Intimate Treason: Healing the Trauma for Partners Confronting Sex Addiction

by Claudia Black, Cara Tripodi

Overview

A self-help manual for partners affected by sex addiction.

Those who act out sexually, whether through pornography, cybersex, prostitutes, voyeurism, and/or multiple affairs, leave their partners reeling in rage, incredible shame, and isolation. In this taboo-shattering and practical guidebook, partners affected by sex addiction can learn to develop healthy boundaries and make positive changes in their lives. The skills-building exercises presented are designed to help partners better understand the disease of addiction and how it is affecting their relationship. Intimate Treason provides a path to healing that gives voice to partners' truths as they travel on their own journey of recovery.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9781936290932
Publisher:	Central Recovery Press, LLC
Publication date:	09/11/2012
Pages:	200
Sales rank:	430,812
Product dimensions:	7.90(w) x 9.90(h) x 0.70(d)

About the Author

Claudia Black, PhD is a renowned addictions and codependency expert, author, and trainer internationally recognized for her pioneering and contemporary work with family systems and addictive disorders. Since the 1970s, Dr. Black’s work has encompassed the impact of addiction on young and adult children. She has offered models of intervention and treatment related to family violence, addiction, relapse, anger, depression, and women’s issues. Dr. Black designs and presents training workshops and seminars to professional audiences in the field of family service, mental health, addiction, and correctional services. She serves on the Advisory Board for the National Association of Children of Alcoholics and the Advisory Council of the Eluna Foundation.


Cara Tripodi, LCSW, CSAT-S, received her MSS from the Bryn Mawr School of Social Work and Social Research in 1991. She is a licensed social worker in the state of Pennsylvania, and since 2001 has been the Executive Director and owner of an outpatient treatment center specializing in sex addiction-STAR-Sexual Trauma and Recovery, Inc. in Wynnewood, PA. She has also been a workshop leader at the Pine Grove Behavioral Health program in Hattiesburg, MS. Pine Grove was founded by Patrick Carnes, and is one of the most renowned sex addiction treatment programs in the US.

Table of Contents

Introduction

Chapter I: Claiming Your Reality
1. Telling your Story
2. My Suspicions Realized
3. The Word
4. The Ripple Effect
5. Managing Triggers
6. Bottom Line: Non Negotiable Boundaries
7. Deciding Whom To Tell
8. Seeking Help Through Connections

Chapter II: Turning inward
1. Vision for Self
2. Living in Limbo
3. Defining Trauma Responses
4. Grief with Partners
5. My Losses
6. Letters to My Self
7. Feelings
8. Emotions The Body
9. Personal Strengths

Chapter III: My Part of the Dance

A. Emotional Problems
1. Emotional Regulation
2. Stepping out of Reaction Into Action
3. Unraveling the Myths of Control
4. My Relationship to Anger
5. The Myth of Perfectionism

B. Perception Problems
1. Coping or Defending: The Paradox of Denying Reality
2. Remove the Veil
3. Protecting the Illusion
4. Cloudy to Clear: Transforming Distorted Thinking
5. Magical Thinking: Challenging the Fantasy
6. Stepping Out of The Victim
7. Tolerating the Unacceptable

C. Behavioral Problems
1. My Risky Behaviors
2. Relationship & Love Addiction
3. Co-Morbidity

Chapter IV: Recognizing Childhood Influences
1. Family of Origin Influences
2. Abandonment Repeated
3. Trauma Repetition
4. Family Tree
5. Family of Origin Feelings
6. Family of Origin Needs
7. Trust: Trusting Own Perception
8. Family of Origin Boundaries
9. Willingness to Explore More

Chapter V: Taking Charge of Your Own Life
1. Disclosure
2. Boundaries
3. Decision to Stay or Leave
4. Communication
5. Arrested Grief
6. Integrating Sexuality Back into the Relationship: Healthy Sexuality
7. Children
8. Healthy Intimacy Begins to be Explored

Chapter VI: Moving Forward
1. Forgiveness pieces
2. Spirituality
3. Recovery plans
4. Living Day-to-Day: Goals for Myself: Self-care Daily Sheet