the degree that YOU know who you are.

Over the years, Sissy Goff, David Thomas, and Melissa Trevathan have helped countless families through their ministry known as Daystar Counseling in Nashville, TN.  Due to the unique setup of Daystar, each is frequently counseling not only the child but the parent as well. Having both perspectives provides an opportunity to speak into some of the most common struggles that parents face in today's fast-paced society.

Intentional Parenting is built around 12 chapters that each dispel some of the most common parenting myths and reminds all parents of truths that can empower them to be not only the parents that their children need but that God has called them to be.

The book helps you discover first who you are and then takes that healthy person into a discovery of being more intentional, playful, consistent, merciful, and connected to your children.

Understanding your child.  Understanding you.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780849964213
Publisher: Nelson, Thomas, Inc.
Publication date: 03/11/2013
Format: NOOK Book
Pages: 256
Sales rank: 503,429
File size: 414 KB

About the Author

David Thomas, LMSW, is the counseling director for men and boys at Daystar. A popular speaker and the coauthor of five books, he is a frequent guest on national television and radio, and a regular contributor to ParentLife magazine. David and his wife, Connie, have a daughter and twin sons

Melissa Trevathan has been a youth director, a teacher, a retreat leader, and is now the founder and executive director of Daystar Counseling Ministries in Nashville. She's worked with kids, teenagers, and adults for over 40 years. She's been a guest on TV and radio programs in the US and Canada, and cowrote two other books with Sissy Goff. When she isn't counseling, writing, or teaching seminars, she hangs out with her old English sheepdog, Molasses.

