Interview with Your Self: Be Inner-Wise, Resolve Life's Problems

Interview with Your Self: Be Inner-Wise, Resolve Life's Problems

by Mercedes Tur Escriva


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ISBN-13: 9781452519852
Publisher: Balboa Press
Publication date: 11/12/2014
Pages: 126
Product dimensions: 6.00(w) x 9.00(h) x 0.30(d)

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Interview with Your self

Be Inner-Wise, Resolve Life's Problems

By Mercedes Tur Escriva

Balboa Press

Copyright © 2014 Mercedes Tur Escriva
All rights reserved.
ISBN: 978-1-4525-1985-2



What is happening in the world? I do not pretend to be able to respond or provide satisfying answers to that question. I can only share my own answers with you. In fact, this will apply to all findings presented here; because they are my own unique perspective, they may not necessarily be yours. We are living in fast-changing times, what some would call "declining times." When we look around us, it seems we are in the middle of the collapse of established systems and structures that we believed were solid and secure not so long ago.

It is hard to believe that what is happening all over the world is a positive change. We are witnessing the closing of yet another chapter in human history. From our observation of major, significant shifts in the economic, political, social, environmental, and religious structures in most countries on the planet, we can conclude that the current state of our lives has been cocreated by humans through our collective consciousness. There is plenty of information online that addresses any questions we might have, but can any of it provide the answers we all seek?

The truth of the matter is that we can all make some sense of these events by reaching inside ourselves for our individual answers. In turn, this would help us to provide a better course of action and response to these events, based on how they touch each of us. The fact that you are reading this book tells me that you are interested in creating a new or better life for yourself and your loved ones. The reasons vary from individual to individual, but the process is basically the same for each of us: change is inevitable. Whether we like it or not, we are all changing with the times. It would be very helpful to understand what change is and why it takes place.

The main focus of this book are to help you find your uniqueness, and to provide information that can assist you in reaching inside of yourself for your own personal, authentic answers. I have become increasingly aware that people already have the responses they are looking for within themselves. Most of the time, they only need a little guidance to find them. We get so entangled with our thoughts, egos, and the dynamics of the mind that we fail to see that we have everything we need within our reach. When we detach completely from these mental blocks standing in the way, we find a new dimension to our lives that is rich in knowledge and support.

Our society promises fast fixes for almost everything. Therefore, when we look at our problems, we tend to look for a fast fix. This usually comes from our past experiences, or some conceptual knowledge, information, or reasoning. Sometimes we get things fixed, sometimes not. From my own experience and from talking to many clients, it appears that when we rush into fixing a situation, we miss the possibility of connecting to our source. This connection could have provided a more authentic response. In identifying that connection, we could learn to avoid facing the same situation repeatedly.

The urgency to solve problems stems from fear and a deep feeling of mistrust. We believe that we need to do something about the situation here and now; otherwise, this or that will happen. The feeling of urgency is due mostly to our evolutionary fight-or-flight response. We developed these instincts and acted or reacted during the days when our ancestors were often in danger. There was no time to reflect; to survive, the correct response was required as soon as a potential threat or danger was perceived. Even though the vast majority of our current daily situations no longer require us to choose to run, fight, or die, our reaction is still driven by this primal response mechanism whenever we feel fear or are threatened. However, the truth is that now, we do have time to respond, we do have time to reflect, and we do have time to be genuine with ourselves.

Having the space to think things over, meditate, and connect to our source is of vital importance. This always provides us with more authentic responses, ones that do not come from a place of duality, and black or white. Instead, these are responses that find either a middle ground or an alternate route. These are responses that you could not have conceived of if you had not given yourself the time and space. The responses come from a place beyond our likes and dislikes and our personal shortsighted desires and needs. This is what I call "the source" inside of each of us. That is why when we come from that source in ourselves, we are authentic to ourselves and to others. What we do is more appropriate and universally benign. These types of responses are required now in our world, if we are to create the world that we all want in the coming years. We need to reach the space inside of us that is in communion with our larger self.

When put into practice, the insight and techniques offered here will assist you in getting to your own truth. If we all searched inside of ourselves, we would come to the same place—a place of love. Nothing else besides love is possible; everything that shows up to oppose love has been born out of confusion and a misunderstanding of what is real, the source, love.

