It's Not Just You: Freeing Women to Talk about Sexual Sin and Fight It Well

It's Not Just You: Freeing Women to Talk about Sexual Sin and Fight It Well

by Ashley Chesnut


View All Available Formats & Editions
Choose Expedited Shipping at checkout for delivery by Wednesday, December 1


There's no way other women are struggling sexually like I am. Who could I even talk to about this? Isn't this a guy's issue?

For too long, Christian women have assumed they’re outliers in their sexual struggles. This assumption (along with shame) often keeps them silent, leaving them to face the battle all by themselves. But if any of this sounds familiar, you’re not the only one. Whether your struggles take the form of masturbation, pornography, same sex attraction, or sexual fantasies, it’s not just you. These temptations are common not only for men in the church, but many women, too.  
So how do we fight against sexual sin as women? What do we do when there’s a disconnect between what the Bible says and how we live and feel? Or, if we lead a woman struggling in this way, how do we aid her in the battle? Written from the trenches of ministering to young women, young adult minister Ashley Chesnut explores why sexual sin is “sin” in the first place, what sex really is, and how Scripture speaks into topics like masturbation, oral sex, and sex robots—even when those words aren’t found in the Bible.
God has already won the war against sin, and as you examine His Word along with Ashley, you’ll be equipped to battle against sexual sin and to aid other sisters in the fight.
No, it’s not just you. And yes, you can take steps toward victory. Right now.

Related collections and offers

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781087713465
Publisher: B&H Publishing Group
Publication date: 08/03/2021
Pages: 272
Sales rank: 453,245
Product dimensions: 5.40(w) x 8.40(h) x 0.90(d)

About the Author

Ashley Chesnut serves as the Associate Young Adult Minister at The Church at Brook Hills in Birmingham, Alabama. She has a Master of Divinity from Beeson Divinity School and a Certificate of Biblical Counseling from Southeastern Baptist Theological Seminary. While Ashley has a passion for discipling young women, she also loves her city and has written a children’s book about it called Down in the Ham: A Child’s Guide to Downtown Birmingham. When she's not at the church or meeting with girls, you can probably find her at the farmer's market or trying some new local restaurant. 

Table of Contents

Part I How We Got Here: Why Our Sexuality Is Broken

Introduction 1

Chapter 1 Our Sexual Brokenness 7

Chapter 2 Why We're Broken: Part 1 15

Our Sinfulness and Our Wiring

Chapter 3 Why We're Broken: Part 2 29

Our Woundedness and Our Enemy

Part 2 God's Design for Sex

Chapter 4 The God Who Designed Us 39

Chapter 5 Why Sexual Sin is Sin: Sex is Heterosexual 51


Chapter 6 Why Sexual Sin Is Sin: Sex Is Relational 61

Polygamy, Masturbation, Sexual Fantasy, Erotica, Bestiality, Sexbots, Sex Toys, Sexual Fetishes, and BDSM

Chapter 7 Why Sexual Sin Is Sin: Sex Is Covenantal 81

Divorce, Remarriage, Singleness, How Far Is Too Far, Cohabitation, Oral Sex, and Pornography

Chapter 8 Why Sexual Sin Is Sin: Sex Is Fruitful 97

Childlessness, Birth Control, and Abortion

Chapter 9 Why Sexual Sin Is Sin: Sex Is Selfless 107

Conjugal Rights, Marital Rape, AR/VR Relationships, and What We Wear

Chapter 10 Why Sexual Sin Is Sin: Sex Is Symbolic 121

Submission, Polyamorous Relationships, and Swinging

Part 3 How to Fight Against Sexual Sin

Chapter 11 How to Identify the Roots of Your Sexual Struggles 129

Chapter 12 Action Steps for Fighting Sin 143

Chapter 13 How to Go from Emotionally Unhealthy to Healthy 157

Chapter 14 How to Walk Alongside Others in the Battle 173

Chapter 15 How God Heals Our Brokenness 185


Appendix A A Tool for Discerning If a Sexual Act Is Sinful 201

Appendix B A Word on Sex Addiction 205

Appendix C A Word on Sexual Abuse 223

Appendix D A Word on Trauma 229

Acknowledgments 251

Notes 253

Customer Reviews