This book shows Black women how to go about getting involved in interracial relationships and deal with the social pressures that such relationships inevitably attract. It shows how you can clear out your old social conditioning and inhibitions about interracial relationships, tune out the expectations that you should date only Blacks and clarify your reasons for romantic and sexual attraction to White men. This book shows where and how you can go about meeting White men, how to make yourself more interracially approachable, offers guidelines for screening mature and emotionally available White males into your social life and helps you move beyond the shortage of Black men. This book clears away the misconceptions that all too many Black women have about White men and explains what really goes on inside the minds of White men who seek out and date Black women. Women often see men as foreign psychological territory, and racial differences can accentuate such misperceptions and misunderstandings. Black women who have considered the possibilities that interracial relationships offer are all too familiar with the broad spectrum of unspoken taboos and social pressures often serve to block Black women from getting involved in interracial relationships. This book explains the psychosexual origins of the various forms of social opposition to those wearing "the scarlet letter of interracial dating," from the stares interracial couples encounter almost everywhere they go, to why parents work so hard at breaking up the interracial relationships of their offspring to why certain types of disturbed individuals become enraged at the sight of total strangers who happen to be in interracial relationships. Find out how you can best understand, cope with, and tune out, the variety of social pressures that often inhibit Black women from getting, and staying, involved with White men and initiate unembarrassed interracial relationships. This second edition includes the complete text of the first edition together with a new chapter about racism on the street.
Table Of Contents
Why Black Women Should Consider Dating Interracially
Reprogramming Yourself For Interracial Dating, Part I
Reprogramming Yourself For Interracial Dating, Part II
White Male Emotional Availability And Dating Interests
Ground Rules For Potential Compatibility
Making Yourself More Approachable, Part I
Making Yourself More Approachable, Part II
Making Yourself More Approachable, Part III
Where And How To Meet White Men, Part I
Where And How To Meet White Men, Part II
Mistakes To Avoid
The Scarlet Letter Of Interracial Dating, Part I
The Scarlet Letter Of Interracial Dating, Part II
Understanding The Opposition To Interracial Relationships, Part I
Understanding The Opposition To Interracial Relationships, Part II
Understanding The Opposition To Interracial Relationships, Part III
Racism On The Street
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
This book, I am sorry to say was a waste of my hard earned money. It does, I will agree, sound as if it were written by a women or either someone who had no idea what they were speaking of. It gave no clear cut advice, only things that you learned in elementary school. 'You act like the person you want 'them' to think you are'. The golden rule, 'Do unto others...'. All of the little quotes were annoying, and did I say, NO ADVICE GIVEN. All the info that is in this book is already on your head and your heart.
There were several good analysis about why people object to interracial dating, thwarting the efforts of those that do so, however suggesting that black women modify the way they look ethnically is self-serving and smacks of supremacy especially in a society where minority women are devalued systematically . I read the book to try and obtain a greater understanding and ended up taking it back for a refund.
For me, I am a nice, single Black, professional lady who got tired of being disappointed by Black men. I work around White men whom I had more in common with (education, income, values, interests, etc.) but just didn't know how to get to know them socially. It was like a trusted White friend giving me the 411 on this breed of men. I learned things in this book that I would have never guessed. I acted on the aurthor's advise by initiating conversations with White men. I got results immediately, like striking a match. It was great. When I started speaking to them, they just opened up and the conversations flowed. I've just started dating White men since reading this book and learned that many of the professional ones are in awe with Beautiful Black women but never approached us for thoughts that we prefer Black men. Everyone may have different opinions on how the book was written, its content, etc., but I don't know of any other book that tells the truth about most Black Women dating White Men, advise on how to meet them, etc. Now, I exclusively look for White men. Sure, there are good and bad people in every race, but for my tastes, I like White men because they like to have a great time, they have greater incomes and not cheap when its time to pay the bill. If you were like me, waiting to meet a great man and open yourself up to additional opportunities, GET THIS BOOK. Again, I give this book 5 stars and I wish you all the happiness from reading it, as it's brought me. :>)
I bought this book after reading several mixed reviews. The book is not earth shattering advice. I am a black woman who has dated interracially. I ended up skimming through the book. From my perspective, this book is mostly a rant on things women need to change in order to date a white man. The advice given is what any woman needs to do to attract a man.