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Intentional Parenting: Autopilot Is for Planes 4.7 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 7 reviews.
steveopinions More than 1 year ago
This is a great book for any type of parent. I am a foster parent and going on autopilot is not an option. So when I saw the tag line autopilot is for planes I knew this was a book for me. All the chapters are great in this book. But two them stand out for me at this moment in my journey of parenthood. The patient parent and the merciful parent chapters are perfect right now in my parenthood adventure. But I know in my heart and head the other chapters we be used in the future so this book will always be close by when I need advice and help. Great book, written very well by all the authors. Do not miss out on some great wisdom that the book brings. Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this book free from the publisher through the BookSneeze book review bloggers program. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255
Jezzika More than 1 year ago
Have you ever felt that your relationship with your child is going nowhere but south? Intentional Parenting: Autopilot Is for Planes can restore your faith in communicating with your child or teen. Often times as your child ages, you feel lost and confused with that the best way is to get through to them. Intentional Parenting guides you with proven methods of ways to get responses from your child.  This is one of my favorite parenting books. It is written well and gives you great suggestions on how to improve your relationship. In each chapter there are bulleted points that ask you questions to assess what you want from a relationship with your child. The questions are the best way to gauge how your current mind frame is and what you are expecting from your child. There are often times that you can be surprised with the answers you come up with. Your attention is definitely held while reading this book because you are able to do a lot of self-reflection. Aside from having a strong message to convey, there are also references to the Bible that allow you to realize the strong connection that parenting has in relation to the Bible. 
kimicope More than 1 year ago
Definitely one of my favorite parenting books.  I finished the book encouraged and empowered as a mom.  The authors words gave so much grace to my life.  As a parent it is easy to feel like you are bombing more than you like.  This encouraged me to receive God's grace and mercy.  And as I receive his grace to then pass it onto my kids.  One message that stuck with me was to just enjoy my kids.  I can be so busy correcting and instructing that I dont  take time to enjoy them. I received this book free from book sneeze to provide an honest review, negative or positive.
AmandaKlopping More than 1 year ago
Intentional Parenting is by far one of the best parenting books that I have read.  And it's no wonder, since the authors have vast experience at a family counseling center.  So, not only have they been to the circus, they've been the lion tamers as well - so to speak. In all seriousness, though, this book really does have some amazing ideas on how to approach this journey we call parenting.  Each chapter discusses how to put real thought into parenting.  Subjects include consistency, playfulness, spirituality, and patience, and hope.  Key concepts that are necessary for parenting with purpose are examined in detail, with real-life anecdotes and ideas for how to improve on each area.   I loved that age-appropriate ideas are provided throughout the book.  Clearly, a teen requires a different style than a toddler does, and this book recognizes that.  I also loved the questions posed to the reader.  This book really encourages the reader to put thought into his or her parenting style - it's parenting with purpose!  And no matter how you feel you're doing as a parent, this book is going to provide you with tools that you will be able to use for the benefit of your whole family.  And for fans of Love and Logic, the ideas in this book can be used with that program. As a teacher and a mother, I highly recommend this book to any parent or soon-to-be-parent.   Disclaimer:  I was provided a copy of this book by the publisher in exchange for an honest review.
FrugalFocused1 More than 1 year ago
As I move from one stage of parenting to the next, I often find myself wondering if I’m doing it right. Because, let’s be real here, parenting is hard. A lot of times you are just figuring it out as you go…and sometimes you don’t really feel like you’ve figured anything out. “Intentional Parenting: Autopilot Is For Planes” by Sissy Goff, David Thomas and Melissa Trevathan helps dispel some of the most common myths of parenting. By helping parents discover who they are, they are then empowered to help their children discover who they are through being more intentional, playful, consistent, merciful and connected in the parent/child relationship. With over 50 years of combined experience in counseling that focuses not only on the child but the parent as well, the authors are able to offer real insight on some of the challenges today’s families deal with. I loved the encouragement this book offered. The authors give valuable, Biblically-based insight into key areas of parenting like being consistent, encouraging, connected, patient, etc, all with the goal of being a more intentional parent. With a daughter approaching the teen years, I especially appreciated the emphasis this book placed on parenting teen children. But most of all I loved that they remind us that because of God’s great love for us, we can’t be perfect parents but we can be the parents our children need. By keeping our focus on Jesus, we can help our kids discover who they were created to be. And that is parenting freely. I am so glad to have this resource on my bookshelf. It is one I will no doubt return to repeatedly in the years ahead. I would definitely recommend this book to anyone who wants to be a more intentional parent. Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this book free from the publisher through the BookSneeze®.com book review bloggers program. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255 : “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”
FollowingThePath More than 1 year ago
This book was of initial interest to me because I am a Christian and because the authors are counselors of children and parents. They are in a field that I can see myself moving into and I wanted to see their views on parenting as a Christian. After all, that's what my blog is about! Intentional Parenting seems like it would be a handbook for parents. How to be an intentional parent...but that's not the name of the game. Though this book gives many a tip on how you can be a better parent, it does not claim to be the answer. Ultimately every chapter ends with leaving it up to God. But we have to meet Him halfway there. I struggle in many of the areas that are discussed in the book. Who hasn't struggled with "Being a Patient Parent", "Being a Consistent Parent" (that one's especially tough), or "Being a Playful Parent" (I myself am trying to get more involved when my daughter says "Mom will you play with me?"). I recommend that you get out a notebook and write down your answers to the questions in the chapters. Journal about it, reflect on it. That is how this book was intended to be used. It is to help you reflect on what type of parent you are and work to improve yourself to be the parent God wants you to be for your children. This book can help you to become a better parent by realizing that you can't do it alone, that you are never meant to be perfect, and that you can and will be the best parent you can be with God's help. I recommend this book to anyone who wants to know how their faith and their parenting can go hand in hand.
SavvyMomma More than 1 year ago
"Intentional Parenting" is a book written by Sissy Goff, David Thomas, and Melissa Trevathan that debunks some of the most common parenting myths, and replaces them with logical and helpful solutions to everyday parenting issues.  As parents, sometimes we feel like we should have all of the answers - we should be able to handle any situation that comes our way when it comes to our children. But the reality is, sometimes we need a little extra help. This book is a helpful resource in helping parents be more encouraging, patient, and spiritual in their daily lives and interactions with their children. "Intentional Parenting" encourages parents to be honest, self-aware, and endeavor to be better parents. This book touches on a variety of topics, ranging from being connected and encouraging to being consistent and patient. I found that much of the advice that is in this book was very helpful in helping me to look at my parenting role in a different way.  Sometimes it is easy to write a child off as just being "difficult", rather than explore the situation and realize that perhaps it is the parent that needs to work with the child to make the situation better. This book encourages, explains, and expands on this idea.  I thought this book was well-written, easy to understand, and offers a lot of encouragement and advice to parents. I would recommend this to any parent.