It's Not My Fault.: Self Discovery & Admission

It's Not My Fault.: Self Discovery & Admission

by Wendi Bear

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ISBN-13: 9780988899728
Publisher: Also I Hate Donuts
Publication date: 02/14/2013
Sold by: Barnes & Noble
Format: NOOK Book
Pages: 225
File size: 737 KB

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It's Not My Fault: Self Discovery & Admission 4.1 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 13 reviews.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Loved it! I laughed, I cried, I was disgusted! Lol! There is something in here for Everyone! Definitely a must read!! 
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I was given a copy of this book by the author in exchange for an honest review, as an FYI. I have to preface this by saying that I couldn't finish the book. I got about 20% through it on my Kindle, and it's just a little bit too intense for me. Like reading about a porn star's relationships. I wouldn't leave a review, but I think I've gotten the gist of the book - correct me if I'm wrong, though! The book is separated into a *bunch* of short stories - like diary entries, almost. They tell of encounters with past love interests, of silly to poor decisions, of crazy drunk shenanigans. Like the synopsis says, it's a dirty book, which you'll either love or hate. I think taking it slow and reading one to two of the stories max is how I should've gone about reading this, because story after story of it gets to be too much. And then, I start spacing out/not really reading. There were things I liked about it.  I giggled every time a story was ended with a particular word. There's a bit early on involving breast milk cannons (which makes no sense unless you read it). The writing itself is really good, I think I only remember two problems with words that shouldn't have been there or needed a tweak to work. And the naming of the guys in it, or rather the nicknames, is comical. I plan to pick it up again in the future to read a little more. I just need a break from it to go back to happy stories. I'll update my review/shelving when I do so. I may update the rating, too; I just can't give 4 or 5 stars to a book that doesn't grab me. While I can't say I'd recommend the book to any of my friends, that's because they have similar tastes in this respect. If you're looking for something raunchy and wannabe porn star-esque, pick it up.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
As a gal who loves the shocking and absurd, I was thoroughly entertained throughout the entirety of this book! I am so happy to have gotten the opportunity to read it at this point in my life. Wendi has put a fire back into me to start writing again and also to go out and do something naughty! I have done neither in quite some time..Please write a sequel! I am out of things to read!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Wow.  I've never felt so many conflicting emotions from the contents of a single page before.  Something funny gets sideswiped by something tragic, something romantic gets destroyed by something painful.  Even the steamy sex gets farted on more than once.  This is not a portrait of an author, it is about a real woman with real troubles compounded by an unforgiving environment and bad influences.  I was blown away by the honesty and transparent storytelling, nothing was left out unless she just forgot.  If you have an issue with vulgar language, or just don't like sex or fun, stay away. If you have an open and adventurous mind you will scarcely put this confession down.  
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I expected a humorous, self-deprecating, crude, but insightful look at the author's life. It certainly is honest - the author shared very intimate and candid moments of her life. But it was far too crude for my taste and, while there were humorous moments, I really didn't find it very funny at all. Instead, I found myself feeling sorry for her or wondering why she would get herself into some of these situations (or not get herself into them in the first place!). After all the crazy situations she describes in the book, it didn't seem like she really learned from them or grew. It was just a continuous stream of bad experiences with no real point to it.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I received a free copy of the eBook in exchange for a review. This book was complete trash. It is not even close to what I normally read. When I started reading it, I thought I was wasting my time. That being said, the more I read, the more I enjoyed it. Very funny and entertaining trash. :)
bex921 More than 1 year ago
This book is clearly not intended for everyone and it can certainly be considered offensive, but the author makes that clear from the start. Bear begins with a text conversation between two people who are casually having sex. The story turns to the Breast Milk Olympics between two women who had just given birth. It is a rather bizarre story, but she makes it funny. You won't believe me unless you read it, but it's entertaining. Some of the ideas that are expressed are quite original and Bear is able to make the reader laugh by her original views on life. "When my big day arrived, I was happier than a homeless man who'd found a twenty." (28)  I do have to say that some of the stories were completely repulsive, but some were just hysterical.   I loved the story about bikini waxing and the story about online dating. "I want you to know, men do not read your profile. Nor have they any clue what you are really looking for. Much like a small child, they only look at the pictures." (88) I could see that being true, for sure. I could relate to some of the content in the story about the cruise ship.  