It is in families that people have the biggest chance to be threatened, slapped, beaten, molested, sexually abused or murdered. The authors, both systemic therapists, address the dynamics of intimacy and violence in family relations. In this book, they integrate theory and clinical practice that captures the central themes around violence in families. They deal with the dynamics of violence from different perspectives. Issues of power, gender, shame, revenge and politics are addressed. When violent behavior has ceased, revenge feelings of the victim can be the starting point for a new cycle of violence. In this book, revenge rituals are suggested to negotiate this phase. The authors present clearly how harmful it is for children to grow up in a violent home. They also outline the possible harm to psychotherapists themselves, in a chapter that deals with the consequences for psychotherapists that work frequently with violent cases. Burn out and symptoms of secondary traumatization are described, as well as possible methods to prevent this. A special chapter by a guest author deals with the treatment of violent men.
About the Author
Martine Groen is a clinical psychologist and psychotherapist, who has specialized in the effects of violence and trauma in families. She is also a trainer, consultant, coach and mediator in non-profit organizations. She has been consulting and training traumatized women, families and organizations from 1995 to 2005 in former Yougaslavia. She took part in a conflict-resolutions scheme between various organizations in Bosnia. She has published several books on prostitution, intimate war, domestic violence, shame and violence.
Justine van Lawick is a Clinical Psychologist and registered Psychotherapist. She specialized in Systemic Therapy. From 1975 on she worked as a Family Therapist in adult psychiatry and child psychiatry. In 1984 she was co-founder of the LORENTZHUIS, centre for systemic therapies, training and consultation in Haarlem, the Netherlands. She is an experienced trainer in the Netherlands and abroad. She edited and published many papers and books. She became a specialist in systemic work with violence problems in families. Together with Martine Groen, she developed a systemic model for conjoint work with family violence. This model is successfully used in many centres in the Netherlands and Belgium.
Table of Contents
1 Home and hotbed
2 Together you will progress
3 The downward spiral of violence between partners
4 From ill-behaviour to relational behaviour
5 The coherence between shame and violence
6 Rituals of vengeance
7 The reproduction of violence
8 Of young rulers and terror at home
10 The therapist as a person
11 Apprehensive heroes