For thousands of years, the sages have maintained that the world is an illusion projected by the ego, our intellectual mind. Over the passage of time, scientists have proven that the observer creates reality. The issue that now arises is why are we creating this reality? First of all, it has been cocreated from the start, and secondly, we must agree that the only time we should proceed or act on something is when it benefits the whole of humanity, hence, also benefiting us. However, that is not what we are generally taught. If we notice that something is not benefiting the whole, neither will it ultimately prove to be beneficial to oneself. One does not require a degree from a university to know this; it just requires more information and time before we decide "what is what." We must get clear on what is an illusion, and what is real. This scenario brings to mind the title of David Bowie's song, "The Man Who Sold the World." The title needs no further explanation; it says it all.

Having money is not synonymous with having success or happiness. A millionaire may still worry about money and how to continue to keep his expensive lifestyle going. If he can afford to do that, then his mind will turn toward other desirable objects, such as more power, health, love, or youth. The basic needs are the same all across the human race, and are not related to physical things. We have physical needs, but it is just as important to recognize that we also have spiritual needs. Our physical needs should be in alignment with our spiritual needs in order to experience the joys of life. The world tells us we need the physical, material things in life in order to be happy. However, we are now facing a world that is really at the brink of creating a new paradigm, where our spiritual lives and our physical lives become one and are nonexclusive.

Many have come to realize the transitory nature of material things, our roles, and even power. We come to understand that there is something else we want to achieve, something that is more authentic and enduring. This is why authenticity is so important. You would not want to wake up in fifteen years to discover that everything you have been chasing after is false or a fairy tale. Maybe you have already reached that point; if so, please do not despair. I assure you life will change that too. Some things will never leave us, because they are inside of us and away from time and space. These are the true treasures of life, the ones we cannot afford to do without.


What about, if we never again forget that every moment of decay is also one of creation?.

Adversity provides us with the opportunity to understand what it is we really value. It is part of the organic process of creation and destruction in the universe. It is also by this process that we ourselves create and deconstruct and get to experience firsthand what it is that we truly are and truly want. The truth is always there; we just need to be prepared to see it. That is the opportunity adversity provides us. It creates the perfect situation to help us, in any given moment, see what our truth is.

These concepts have been expressed by many wise spiritual teachers and counselors over time. This is precisely my interpretation of the hidden message lying behind all the events taking place on a social scale at any given moment in history. Some propose that we need to get to a critical mass so that we make a quantum leap to a more evolved model of human consciousness. Personally, I believe that we are not far from this point now. I am happy to see signs of this in many of the social networks.

From looking at human history, one can conclude that consciousness has always been evolving, and it develops from the inside, from our source. I am not referring to the consciousness traditionally expressed by various views of human evolution. I specifically refer to our treasured and rediscovered ideas on spirituality. In order to build a better world, we must experience and integrate these into our lives as a living organic process. The evolution of consciousness is not something outside of ourselves that only a few humans can reach. True understanding does not come from a conceptual point of view or from mere information. True understanding comes from experience; there is a difference between knowing something and being something. Spiritual evolution involves being in the moment. We are all involved in the evolution of consciousness, whether we are aware of it or not. We do this all the time by the process of changing our thinking patterns, which creates new neuronal pathways. These come about through an organic process taking place in our brain. These pathways are created by repeating our thought patterns continuously; we do it constantly without even realizing it. In order to become conscious, one must start to create new patterns by connecting daily with one's wise inner self.

We all have the right to enjoy our lives and to be happy and fulfilled as we proceed on this journey called life. We do this by creating changes at an unconscious level; this allows us to experience higher levels of understanding. At times, it requires that we step out of our comfort zone—willingly or not.

In the Chinese language, the symbol that represents the word crisis is the same symbol used to represent the word opportunity. To embrace a perspective that allows you to understand the movement of life and everything that is, means to feel less threatened by sources of fear. It may be the end of a job, the threat of an illness, or the loss of a loved one; it may also be a business, a home, or a relationship. It's often a combination of several of these factors. When you are faced with difficult or challenging times, you must make the decision to act or react. It will define how any given situation is going to affect you. If the decision is free of emotional responses, such as fear, you stand a better chance of being able to use it to your good and that of others. Once you make the decision not to respond automatically without reflection, you open your heart and mind to an input flow that comes from your wise inner self. You will then experience a synchronicity of events that will move you forward in a positive direction. Most importantly, by maintaining a detached attitude, you can be more receptive to your unique, personal view of how you would prefer to live from this moment on.

By employing detachment in a positive way, you base your life on your desire to be true to your inner self and your authentic soul. Furthermore, you will be able to conceive a new life situation for yourself. It will match what is in harmony with you and with the world. It is that process that defines for us our lives' purposes.