I understand her about the casino and that the comedy shows are not funny. Most of them are just vulgar. Side note: vulgar does not equal funny. The humor needs to carry the story, not the vulgarity. Bear does a good job with balancing the two. Bear puts herself down a lot, possibly for laughs, possibly to defend her actions by stating that she knows that she isn't perfect and has made some dumb decisions. People can relate to that. The author also had put a disclaimer in the beginning of the book stating that it is fictional, but the reader clearly knows that it had to be (somewhat, at least) based on personal stories/experience. "That's when it happened" (or something close to that) was a little overused, but clearly, the author was trying to make the reader continue reading, and it worked. The language was a bit harsh but it goes with the genre. I kind of knew what I was getting into before reading the book. However, I find it difficult to respect someone who drops her kid(s) off at their grandparents' house or a friends' house - last minute - just so she can go out (all night) with a guy she hasn't known for long at all. I know it was supposed to be humorous when she would say things like, "I did what any (insert an insulting remark about herself) would do..." But it became rather repetitive at times, even if it was meant for emphasis. The author/main character had a difficult childhood, to which I could not relate. I suppose she is trying to make the best of her life and not base it solely on how she was raised. And look at her now with a published book and lots of fans.  Overall, it is a funny (but vulgar) book intended for entertainment, which ultimately was successful. Also, I hate donuts, too.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Wendi Bear: It’s Not My Fault Life brings us many unique and different situations. It’s how we handle them, carry ourselves and work through the difficult times that make us stronger, smarter and hopefully wiser. But, sometimes the narrator shares many experiences with readers that many might find humorous, sad, and fearful and some wondering why she managed to remain in relationships that would create a downward spiral and others that would prove disastrous. Throughout the book we hear her voice as she meets many different men, describes her encounters with them and then recreates many of the intimate times they spend together making the reader wonder why such a bright, intelligent and creative young woman would even think to associate with any one of these men. Love comes to those who work at it and even then it might not last forever. Hearing the narrator’s voice as she describes her up and down relationship with three men that stand out the most, Donut, Brutus and Redbeard, each man appears to have his own agenda in mind when it comes to her. Each man sets the limits in their relationship and each man puts the brakes one when things get too serious. The mother of two children who need her guidance and whom she provides for should take a quick look in the mirror and realize that there is more to her than what others are seeing or meets the eye. From her experience getting a Boob Job, the end result not so successful to dealing with a man named Butterball, you wonder about what she was thinking. Acceptance, fitting in, feeling loved and wanting someone she can count on in her life is what I think she is fighting and hoping for. Going to cosmetology school, becoming a hair dresser a great start but drinking her way through many of her days and nights more than just destructive and definitely not the way to go to succeed. The chapter that really hits real hard is the one with Cliff where she was spending her birthday with him and the way he treated her and the fact she forgave him makes you realize just how much she wanted to be loved and who did not really matter. Cliff disappeared many times and returned when he felt like it. He even cheated on her while they were away. Another chapter that was quite telling and describes her relationship or lack of one with her parents is the one where her mother wants her to ask the Reverend of the Church she attends for money to pay their rent. This chapter you have to read for yourself to learn just how this impacted her as a young child and how much she lost at the end. The narrator has a heart of gold when it comes to anyone hurt or any animal in need of help. Read Tiny the Turkey and find out what happens when she sees an injured dog. We learn more about Donut and his attitude towards her, her willingness to bend over more than just backwards to keep him in her life and in his bed. One story that hits hard deals with a school performance that her mother would not attend and her feelings about not getting picked for the Holiday Hoedown. Relating that to an event in the present we learn that not only did her mother let her down she almost did the same to her son, PJ. Learning more about this woman we find that she is consumed with her needs, her feelings and finds it necessary to have the support of any man in her life just to feel wanted and satisfied. Girl friends come and go, partying, getting drunk, cocaine and avoiding many of the real issues in life, the main character seems bent on losing more than just the battle with alcohol and finding the right mate but possibly the connection with her children that most parents need and want. Having no source of money, Donut out of her life, Redbeard moving on, the narrator often resort to getting drunk, taking jobs in different clubs and finding herself dealing with men most of us would steer clear of. Added in she relates how she got started at the age of fourteen, met Redbeard, her life on the streets for two years, her estrangement from her parents and an operation that changed her life. A mother that never really showed any signs of love or support and a father who refused to nurture his daughter, it seems as if she is and was bent on a road of self-destruction trying to prove she needs no one yet wanting anyone. The flashbacks help the reader understand the life, the rationale behind her thoughts, movements and why she often did things without giving any thought to the consequences. It’s My Fault: Just whom did she blame? Which men