Intimate Relations: Exploring Indian Sexuality

Intimate Relations: Exploring Indian Sexuality

by Sudhir Kakar




Plumbing the hearts of women and men in India and exploring the relations they engage in, Sudhir Kakar gives us the first full-length study of Indian sexuality. His groundbreaking work explores India's sexual fantasies and ideals, the "unlit stage of desire where so much of our inner theater takes place."

Kakar's sources are primarily textual, celebrating the primacy of the story in Indian life. He practices a cultural psychology that distills the psyches of individuals from the literary products and social institutions of Indian culture. These include examples of lurid contemporary Hindi novels; folktales; Sanskrit, Tamil, and Hindi proverbs; hits of the Indian cinema; Gandhi's autobiography; interviews with women from the slums of Delhi; and case studies from his own psychoanalytic practice. His attentive readings of these varied narratives from a vivid portrait of sexual fantasies and realities, reflecting the universality of sexuality as well as cultural nuances specific to India.

Moving from genre to genre, Kakar offers a brilliant reading of verses from the Laws of Manu, the original source of Hindu religious laws, to uncover their psychological foundations—male terror of the female sexual appetite that shields itself by idealizing women's maternal role. Kakar also examines the psychosexual history of Gandhi at length, though his near-lifelong celibacy makes him an atypical subject. Gandhi's story is universal, Kakar says, because "we all wage war on our wants."

In India's lore and tradition, complex symbols abound—snakes that take the shape of sensual women or handsome men, celibates sleep with naked women, gods rape their daughters, and a goddess fries a king in oil. With the analyst's "third ear," Kakar listens, decodes, and translates the psychological longings that find expression in Indian sexual relations.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780226422800
Publisher: University of Chicago Press
Publication date: 03/28/1990
Edition description: 1
Pages: 172
Product dimensions: 5.86(w) x 8.80(h) x 0.76(d)

About the Author

Sudhir Kakar has a private practice in New Delhi and is a training analyst of the Indian Psychoanalytic Society and senior fellow of the Centre for Developing Societies. He has taught at Harvard, McGill, and the University of Vienna and teaches annually at the University of Chicago. His several previous books include The Inner World and Shamans, Mystics, and Doctors.

Table of Contents

1. Introduction
2. Scenes from Marriages
3. Lovers in the Dark
4. The Sex Wars
5. Husbands and Others
6. Gandhi and Women
7. Masculine/Feminine: A View from the Couch
8. An Ending

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