Inviting a Monkey to Tea: Befriending Your Mind and Discovering Lasting Contentment

Inviting a Monkey to Tea: Befriending Your Mind and Discovering Lasting Contentment

by Nancy Colier


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ISBN-13: 9781935387282
Publisher: Hohm Press
Publication date: 10/01/2012
Pages: 192
Product dimensions: 5.62(w) x 8.32(h) x 0.51(d)

About the Author

Nancy Colier is a psychotherapist, interfaith minister, author and public speaker. A long time student of eastern spirituality, Nancy also spent 20 years as a nationally recognized, top-level equestrian, and has vast training in performance psychology and flow states. Her writing has been featured in numerous publications. She writes a regular blog for The Huffington Post and offers talks and workshops regularly. Nancy lives in Manhattan with her husband, two daughters, and a dog and cat.

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I offer this book as a road map of sorts, from chasing happiness to discovering lasting contentment. My hope is that the experience of reading the book will serve as a microcosm of the larger change process I describe, that is-from believing your mind and what it tells you, to loving your mind even if you don't believe it, to being well regardless of whatever mischief your mind is up to. My wish is that your sense of who you actually are will shift and open as the pages turn, and that you will come to know yourself, not just as the mind's contents, but as infinite and loving awareness itself.

We spend our lives trying to get to some imaginary there, where happiness awaits. What we don't know how to do is to get to here, where we are and where well-being and contentment live. We discover well-being when we shift the direction of our glance toward this moment and what is actually here. The secret to well-being is counter-intuitive: allow whatever is happening inside you to happen. Don't do anything with it. Feel what you are feeling, hear what you are thinking, experience what you are experiencing. Let what is moving though you move through without changing it, judging it, or identifying with its contents. Make no links, create no narrative between what you are experiencing. When you let go of achieving a particular outcome with your experience and meet your experience, as it is, you will be well. You will uncover the place that relies on nothing and no one and is inherently ours and always available.

In truth, we have been chasing raindrops oblivious to the fact that we are already swimming in an ocean of well-being. Well-being is here, awaiting our presence. It is we who turn away from it, believing that the raindrops are our best hope. This book is about learning to shift the direction of our journey, from out and away from to into and toward ourselves, into what is actually happening here, now, our true nature. Well-being can only flourish within our own presence in what is. Throughout these pages, I invite you into a state of being that is deeper than happiness, one that can support us and keep us eternally okay.

Table of Contents

Introduction xiii

Part 1 Happiness vs. Well-Being 1

Chapter 1 Addicted to Happiness 3

Chapter 2 Taking Care of Ourselves 19

Chapter 3 Fear of Ourselves 38

Chapter 4 Fear of What Is 56

Chapter 5 Well-Being: A Relationship with Ourselves 71

Part 2 Beyond Well-Being 79

Chapter 6 Un-Sticking from Ourselves 81

Chapter 7 Staying Here Now 109

Chapter 8 The Practice of Now 116

Chapter 9 Melting Into Now 133

Chapter 10 Living As Awareness 137

Chapter 11 Pointers 141

Resources 147

Endnotes 149

Index 150

Contact Information 154

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