Understanding Change

Change is all there is and it will always be the condition of our world. From the perspective of ancient wisdom, life is like a flowing river. We must understand that life is an organic process. The Rishis in India more than 3,000 years ago understood this process; their knowledge and visions are described in their scriptures, the Vedas. We can find many of the same principles in the Tao Te Ching from the Chinese; other ancient holy books also support this view of life. These teachings understood that the universe was an on-going process of creation and decay. Their vision is now partly shared by physicists who study the laws of creation and decay (Thermodynamics). Paradoxically our scientists (just as the sages) have not yet provided many of the answers to these age-old questions about life.

In our scientific understanding of the world, there is a point where we realize we do not have all the answers; therefore, it becomes necessary to accept the existence of paradox and ambiguity. By allowing ourselves to experience that same element of uncertainty in our own lives, we come to know first-hand that nothing is certain or lasts forever. The constant tension in the universe created by the interaction of creation and disintegration still remains a mystery to us on both a large and small scale.

If we add to this paradox the findings of quantum mechanics (science that studies the micro world of atoms and small pieces of matter) on the quantum field, we get to a point that all of existence is an empty vacuum or empty space. Moreover, this vacuum space is known to consist of energy and information, which then reveals that the space is not empty at all. I will expand more on what this has to do with us and what the energy and information mean in the next sub-chapter, as well as in Chapter 7.

Obviously, one can conclude from this that nothing ever really disintegrates, but merely changes form. This is a view shared by the ancient sages and other belief systems throughout the world. All matter has to undergo the process of decay, so its form is changing constantly. Although impossible for the average human mind to perceive, physicists are also aware that things can be in more than one place at a time. Through the Tao, we are given the message that we cannot understand everything there is to know, nor can we change the forces that operate at will; neither should we care. Its teachings encourage us to accept and rest peacefully with the uncertain nature of things.

It can be said that change is an ongoing mechanism or process. There is a major order for things, an order that we still do not fully understand. Moreover, we will come to live in peace only when we fully accept the necessity of uncertainty in our lives. Can you imagine your life with everything secure and certain, with everything under control, down to every single little detail? What if you never had to endure any adversity and uncertainty? Do you think that would be positive for you? Go inside yourself and imagine your life like that—all certain, secure, and risk free.

The philosopher Kierkegaard wrote, "One should not think slightingly of the paradoxical; for the paradox is the source of the thinker's passion, and the thinker without a paradox is like a lover without a feeling: a paltry mediocrity" (The Frankfurt School of Religion, p. 157). Could you then conceive your life without ambiguity?

Is All Energy in Motion, Even Our Thoughts?

Scientists recognize that nothing changes until something moves. When we bring these truths to a micro level, we see that there is constant movement; even in a field of nothing, something is always happening. Everything is changing; nothing has an established form or existence forever. Everything is therefore moving from here to there and from there to here. That movement is sometimes expressed as the wheel or circle of life—the cycle of creation and destruction. It only undergoes a transformation process in order to express itself in another form of existence within the wheel. These beliefs have long lived within the minds of many, especially those of Eastern cultures who also believe in reincarnation. Someone once asked the Dalai Lama about the big bang, to which he responded, "Which one?"

In recent times much emphasis has been placed on the power of thought and how we become what we think about. Although this is valuable insight, it has created an internal battle in many people. We cannot stop our thoughts from coming; they are like clouds in the sky (discussed in Chapter 4), but we can change the impact they have on us by simply observing those thoughts and deciding upon which of them to act.

Some thoughts have a more powerful energy and impact than others. So we need to learn what to do with these thoughts before they gain force and create feelings and emotions that are not aligned with our higher selves. No thought has ultimate control over us; we always have power over them, but we must get clear on the thought and its pattern. Thoughts are like clouds; sometimes they carry a lot of rain and the elements combine in a way to produce a perfect storm. However, we are the ones who make the decision as to how we handle it when we are in a storm. Remember, the calm is always waiting ahead.


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Table of Contents


Preface, vii,
Introduction, xi,
Chapter 1: Does Your Life Make Sense?, 1,
Chapter 2: We Are All One, 11,
Chapter 3: The Stories We Are Told, 20,
Chapter 4: The Process of Creation, 31,
Chapter 5: Get In Touch with Your Essence, 42,
Chapter 6: The Interview with Your Self, 57,
Chapter 7: Healing the Body, Mind, and Spirit, 73,
Appendix I: Table of Emotions, 85,
Appendix II: Table of Emotions Classified by Body, Mind and Soul, 86,
Appendix III: Table of Programmed Beliefs, 87,
Appendix IV: Example of How to Respond to the Interview, 89,
Appendix V: Example of How to Respond to an Express Version, 98,
Glossary, 101,
Bibliography, 109,

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