would she have been better off without and why was she so fixated with Donut? He is definitely one Donut that should remain on the baker’s shelf or in the donut box untouched. A family cruise that was more like a nightmare. Meeting a man named Pepe and stealing him from a friend. Abused, betrayed, belittled, insulted and yet she keeps coming back for more and forgiving the wrong people for whom she should stay away from. A brother who gave his family a scare and a situation that should have brought them together. Others could serve a young woman who did not seem to really care about herself as a person but only her childish needs, which she felt. Wait until you read the craziest things she ever did and where! From being with Red, Redbeard, Laverne, Shirley, Pepe and many others the journey is long, hard, and difficult and definitely would fill many bottles, glasses, liquor stores and jugs with tons of whiskey, vodka and much more. So, where is she now and who is her main partner? Read the Epilogue, read the last chapter and find out whether she learned anything from her own thoughts, experiences and friends. This is one book that will either make you laugh, make you wonder why someone that has something going for her would allow herself to be used and abused by anyone and would not realize that some donuts belong in the boxes with the powdery sugar and others need to be permanently tossed. Filled with real life experiences that Wendi Bear shares with readers from her own blog and with the help of some great friends. It’s Not My Fault if you like or dislike this book but you’d be missing something quite unique if you don’t read it. Fran Lewis: Reviewer
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Wild alcohol-fueled sex. Check. Outrageous drunken escapades ending in sex. Check. Sex + alcohol = this book. This realistic first person confessional takes you under the covers and beyond. You feel as though you're reading someone's nasty diary. you feel a little dirty yourself for continuing to read, but like a car accident unfolding in front of you, you can't not look. That is its strength. You feel for the main character (whose name is *****). Some of the stories make you want to hug her, some make you want to shake her, and some make you want to barf. Or, all too often, all three at once.   Though the author disclaims that this is a memoir, even insulting the reader for wanting to read "this piece of trash," it feels personal. The incidents, people (sleezos and friends) and memories/feelings of the main character are rendered very realistically and believably. Warts and all!   What's missing? Sober reflection, compassion -- both for herself and the world around her, self-knowledge, plot, oh, and the kids. Yes, children. They are mainly referred to as annoyances who must be babysat while she cavorts. The humor isn't really missing, as she tends to find most everything kind of funny, but would be a whole lot funnier after a bottle or two of Pinot Grigio. If you like watching "Jerseylicious" you will love this book. It takes drunken drama to a whole other level. 
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Wow. So the concept of a scandalous sexy tell-all is nothing new, and no major new ground is broken with Wendi Bear's It's Not My Fault, but what surprises is how deftly and hilariously the sordid accounts are shared, without the slightest hint of irony or shame - it's the sort of conversation you have with your own wanton friend, sitting across from your local dive bar as another trashy, sticky, sometimes even disgusting account is shared over tequila shots. What's also quite remarkable about this book is the clear affection Bear has towards some of the characters and situations written about, even when the stories veer towards the depraved.  Sexual partners are written about like old road trips - yeah the tire blew out, but what a view of the desert.  It's a singular experience to find yourself alternately laughing maniacally in near-disbelief at some of the situations written about, then alternately smiling as you recall your own not-so-successful attempts at hooking up, or having drunk sex, or being the best judge of character.  This is a memoir about the sexual creature in all of us, told warts and all (literally), and although few of us can account to having had quite the libertine youth that Bear has had (few of us would dare!), we've all been drunk, we've all been careless, we've all been reckless and out of our element, and it's refreshing to have these phenomena reflected on with a buzz and a joy and a gleefully naughty nostalgia with which they are rarely written.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This book is Amazing. You will laugh, cry, be shocked, maybe disgusted, possibly aroused. Did I already mention you will be shocked by the stories you will read? "It's not my fault" is a compilation of short stories that will leave you speechless. It's sexy and twisted. I loved every page! This author is hilarious! Can't wait to read another book by Wendi Bear. If us readers are lucky, maybe she will consider stand up too. A definite must-read!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Oh, my. What should one expect from a book whose author describes it as trash, garbage, and urges the reader to recycle on the back cover? Most of the vignettes in Wendi Bear's "It's Not My Fault" are shockingly funny, and Bear does a good job of using the one as a means of accomplishing the other. Yet, like the theater's twin masks, there is a subtle undercurrent of tragedy in the humor. Not enough to be a buzz-kill; and not always obvious, either. But it underlies the stories nonetheless. What appears as less-than-perfect editing adds sincerity to the first-person narratives, which is noteworthy as the author states these are not autobiographical. INMF is not for everyone. But for those whose sensibilities are not particularly delicate, it is an entertaining read.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago